Jealousy of this thing is terrible. If only your colleagues around you are jealous of you, even your family is jealous of you.
In fact, the jealousy of relatives is really too common, at least in our family.
I remember when I was at school, our family was the most difficult in the whole family. If it weren't for my brother, it wouldn't have come to that, but nothing can change it. What I could do at that time was to study hard, change my destiny one day and let my family look up in front of my people.
I still remember how others bullied my family. Although the relationship has improved now, we earned it all ourselves. They watched our family getting better and better, and then began to approach our family and began to kiss my parents' ass.
Before the college entrance examination, my family didn't know that my grades were good, because my parents never cared or asked me about my grades, but they didn't know where my money (my scholarship) came from. My family didn't know my grades until after the college entrance examination. I was the eighth in the college entrance examination. Then it spread in our village. Since then, my parents have become celebrities in the village. Everyone said when they met my mother, you are amazing. You raised a college student. Every time my mother just nodded and smiled, because she felt a little embarrassed because she didn't do anything.
At that time, I heard the most blessings from strangers and the most slanders from my relatives, that is, my cousins, cousins and my uncles. Because they spend a lot of time with their children, none of them have gone to college, let alone high school (in my generation). However, my parents gave nothing, but raised their students to a key university. They feel unfair, and then they become jealous.
At that time, my mother asked my brother, your brother was admitted to college, do you want to invite the family to dinner?
At that time, my brother's words were fresh in my memory: there is no need to call, people who really want to bless themselves will come, and it is meaningless for people who don't want to bless to call for dinner. When you invite them to dinner, you feel as if you want them to give you some money, so they will certainly spread the word that the family can't afford to go to college and ask us to eat and earn some money. If someone comes to see the house at that time, invite someone to dinner.
At that time, my family never thought about whose money I wanted. In fact, I got more than 30 thousand subsidies and rewards. And the result? Since I went to college, no one has come to sit at home and no one has asked.
However, once I worked in a neighbor's house next door and then helped several cousins. Then I talked about going to college. A cousin said, "It costs hundreds of thousands to go to college now. In the end, it is different from working, and it is useless at all. "
I wanted to refute it at that time, but I forgot to think about it. Because I know he doesn't think it's useless to go to college, but because of jealousy.
This cousin has a daughter who gets good grades in junior high school. She felt that she had the hope of going to college in the future, and finally she was admitted to the same high school as me. I am one year older than her. She should call me uncle. But once my fourth aunt, her grandmother asked me to help her find some books. I asked her to come and get it from me. I still remember what she said: "Hey, hey, hey ... well, I'll get the book."
I didn't even want to talk to her at that time, but I finally gave her the book. At the end of the college entrance examination, I learned that she talked about a boyfriend and heard that she was going to get married, and then the book was gone, and now the child is going to run away.
At that time, my cousin learned that I was admitted to the university, and I was so angry that I said such things.
Later, I graduated smoothly, and my brother's business was doing well. He built a small house for his family and bought his own car. I also have my own job, and the quality of life of my parents is getting higher and higher. In the words of relatives, my parents used to be the saddest people, but now they are the happiest people. But what about my own uncle? The family is still the same, the children still didn't go to college, and then they began to be close to my family.
Now every year when I go home, someone will care. I remember when I brought my girlfriend back last year, my uncles who didn't associate with their families at that time were invited to dinner. Of course, there is no way not to go. That attitude is really good now.
Some time ago, that cousin came to me and said, "Your nephew is a senior three this year, but his grades are not very satisfactory. Please help and guide him. "
I wanted to tell him at that time: at the beginning, you always said it was useless to go to college. Now, what's the point of letting children take the exam? I'm not going to college. You see, I didn't go to college to help others.
But I don't think the account of our generation should be put on the next generation, and his son is very enthusiastic to see me at ordinary times. Later, I chatted with his son and asked him to sign up for a cram school (my friend opened it himself). In the end, it is up to him.
I want to tell you one thing through my own business:
In fact, when others are jealous of you, really don't care what others think. His jealousy can only show that he has begun to envy you in some way, fearing that you will surpass him one day and live a better life than him. Let him be jealous. Anyway, it is he who is uncomfortable, not you. Just work hard and get better and better.
When someone doubts, don't argue with them. It's no use. Just prove it with action. Finally, they will come to curry favor with you. When you are weakest, there are really many bad guys, but you must stick to it and don't fall into their trap. If you also feel that you can't do it, their purpose has been achieved. The best way for you to break their suspicions is the result.
Don't please others when you are weakest. No one can look at you. At this time, you have to become stronger, and those who once looked down on you will come to curry favor with you.
We must remember that people are poor, why we came to this home, we have no choice, but we can choose what kind of life, don't complain about our parents, they have given you the best, and you can fight for what you want.
May you walk out of the predicament, defeat those who once looked down on you, crush those who once doubted you and prove them wrong.