How do parents deal with college students' rebellious psychology? In daily life, I believe many parents have encountered children's rebellious situations, especially during their adolescence, but some parents don't know how to deal with college students' rebellious psychology. Let's have a look.
How to deal with college students with rebellious psychology 1 1? Listen carefully to children's voices and analyze their feelings and needs.
When a child tells you something he is interested in, be careful not to listen as if it is necessary. After listening patiently, fully understand their views, analyze the feelings and needs behind the children, and fully consider them, and then exchange opinions and opinions with the children in a friendly and peaceful tone.
2. Respect children and communicate frankly.
In the communication with children, we should be honest, sincere and sincere, which often shows mutual understanding and trust between people. Special attention should be paid to respecting and protecting children's privacy.
3. Guide children to make friends
People have the nature to communicate with others, but at present, most families only have one child, and some parents often restrict their children from making friends, making them feel lonely. In fact, parents can guide their children to associate with their peers and pay attention to, guide and educate the character, character and habits of the people they make friends with.
4. Let children do things without violating the principle.
Don't tell your children what to do. You can let them do many things independently. What parents should do is always care about them, give them advice, provide information and resources.
5. Be as tolerant as possible to anything your child does, keep calm and avoid overreaction.
"People are not sages, to err is human?" University is an error-prone period. Try to guide children to make fewer mistakes, but you can't just ask them not to make mistakes.
6. Encourage children more.
Children in universities attach great importance to the positive comments of people around them, and learn about themselves and find their own direction through others' comments on themselves. Parents and teachers' positive comments on them are very important, so it is necessary to give children more appreciation, education, encouragement and praise.
7. It is suggested that parents can always take the initiative to contact and communicate with the school, so that the family and the school can form a joint force.
Improve the educational effect. If there is any situation, communicate with the class teacher in time, block the source as early as possible, grasp the signs, see the momentum clearly, and do a good job in time, which may avoid more troubles. Especially when children's grades or behavior habits decline greatly, we should attach great importance to it, talk with children in time, find the class teacher to understand the situation, find out the reasons and solve the problems in time.
How do parents cope with college students' rebellious psychology? 2. The causes of college students' rebellious psychology
subjective factor
1, thinking is critical.
College students are in adolescence, and their critical thinking has developed greatly, mainly in the improvement of analytical criticism in intellectual activities. They began to look at everything around them with suspicion and criticism, were not satisfied with the conclusions in books, liked to argue, refute and put forward some novel ideas, and did not believe in authority. Therefore, they did not accept all the theoretical knowledge instilled by ideological and political education, but analyzed and understood from their own existing experience with a critical eye, and compared theory with practice to prove the correctness of the theory.
2, self-awareness.
Self-awareness refers to the understanding of oneself and the relationship between oneself and the surrounding environment. Self-independence, self-evaluation and self-design in self-consciousness are important incentives for college students' rebellious psychology. They gradually realize their existence and strength, their independent status, and hope to deal with all kinds of problems in life independently, pursue self-design and hope others will respect them. I don't like teachers meddling too much and interfering too much. As long as the education from school and family goes against the subjective will, I will have a strong antipathy, even if it is wrong.
3. Emotional instability
College students' emotions and emotions are linked, and their physiological basis is the same, which is the result of the coordinated activities of cerebral cortex and subcortical center. During this period, college students showed emotional and strong psychological characteristics.
First, correctly grasp the knowledge of mental health.
College students' understanding of mental health is biased. First of all, they have a one-sided understanding of the definition of health, attach importance to physical health and ignore mental health. Secondly, there is a one-sided understanding of the standard of mental health, which means that there is no disease, and only people with mental illness have psychological problems; Thirdly, it is a one-sided understanding of the level of mental health, thinking that there is no psychological distress or confusion, that is, people with high mental health feel good about themselves, and psychological adjustment has nothing to do with themselves. As a college student, to eliminate the above cognitive bias, we need to study mental health knowledge seriously, improve our theory and take action. To master mental health knowledge correctly, we must first avoid blindly checking the number of people. Secondly, we should make clear the purpose of reading. Reading psychological books is to overcome inner anxiety, better change and develop themselves, and face the world and life with a positive attitude. Thirdly, mastering mental health knowledge is to guide your own actions. The more books some people read, the worse their mood. An important reason is that they never put it into action. When you are depressed, depressed and irritable, you should use actions to adjust, dominate and change your emotions.
Second, actively adjust yourself.
Mastering correct mental health knowledge, applying it to practice, and using appropriate methods for positive self-regulation are more critical to maintaining and maintaining mental health.
Third, establish a correct world outlook and outlook on life.
College students are in the forming period of their world outlook and outlook on life, and what kind of world outlook and outlook on life is directly related to the healthy development of psychology. A correct outlook on the world and life can make people have a correct understanding of society, life and things, adopt more appropriate attitudes and behavioral responses, objectively understand, analyze and deal with various things, maintain an open mind, and improve their tolerance for psychological conflicts and setbacks.
Fourth, fully understand yourself and accept yourself.
Many college students don't know themselves correctly, or overestimate themselves, are too confident, or underestimate themselves and feel too inferior, both of which will make people lose opportunities for development and success. Therefore, we should learn to know ourselves from many aspects and ways, learn to extract real feedback about ourselves from the world around us, and avoid mistakes caused by subjective understanding. Accept yourself after you know yourself correctly. No one is perfect, so we should pay attention to the following two points when dealing with our own shortcomings and defects: first, avoid social comparison with the only standard; The second is to have appropriate ambitions.
Verb (short for verb) positive interpersonal communication
Through interpersonal communication, we can exchange ideas and feelings with others, inspire each other, guide each other, help each other, enhance mutual communication and understanding, gain more social support, and establish a full sense of security and trust. The greater the time and space of interpersonal communication, the richer and happier the spiritual life will be; Lonely and unsociable people tend to have more troubles and boredom. In interpersonal communication, we should pay attention to: first, don't expect too much from others. If you expect too much, you will feel disappointed, even complain, it is difficult to benefit from communication, and even psychological imbalance will affect further communication with others. Second, don't blindly compete with others everywhere. If you use your weakness to compete with others, you are bound to fail and make yourself feel frustrated. Especially if you regard any kind of friendship as competition, you will lose the fun of participating, make yourself overly nervous and have great psychological pressure.
Sixth, learn to adjust emotions.
First of all, we must learn the correct way to vent. When you are unhappy, you can talk to your classmates, teachers, friends, etc. Reduce your inner pressure and gain emotional support and understanding. Secondly, actively cultivate your hobbies. Listening to music, traveling and dancing can eliminate the tension and fatigue caused by long-term study and work, change the mood and cheer up.
Seven, psychological counseling
Psychological consultation is a process in which specially trained professionals provide psychological help to visitors. At present, most universities and large hospitals have psychological consultation or psychological outpatient institutions. Psychological counseling in universities is free. If a student goes to consult, he or she will face a professionally trained psychological counselor, who will sincerely and seriously receive, listen and provide relevant help and advice. The consultant will not ask the customer's name and other personal information unless the consultant takes the initiative to inform him. Psychological counseling institutions are strictly confidential to the clients, independent of the students' departments and not involved in the management of student status.