196 1 year, Song Dandan was born in a cultural family in Beijing. Her father is the secretary of Beijing Federation of Literary and Art Circles, and her mother works in the education system. Her family is quite famous in Beijing cultural circle.

Like Song Dandan's family, Ying Da's family is also famous in Beijing's cultural circle. Ying Da's father, Ying Ruocheng, is a famous translator. He graduated from the Department of Foreign Affairs of Tsinghua University and later served as the Vice Minister of Culture. My mother Wu Shiliang is the daughter of Professor Wu Baofeng, former president of Shanghai Jiaotong University. She is not only good at translation, but also dabbles in acting and literature.

Because both parents work in the cultural circle, Song Dandan and Ying Da have known each other for a long time.

But at that time, the relationship between Song Dandan and Ying Da was only a nodding acquaintance who met adults occasionally, and there was almost no affection between men and women. Later, Ying Da was admitted to the Psychology Department of Peking University, and Song Dandan entered Beijing People's Arts as an actor. Their lives are completely different.

Maybe this is fate. 1987, Ying Da and Song Dandan met again for rehearsing the drama Arsonist. During the rehearsal, because Song Dandan didn't bring a water cup, he asked Ying Da, who was rehearsing together, "Can I drink from your water cup? I'm not sick. "

Ying Da smiled and said, "Of course, but I'm sick." .

A word amused Song Dandan and made Song Dandan notice the humorous Ying Da. At this time, Ying Da was also full of affection for young and beautiful Song Dandan, so they rehearsed the topic and kept drawing their hearts closer.

02. Their divorced love

When Song Dandan and Ying Da both fell in love, there was a trace of concern in their hearts. The social atmosphere in the 1980s was conservative, but both Song Dandan and Ying Da were divorced. Worried about the bad influence of falling in love, they always avoid the crowd and quietly enjoy the sweetness that belongs to them.

Song Dandan's first marriage was quite mysterious. At present, all public information only shows Song Dandan's flash marriage with her boyfriend whom she met in March, 1986, but the identity and name of this mysterious boyfriend have never been known.

Flash marriage is followed by flash marriage. A year later, Song Dandan divorced her mystery boyfriend. According to anecdotal reports, during the divorce, the man once said to Song Dandan, "No matter how popular and famous you are in the future, please never mention my name in public." .

Song Dandan agreed to the man's request, and then completed his promise with decades of action.

A promise is a promise, maybe that's it.

Compared with the mysterious marriage in Song Dandan, Ying Da's first marriage is much more transparent. 1983, Ying Da, who was studying psychology at Peking University, fell in love with a female biology student at first sight and staged a sweet campus love song.

Later, Ying Da and her female classmates formed a family, and then went to the United States to study together. Who knows that after studying abroad, the husband and wife have great differences on their future development plans. Ying Da wants to go back to China to do something, but his wife insists on staying in the United States to develop.

Irreconcilable differences in career extended into life, that is, their short marriage came to an end.

After the divorce, Ying Da devoted herself to her career. It was not until the appearance of Song Dandan that Ying Da rekindled the spark of love.

The magic of love is powerful. Although the love between Song Dandan and Ying Da is particularly low-key, it still reveals the love story between them. After the romance was exposed, both parents saw that everyone was an acquaintance and agreed to their marriage without saying anything.

03, both cheated and got married.

From 65438 to 0989, Song Dandan and Ying Da entered the marriage hall hand in hand. However, married life is somewhat different from what Song Dandan imagined.

Ying Da was born in a noble family, loved by his parents since childhood, and never good at housework, which made everything in the family fall on Song Dandan.

At first, Song Dandan also devoted himself to housework. But over the years, Song Dandan became more and more tired in marriage.

The toilet at home is broken, and Song Dandan tries to repair it; Home decoration, Song Dandan is busy alone; Even after his son Batu was born, Song Dandan was widowed and Song Dandan was exhausted.

Years later, when Song Dandan talked about this marriage in his autobiography, he couldn't help poking fun at himself as the "pillar" of the family and humorously boasting that he was resilient.

Song Dandan is under great pressure in marriage, but occasionally it is accompanied by some small happiness. For example, once Ying Da earned 60,000 yuan, they went to a restaurant happily together, and when they got home, they couldn't help spilling the rest of the money on the ceiling, as if they were the richest man in the world.

On another occasion, Song Dandan and Ying Da went out in the cold winter. In order not to let the beloved catch cold, they both hugged each other tightly and wanted to use their bodies to keep each other warm.

Unfortunately, no matter how beautiful the water droplets are, they will eventually be defeated by a chicken feather in marriage. In the process of filming I Love My Family, Ying Da, as a director, got to know the screenwriter Liang Huan. They quickly developed from cooperation at work to friends in life, and then gradually evolved into lovers.

This extramarital affair, Ying Da has been very secretive, but the paper can't cover the fire after all. Soon after, some scandals between Ying Da and Liang Huan reached the ears of Song Dandan.

Astonished, Song Dandan couldn't help but go to Ying Da for face-to-face verification. Ying Da denied this naturally, which made Song Dandan doubt the rumor that Ying Da was cheating.

After many years of marriage, Song Dandan and Ying Da are still model couples in the eyes of outsiders, but only Song Dandan knows that her marriage has already been covered with reefs.

After the British University denied the rumor of cheating, it did not break the relationship and returned to the family. Song Dandan, who felt that her marriage existed in name only, didn't say much, but on an ordinary day, she silently called Ying Da and filed for divorce.

Because Song Dandan and Ying Da are family friends, and Ying Da's father is reluctant to part with his grandson, their decision to divorce was strongly opposed by their elders.

But Song Dandan insisted on getting a divorce, so she told Ying Da, "If I don't get a divorce, I'll find someone to cheat." .

Song Dandan said so and did the same. After the first divorce failed, Song Dandan really found someone to "cheat" 10 days, and then she contacted Ying Da and said, "I cheated, too. Let's divorce. "

This time, Ying Da said nothing, and happily went through the divorce formalities with Song Dandan.

After leaving the Civil Affairs Bureau, Song Dandan sent Ying Da home. When Yingda got off the bus, Song Dandan suddenly found that Yingda had left a pager in the car. On the pager, there was a dazzling message from Liang Huan:

"Where are you?"

"Is everything ready?"

"When will you come back?"

At this point, Song Dandan finally confirmed that Ying Da was cheating. She locked herself in the car for a long time and put an end to her marriage in a seemingly calm way.

04. Tear each other from a distance

After the divorce, Song Dandan devoted herself to her son. In order to create better conditions for his son, Song Dandan worked hard and made money desperately, but unconsciously missed his son's company.

According to Song Dandan's interview afterwards, because of his busy work, Song Dandan had to let Batu board at school, which made Batu yearn for Song Dandan to meet him at school every day.

Once, as usual, Song Dandan went to pick up Batu for the weekend on a Friday, but he heard the doorman mention that Batu was very excited all day because of the arrival of Song Dandan, and his mouth kept chanting that his mother was coming.

However, such a tender moment is rare. Song Dandan and his son meet more often in the teacher's office.

Due to the lack of parents' company, Batu was naughty when he was a child. Almost every day, Song Dandan received a phone call from the teacher complaining about Batu, and then he kept apologizing for his son in the groans of the teacher again and again, even bowing in front of all teachers and students, fed up with the eyes of teachers and other parents.

Even so, the school euphemistically dismissed Batu for being too noisy. However, the school may not know that Batu's troubles may be just a way for him to attract his parents' attention. After all, Batu wanted his parents' company too much at that time.

In 2003, Batu's grandfather died. Ying Da didn't disclose the news to Song Dandan's mother and son at all, but attended the funeral with his current wife, Liang Huan.

Later, Batu learned the news of grandpa's death from the newspaper. He personally prepared a flower basket to see him off. Unfortunately, when Batu arrived at the hospital, Ying Ruocheng's body had been sent away. In desperation, Batu had to pay homage from a distance and do his part.

If Ying Da was born in strict father, it just happened that he just ignored Batu and loved his second son so much. Ying Da not only named his and Liang Huan's son Ying Ruyong, but also showed his father's love in a program, and said to the host with a fatherly face: "If you go to outer space, you will only take three things, Mozart's CD, a book and a photo of your son Ying Ruyong."

After the program was broadcast, the eldest son Batu was particularly embarrassed. Some students even laughed at Batu in person and said, "Did you watch the news? Your father went to outer space without your photo, hahaha ... "

What happened to Batu completely angered Song Dandan. Song Dandan, eager to protect his son, couldn't help cursing Ying Da on the Internet:

"A man can divorce, reorganize his family, love his wife and children, show his father's love in front of the media, and call himself' driver, nanny, chef and coach' ... but you can't ignore his former children. When he was 7 years old, he begged you to take him out to play; 1 1 year old, you don't give a phone call; From 14, I'm a stranger ... It's okay to show fatherly love, but I won't allow you to hurt my son any more. You are not human! "

Song Dandan's denunciation soon drew a tit-for-tat response from Ying Da.

On one occasion, when Ying Da mentioned Song Dandan's new work Deep in Happiness in an interview with the media, he said with disdain, "I study psychology, and I think she is mentally ill.".

When talking about Song Dandan's "fake father", Ying Da said in disgust, "If you get divorced, don't come to me again. I don't want my wife and children to get hurt. "

Looking back, the couple loved each other deeply, but after experiencing the storm of peaceful divorce, they did not get out of the harm of marriage.

In the end, the child became the unfortunate exit of marriage, and the contradiction of years of forbearance broke out and became an open tear that shocked the whole network.

Ying Da once said that his divorce from Song Dandan was "the end of ten years and a peaceful breakup."

However, although the breakup was peaceful, Ying Da intentionally or unintentionally hurt the feelings of Song Dandan's mother and son when she started another marriage. Finally, Song Dandan couldn't fight back, and the once-loving couple openly launched a tearing war until the last warmth between them was exhausted.

In fact, marriage is like drinking water from a fish and getting to know it.

The feud between Song Dandan and Ying Da is hard for outsiders to tell. I just hope they can be happy today after many years of divorce.