A Case Study of College Students' Interpersonal Psychology Zhang Xiao is an introverted freshman. He has never lived in school. He has lived in his own room since he was a child. After entering the university, he lived with seven classmates. He grew up in favorable environment. What he doesn't like is his roommate? Not good? Hygienic habits, and I don't like their casual work and rest system, especially their conversation. In short, no one is pleasing to the eye. Because I am introverted, I am not good at communicating with others and look down on those classmates, so I reduced my communication with my classmates and went alone. After a long time, he found that the students in the dormitory were talking and laughing, going in and out together. As if he didn't exist, he began to feel lost and his loneliness rose. He had many ideas to actively interact with them, but they all backfired. Back in the dormitory, he always felt that his classmates were talking about him, commenting on him and whispering to each other. He felt that he couldn't stand it. He thought about changing the dormitory, but it was not approved.
In order not to associate with them, he seldom goes back to the dormitory, only when he sleeps. Even if he avoided them like this, it didn't seem to reduce their comments and dissatisfaction with himself. He began to lose sleep, his appetite decreased, his mental state became worse and worse, and his body became thin sharply. In the dormitory, he talked less and less, and even his laughter was rarely heard. He felt that the efficiency of class was getting worse and worse, and finally he fell ill. During the hospitalization, the students in the dormitory took turns to stay by the bed, and he was shocked to see those students who were usually disgusted with him busy taking care of him and sending water to feed him, as if his family were ill. He told them his inner pain and loneliness, and only then did he know that everything was his own? Think? When he came out, his classmates just felt that he didn't want to associate with them, and didn't know that this incident caused such a big shock in his heart.
1, depression factors are significantly related to social avoidance and social distress. In college students' psychological counseling, we often meet high school students.
2. Cases with low communication motivation and communication level, especially those with social phobia, are mostly students with high scores of depression factors. Improving social cognition, increasing communication frequency and cultivating communication ability are effective measures to reduce depression, which is also the reason why group counseling has a remarkable effect on improving communication barriers and improving mental health.
3. The scores of anxiety factors are significantly related to social avoidance and social distress. College students with high anxiety often show avoidant social attitudes and behaviors or have anxious emotional experiences. On the contrary, social avoidance and distress are often important causes of anxiety, and they interact with each other.
4. The scores of terrorist factors are significantly related to social avoidance and social distress. In interpersonal communication, students with high scores of terrorist factors often show social avoidance. Even if they have to, they often feel distressed, because in communication, they often show inferiority and lack of self-confidence, so they don't feel the fun of interpersonal communication, try their best to avoid interpersonal communication, and lack the experience and skills of successful interpersonal communication. Therefore, their ability to deal with problems in communication is not fully trained.
5. The paranoid factor score is significantly related to social avoidance and social distress. The paranoid factor score is the second factor in the positive ranking of this measurement score, indicating that college students have a serious paranoid tendency. In interpersonal communication, paranoid college students tend to be narrow-minded, self-centered, lack of objective evaluation and understanding of other people's psychological state and characteristics, and stick to their own opinions, which not only affects the effect of interpersonal communication, but also plays an obvious negative role in mental health. So paranoia is an important factor to measure a person's mental health level.
6. In this survey, hostile factors are not significantly related to social avoidance and social distress, which is not in line with our expectations. In consulting practice, we naturally think that students with high scores of hostile factors will inevitably have a social avoidance attitude and have more social distress, which may be related to our sample selection. However, in the correlation comparison between interpersonal trust and scl-90 score, interpersonal trust is significantly related to hostility, and students with low interpersonal trust have obvious hostility tendency. This shows that the factors affecting interpersonal communication and mental health are complex and interactive.
7. In this survey, the scores of interpersonal sensitivity factors are not significantly related to social avoidance and social distress, which is also unexpected. Careful analysis of the reasons may be due to their low sensitivity to interpersonal relationships, which makes them adopt a natural attitude in interpersonal communication, do not have too many unrealistic expectations and plans for interpersonal communication, rarely show deliberate avoidance and acceptance of social interaction, and also reduce the distress caused by social interaction. In psychological counseling, I have come into contact with many cases of interpersonal problems caused by negative information hints in college students' interpersonal communication.
From the results of relevant comparative studies, we can see that the mental health level of college students is closely related to the level of interpersonal communication. As many cases we face in college students' mental health education and interpersonal counseling reflect, the interpersonal communication of college students with mental health is relatively normal, and abnormal interpersonal communication is the key factor leading to the low or declining level of mental health, especially when college students are in psychological second time? Weaning? At this stage, interpersonal communication is almost the first topic that all students face after entering the university, and it is also a big problem. Therefore, the psychological problems of freshmen are mostly related to interpersonal communication, which will last until the second day of junior high school, and will improve with the increase of grade after the third day. Relatively speaking, the mental health level of senior college students is higher than that of junior college students.
Case analysis of college students' interpersonal psychology II. Good interpersonal communication can make college students become tolerant, understanding and trusting, which is a prerequisite for mental health. A large number of facts show that whether the mind is broad and inclusive is directly related to the harmony of college students' interpersonal communication. Only good interpersonal communication can make college students tolerate, understand and trust people in their hearts. In many years of psychological counseling practice, I have come into contact with many examples of narrow-mindedness caused by uncoordinated interpersonal communication, and some college students have formed a vicious circle for this, which makes people very sad.
Xiao Li comes from the north and studies in a provincial university in the south. Before he left, his father, who was in charge of personnel in an enterprise, repeatedly warned his son that you should get on well with the students in the dormitory first in college, so that your living environment will be happy and you will feel a sense of belonging after four years of college. After entering the school, Xiao Li always told his father that there must be some truth. However, due to the far difference in love concept with a roommate's southern classmate, they often bicker, which leads to mutual dissatisfaction, mutual contempt and contradictions from time to time. In Xiao Li's words, this southern classmate is better at dealing with interpersonal relationships than himself. In the end, other students in his roommate stood on their opposite side, and the students in their dormitory began to get nervous, and others didn't understand him. I am also full of resentment and distrust towards them, followed by suspicion and disgust. As long as there are two classmates whispering in front of me, I feel that they are speaking ill of themselves, and they are very depressed; However, this southern classmate seems to be very happy all day. Seeing all this, Xiao Li felt helpless and sad at the same time. His mind began to narrow, and he once had the idea of dropping out of school.
From the comparison between Xiao Li and her southern classmates, we can see that interpersonal communication has an important influence on college students' mental health. Xiao Li's heart is full of suspicion, jealousy and distrust of others because of the tension of interpersonal communication. After tutoring Xiao Li's interpersonal skills and art, Xiao Li began to be more tolerant of southern students, and tried to change the relationship with other students in the dormitory, and slowly saw a bright smile on Xiao Li's face.
Case analysis of college students' interpersonal psychology III. Good interpersonal communication enables college students to learn to share, accept and pay, which is the basic psychological condition of mental health. Not sharing is a negative quality that is easy to form under the special growth background of college students in this area, and it is also an important reason for their frustration in interpersonal communication. Although the results of this mental health level measurement show that the health level of only children is higher than that of non-only children, we can clearly feel the problems of sharing in education of this generation of teenagers. Good interpersonal communication can make college students fully experience and enjoy the happiness brought by their communication partners in a benign interpersonal atmosphere, and they are willing to share their own happiness with them, and then learn to share and experience the pain of their communication partners, and generate empathy and a sense of * * *, actively helping their communication partners solve problems and regain lost happiness. Sharing is a very important quality, especially for the development of mental health. In Professor Fan Fumin's group consultation, sharing is the first training project, the purpose of which is to let everyone who participates in group activities experience the psychological feeling of sharing and learn to share. So as to achieve psychological compatibility between people and solve mental health problems in a mutual way.
Acceptance and giving are a pair of contradictory and unified psychological qualities and behaviors in interpersonal communication. Because everyone lives in a certain group, it is bound to have various forms of contact with people in the group. In this process, we can't live without the contribution of others. It is also in this process of acceptance and contribution that we feel the happiness of helping and being helped, and the true meaning of doing things and being a man. College students are a special group, who grow up in acceptance, don't know or rarely give, and can't feel the pleasure of giving, which is obvious in interpersonal communication? Self-centered? , so that interpersonal relationships are destroyed, and mental health is also greatly affected. Therefore, learning to accept and pay is conducive to the establishment of good interpersonal relationships. On the contrary, good interpersonal communication can make college students experience the happiness of accepting and giving, and develop good psychological quality of accepting and giving.
Lan Feng is a junior and a student cadre. His academic performance is excellent, but his interpersonal relationship is tense. Not only does he not get along well with his classmates in the dormitory, but even many students in the class can't communicate normally. In the eyes of his classmates, he is an arrogant person, which is really difficult to approach. Although he is excellent, he dare not compliment others. Lan Feng also has a headache for this. As long as he is responsible for the activities, the students seem to deliberately not participate, as if deliberately doing the right thing with him, and his long-standing principle of being a man is: go your own way and do everything in Dont Ask For Help. He hardly accepts others' help and thinks he has no obligation to help others. His grades are good, but whenever his classmates ask him for advice, he either says he doesn't know, or taunts others after giving a speech, sometimes adding? Please listen carefully in class and don't ask me such a simple question next time. ? After a long time, students are reluctant to associate with him, and interpersonal relationships are getting worse and worse. Lan Feng is also very dissatisfied with her interpersonal relationship. He feels lonely and has no sense of belonging. Sometimes loneliness suffocates him. He is anxious and even afraid, but he doesn't know how to improve the present situation. Because he himself is thinking: What's wrong with me?