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I have always been an introverted person. They often have their own opinions on things and never take the initiative to cater to the public. In this way, many times, it may seem less gregarious. Or, unlike most people around you, not so much. Personally, I think it's nothing. People, with a little thought, will not be too gregarious anywhere.

However, a lovely classmate once said to me, "People like you will never succeed." I was hehe then. On the one hand, I was surprised by her ignorance and narrowness. On the one hand, sympathy and her secularity and too secularity. I smiled and said to her, "You see, the one who laughs last must be the one who insists on being himself."

Actually, that's just an expression. But until now, I suddenly realized that this has always been my internalized values.

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In Mexico, there is such a fable. A group of people hurried on, and suddenly, a person stopped. The people next to you are very strange: why don't you go? The person who stopped smiled: I walked too fast and my soul fell behind. I must wait for it.

In fact, the moral of this fable is to be yourself. Don't go too far and too fast, and forget why you started, and forget yourself, the original appearance.

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I always remember that I was a bear when I was young. When I was a child, I would automatically block out the trivial matters of Zhang's parents and Li's family, because I knew I had more important things to do, although I didn't know what I was going to do at that time.

When I get older, my family begins to instill "workplace experience" such as how to have a good relationship with leaders, how to give gifts to leaders, and how to get along with colleagues. I thought it went in one ear and out the other. Because I vaguely know how an awesome person can spend too much energy on such a thing. Probably only those incompetent people will regard these as the pursuit of life. (Actually, I'll know when I work later. It's ok to pay proper attention to such a thing. People should always pursue noble things. )

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Later, I went to college, (now think about it, it was really simple at that time), with a good wish for the world. And after graduation, I found out, mom, the gap between reality and what we think is too big!

Now I have been in this society for more than three years, and the vat of society has dyed me colorful. I learned to take part in accidental amusement, and sometimes I had to do something perfunctory, and sometimes I even had to do something against my will.

But I know that my heart has not changed.

As Zou Zhendong, a professor at Xiamen University, said, "In universities, among the 100 people, 99 are people who look up at the sky. It's rare for a person to look down. This man is an outstanding man. Once they graduate from school, 99 people look down on it-on the one hand, there is fierce competition, on the other hand, there are many temptations. After two slaps, you will naturally know how to face the reality without teaching you-it is rare to look up at the sky alone. He is either crazy or outstanding! " Professor Zou said: "Keep your posture for 30 years as a college major, and you will win."

What a coincidence, in fact, this is exactly what I have been insisting on. It's been three years now, and it feels good.

I'm still that sensitive teenager. Just like when I was young.

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However, in reality, I have seen too many examples of being overwhelmed by reality and being knocked down by temptation. In the cruel and cold reality, many people have been polished off their edges and dreams, and gradually become a screw on a huge social machine, spinning constantly, just like ants on hot bricks, as if the world would collapse as soon as they stopped. How pathetic!

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Seeing this, maybe you will scold me, and you will only be cynical. You said, "I have to live." Be yourself? Please, don't be silly. This is the social environment. You will be eliminated if you don't adapt to the environment! Natural selection, survival of the fittest Do you understand? "

Hey, that's the point.

Is there a contradiction between being yourself and adapting to the environment?

Of course not!

On the one hand, being yourself doesn't mean that you don't adapt to the environment and oppose others everywhere (then you must be very unhappy), but don't forget your persistence while adapting to the environment.

The environment can adapt and things can be done, but you must have one sentence in your heart, and that is the eternal spirit of dialectical criticism. Don't go with the flow. You know, what most people in this world think is not necessarily right.

On the other hand, if you find yourself really unable to adapt to this environment, it's no big deal. Change it. If you can't change it, leave it alone and change to a good environment you like.

I'm the kind of person who can't adapt to the environment very well. I'm better at changing the environment, changing the environment. (so cheap)

Some environments don't need to adapt, just change.

When I was a freshman, I was assigned to a dormitory of ten people at first. The topic that those lovely friends discuss all night is always online games. I miss it. How can I have feelings for someone who doesn't play games? It seems so inappropriate that I can't get in a word if I want to. What do we do? Do I have to learn how to play games in order to adapt to the environment?

I'm not that boring. I want to do a lot: there are still many books to read and many places to go. So, after my freshman year, I resolutely changed my dormitory. It is a "mixed bed", which is available in all majors from freshman to senior. The buddy in the lower berth is studying fashion design. It's interesting to watch him draw on his stomach every day, and I accidentally learned a few hands. The guy on the diagonal likes watching movies, and I don't know where he got so many movies, dozens of G's, and he watches them tirelessly every day. His buddy in the upper bunk is a top student who eats all kinds of books every day. When he graduated, he was admitted to Nankai for a master's degree in biology. There is also a buddy in Guizhou who likes playing guitar. Although he played badly, I started playing guitar under his influence.

Hey! How I like this "messy" environment! ! ! There is always a naked flower and grass ~ ~ ~ The advantage is that everyone is usually busy and doing their own thing. Occasionally get together to talk, the topic will be particularly rich. Never bored!

Some environments can't adapt, so change them.

Some time ago, one of my leaders (department manager) lost his temper because of a little thing and scolded me in front of everyone. I was afraid of his old man's face and didn't refute him face to face. Because I know that if I go against the wind, I can make him vomit blood. In order to take care of the overall situation, based on the consideration of his old man's physical condition, as a coward who has been brainwashed by traditional thinking for more than ten years, I chose patience.

But then the more I thought about it, the more I felt something was wrong. How can I put up with this dishonest injustice? Why? It doesn't make sense! So the next day I seized the opportunity and told him clearly in front of everyone: "Everyone working together is a team, just like a team, it is a cooperative relationship. The purpose is to play the ball well together and improve everyone's skills at the same time. Nobody works here. My attitude towards all leaders is the same. I respect you, on the one hand, because you are older than me, on the other hand, because you have more work experience than me. I can study and grow with you, not because you are my leader. "

When this statement came out, everyone was dumbfounded.

The young man must be crazy to argue with the department manager like this.

However, the fact is that the leader asked me to go to his office for a long time and finally communicated well with each other, and those misunderstandings were gone. Because of this, he began to learn to manage his emotions, and I began to try to think from his standpoint.

It got even more interesting later. Since this happened, I was surprised to find that my colleagues around me were not so rigid and began to speak with human touch. The atmosphere in the department became lively, and everyone dared to talk and joke.

How nice!

Maybe I can't change the big environment, but the surrounding small environment can be changed! No matter who sleeps, what you said is wrong. I just want to refute you. People have to be a little tougher sometimes. Because persimmons are soft, everyone likes to pick them up and pinch them. )

Finally, to be yourself is to have your own pursuit and make unremitting efforts for it.

I have always had a tireless love for writing and folk songs. Writing makes me calm, sober, objective and rational. Whenever I am tired of writing or have no idea, I will stop, listen to some folk songs and play some folk songs to relax myself. This makes me feel very fulfilled and my soul has to rely on it, instead of wandering around and having nowhere to put it.

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Text/Peng? A post-80s generation who insists on independent thinking.