In 2006, Li Jianli, an associate professor in the School of Physical Education of neijiang normal University, paid close attention to the topic of college students' love ending, and was supported by the Sichuan Sociology and Sex Education Research Center. She began a follow-up survey of 238 senior students of different majors in neijiang normal University to determine their love development and influencing factors. After three years of follow-up, she found that the marriage rate of 238 college graduates was 33.6%. At the same time, Li Jianli also found that the marriage rate of college graduates who fall in love with middle school classmates or alumni is the highest, reaching 54.2%. However, she stressed, "this does not mean that middle school students' love is worth promoting, because the object of this survey is senior students, and the object of love is middle school classmates or alumni, but the situation of breaking up before the fourth year of college is still unclear. In fact, the breakup rate of love in middle school is higher with the increase of age, the change of living environment and the change of personal values. "
How long did it take the interviewee to get married successfully? Li Jianli said: "Of the 80 respondents in the marriage group, 72 (90%) have been dating for more than three years. Studies have shown that the quality of marriage established through classmate relationship is the best, and one of the important reasons is the marriage decision made after a long period of investigation. " 20 14 Zhejiang university made statistics on the marriages of 200 pairs of alumni. It took Zhejiang University alumni an average of 4.24 years to complete the "transformation" from love to marriage.
During the whole research process, experts noticed a very special indicator, premarital sex. Li Jianli's research shows that among 189 respondents who had premarital sex, 5 1.9% broke up in the follow-up survey, and the rest did not break up. Although the proportion of premarital sex is high, Li Jianli stressed that this difference is statistically meaningless. "This shows that premarital sex is not the main reason for maintaining love and promoting marriage. Those thoughts and practices that expect premarital sex to retain love are not desirable. " Li Jianli thinks that premarital sex has nothing to do with the end of love.
However, in 20 12, a survey on love injuries (including physical and psychological injuries) of undergraduates in 20 universities in central China showed that 25.5% of undergraduates who had premarital sex suffered from love injuries, and the second injury factor was long-distance love, accounting for 24.4%. That is, if college students want to avoid harm in love, they need to carefully decide whether to have premarital sex. The researcher of Huazhong Normal University who led the study said that among the college students who were hurt by love, 55.6% had sex in the first month of love, but the proportion of having sex after half a year was greatly reduced.
In fact, whether two people can finally get married depends not only on their persistence in this relationship, but also on the degree of family support for this relationship, and is also determined by some external factors. Therefore, two people who fell in love and entered marriage from college must cherish this hard-won feeling.