In high school, everyone was simple and wanted to study hard and get into a good university. The goal is the same, the dormitory classroom and canteen are three points and one line, and the activity space almost overlaps. Besides, people from the same place have similar customs and ways of thinking.
As long as it's not too strange, the relationship is basically good. Once you enter the university, the situation is very different. People in a dormitory come from all corners of the country, with different living environments, different tempers and personalities, and different behaviors. Many times, it is difficult to get along with each other, so why force a good relationship and kiss each other.
Getting along with people is an art, and people's psychology is quite complicated, and there are always various subtleties. Sometimes, maybe you didn't do anything wrong, and they didn't do anything wrong, so they suddenly became embarrassed and alienated, even incompatible. I think, you have gone to college, and you can't measure college life by many standards of high school. Things are changing, so are you, so many ideas have to change.
First of all, really don't think about it. You should get along well with your college roommate. Everyone is as close as you were in high school. Being friends really depends on chance. Only people who have the same outlook, the same personality and speak the same language can become bosom friends. It is a blessing to have three or five confidants in one's life. Most other people are polite and will help if possible. Everyone keeps a certain distance, is friendly and kind, and laughs at unimportant things. Is this not good?
University dormitories, more often, are places to sleep. Do your own thing, don't give others trouble, don't disturb and influence others. Be accommodating and considerate of others, first of all, we must have a clear conscience. Just ask for harmony and peace. There are two kinds of friends: intimate friends and ordinary friends. You can't ask everyone to like you. I have a degree in my heart.
Secondly, many times, don't rely too much on people around you.
It's good that you try your best to help them. But they have no obligation to help you, care about you and put themselves in your shoes. You are ill, why do they have to tell you the key points of the exam in a hurry? Why should I care if you are better? What's going on now? If you want to know the point, you can ask yourself first. It doesn't matter if they don't tell you, then ask someone else. Take medicine when you are sick, try to get better and make yourself happy.
Don't take yourself too seriously and don't expect everyone to be nice to you. Don't take others seriously. Why do you care so much except your parents, relatives, your close friends and others? Nothing they can do can hurt you. As soon as something happens, they call you out to move things. If you feel sad, you don't have to. Try not to take them with you. They estimate that you are usually positive and enthusiastic, so they think of you in advance. Next time something happens, pretend to have something to hide, or find an excuse to smile and refuse, and after a few times, they will not look for you.
In college, study hard, take part in more activities, learn about the world and know yourself well. Do what you want to do, make yourself happy and make some friends who are really good to you. However, being a friend should talk about fate, and being a friend for life is fate in fate. If one day, your's experience and class are very different, gradually fade away, no longer contact, you should also accept it frankly. It is really good to go through a journey hand in hand in a long life, understand each other, support each other and take care of each other.
Finally, don't judge others casually.
Whether your roommate plays games or spends all day in the library is none of your business. As long as they have no flaws in character and have done nothing wrong to you, it seems that you should not comment on her behavior and look down on her with superiority. Everyone has everyone's way and everyone has everyone's choice. Do you just think that they are decadent and divorced from your universal values, or do you just want to be an ordinary person and live an ordinary life?