Contemporary young college students are active in thinking, full of energy, with a wide range of interests and a strong demand for interpersonal communication. How should contemporary college students deal with interpersonal relationships? The following are some of the contents I collected, hoping to help you.

Principles of dealing with interpersonal relationships among college students.

College students have more or less problems in communication. Improving interpersonal relationship and strengthening interpersonal communication are of great significance to college students' study, life and mental health. Stepping into the university campus, because I have just stepped out of the stressful high school study life, I have no time and opportunity to go deep into the society, and my mind is almost blank about interpersonal relationships. And college life needs communication. So how to open the situation of college students' interpersonal communication? In order not to run into a wall in interpersonal communication, we should master the following principles:

2. 1 Equality in communication mainly refers to the equality of attitudes of both parties. Each of us has our own independent personality, personal dignity and legal rights and obligations, and the relationship between people is equal. In the process of communication, if one party is condescending, domineering, giving orders and bossing around, then he will soon be isolated. College students often have strong personalities and refuse to admit defeat. This spirit is worth advocating, but it must not be superior because of the objective differences of classmates' origins, families, experiences and looks, and it must not be different from person to person.

Adhere to the principle of equal communication, we must correctly evaluate ourselves, don't be arrogant just by looking at our own advantages, and don't blindly feel inferior just by looking at our own shortcomings. We should respect the self-esteem and feelings of others, which is the basis of interpersonal communication.

2.2 Respect others. Everyone has his own personal dignity. And expect to be respected on various occasions. Respect can arouse people's feelings such as trust and frankness and shorten the psychological distance of communication. Generally speaking, college students have strong self-esteem. Therefore, in interpersonal communication, college students should pay special attention to respecting principles, not damaging the reputation and personality of others, and acknowledging or affirming their own abilities and achievements. Otherwise, it will easily lead to interpersonal tension and conflict.

Adhering to the principle of respect, we must pay attention to respecting our classmates in attitude and personality. Treat people equally, pay attention to language civilization and politeness, do not play pranks, do not give nicknames to classmates, and respect their living habits.

2.3 Sincerity is a bridge between people. Only by being sincere can the two sides build trust and form a profound friendship. Honesty is the basis of successful communication, and close friends and strong friendship are obtained through sincere coexistence. So ... how to be honest? Simply put, one should be honest and selfless; Second, we must tell the truth, do honest things and be honest; Third, the appearance is consistent. Match words with deeds.

To adhere to the principle of sincerity, we must have enthusiasm and love, sincerely help others without expecting anything in return, and sincerely criticize friends' shortcomings and defects. Seeking truth from facts about people and things, being able to express one's opinions on different points of view without duplicity, neither boasting to one's face nor slandering behind his back, and being sincere and frank with others.

2.4 Mutual assistance and mutual benefit interpersonal relationship is based on whether it can meet the needs of both parties. If both sides' psychological needs can be met, their relationship will continue to develop. Therefore, both sides should adhere to the principle of mutual assistance and mutual benefit. Mutual assistance means that when one party needs help, the other party should help the other party as much as possible. This kind of help can be material or spiritual. It can also be physical. If a person only wants to get help from others, instead of helping others and caring for others, it is impossible to handle interpersonal relationships well.

Adhere to the principle of mutual assistance and mutual benefit. We should get rid of extreme individualism, be kind to others and be ready to help others. At the same time, be good at asking for help. When others help him overcome difficulties, he will also feel happy, which can further communicate the emotional exchanges between the two sides.

2.5 Paying attention to credit integrity is the embodiment of a person's inner temperament, an important indicator to measure a person's comprehensive quality, a successful partner, an intangible capital and an ancient tradition of the Chinese nation. The principle of credit requires college students to tell the truth in interpersonal communication, and their words and deeds are consistent. No matter how difficult the promised thing is, we should try our best to do it and spare no effort. If repeated efforts fail. You should explain your reasons sincerely, and you can't have the idea of "making do" or "coping". _ People who keep promises can make true friends and good friends: People who don't keep promises can only make temporary friends or will eventually be abandoned.

Adhere to the principle of credit, be sure to arrive on time for appointments, return things on time, be suspicious, and make promises easily, which makes people happy.

2.6 Misunderstandings and contradictions are inevitable in interpersonal communication. College students have strong personalities and close ties. There will inevitably be contradictions. This requires college students not to haggle over every ounce in communication, but to be modest, generous, restrained and patient, regardless of each other's attitude and words. And be brave enough to take responsibility for your actions, so that "the Prime Minister can punt in his stomach." Tolerance and restraint are not weakness and cowardice. On the contrary, it is a measurable performance, a lubricant for establishing good interpersonal relationships, and it can "turn the war into a jade" and win more friends. When tolerating the shortcomings of others, we should see the advantages of others, so as to win the respect and trust of others, and at the same time, we should clearly recognize our own shortcomings and deficiencies. As the ancients said, water invites no fish, and people observe no disciples. Understand these truths, and you will be more tolerant and sincere. So as to gain more friendship.

2.7 Keeping a distance Keeping a sense of distance is by no means setting up mental barriers or defense lines. Different people, different occasions, different people keep different distances. If students want to handle interpersonal relationships well and maintain strong friendship, they must hold each other like hedgehogs to keep warm. You need to keep a proper distance, so that you can feel each other's warmth and avoid hurting each other. Knowing this truth, we will learn to respect and be respected, and we can better handle the relationship between people.

In a word, for college students, we should exercise ourselves from all aspects, overcome all aspects of psychological problems, improve interpersonal relationships and adapt ourselves to college life. The university period is a period when college students' psychology tends to mature. They especially need others' understanding, and they are willing to pour out their thoughts to others, so as to adjust their repressed emotions and relieve their psychological pressure through others' understanding and comfort. In addition, attaching importance to interpersonal communication, mastering communication skills and accumulating communication experience are not only the needs of college students' real life, but also the needs of college students' successful entry into society.

Characteristics of college students' interpersonal communication obstacles

1. 1 Cognitive impairment is particularly prominent in college students' interpersonal communication. With the gradual enhancement of self-awareness, college students began to actively communicate. However, due to the limited social experience and the limitation of objective environment, they can't fully contact the society, and at the same time they are psychologically immature. They often have idealized patterns in interpersonal communication, and then look for confidants in real life. Once their ideals are inconsistent with reality, they will have communication barriers and psychological barriers. The other is self-centered. The purpose of interpersonal communication is to meet the needs of both sides. It is realized on the basis of mutual respect, mutual understanding and mutual accommodation and honesty. However, some college students often ignore the basic communication principle of equality and mutual assistance, take themselves as the center and never consider each other's needs. Such communication is doomed to fail.

1.2 The emotional component of emotional disorder is the most important feature in interpersonal communication. The quality of emotion determines the behavior of future communicators, and a strong sense of * * * in communication is a major feature of college students' interpersonal communication. Emotional barriers are reflected in the following aspects:

1.2.65438+ Jealousy can easily lead to painful, sad and aggressive speech and behavior, leading to interpersonal conflicts and communication barriers. Inferiority is a kind of low self-evaluation. The shallow feeling of inferiority is that others look down on themselves, and the deep experience is that they look down on themselves. Inferiority is very corrosive to the cultivation of a person's character, which will hit his self-confidence, stifle his independent spirit and make him unable to find the spiritual pillar of life. College students with inferiority complex often show lack of self-confidence and timidity in communication. When they encounter a little setback, they will complain. In fact, inferiority is not necessarily low ability, mainly because I don't know myself, I don't find my own bright spot or always compare my own shortcomings with the advantages of others, which leads to inferiority; Sometimes it is unrealistic to expect too much in everything, and I always want to idealize my image in communication. Fear of losing face, being depressed or being rejected and laughed at by others. Therefore, this kind of mentality often makes people with low self-esteem feel uneasy in communication, so they often limit their social circle to a very narrow range, leading to obstacles in interpersonal communication.

1.2.2 Self-righteousness, shyness and conceit are manifested as arrogance, condescension and arrogance in interpersonal communication. They trust themselves too much to trust others, only care about personal needs, emphasize their feelings and ignore others. Especially for contemporary college students, there are many only children, and their parents dote on them, which has developed the characteristics of willfulness and self-centeredness. If you get along with your classmates and are happy, you will be broad-minded and happy; When you are unhappy, you will lose your temper and ignore the feelings of others, which will eventually lead to obstacles in interpersonal communication. Inferiority and conceit are two extremes that lead to communication barriers. Shyness in college students' interpersonal communication is often manifested as shyness, shyness, unnatural, blushing and so on. And the speaking volume is low and small, serious people are afraid of communication. Taking an evasive attitude towards communication leads to too many constraints on one's words and deeds, inability to fully express one's wishes and feelings, and inability to communicate well with others, which leads to misunderstanding between the two sides and hinders the formation of good interpersonal relationships.

1.2.3 Personality disorder Personality disorder is another common interpersonal disorder. The so-called personality refers to a person's ideology and personality characteristics, spiritual feelings and moral integrity. It is a relatively stable psychological and behavioral normalization formed by individuals in the process of adulthood and socialization. Personality differences will lead to misunderstandings, contradictions and conflicts in communication, and imperfect personality will directly lead to interpersonal conflicts.

The Importance of Cultivating Good Interpersonal Relations

We are social people, and it is hard to imagine what it would be like to leave society and associate with others. As long as there is communication between people, interpersonal relationships will exist. When we step into the society, we will deal with all kinds of people. Whether you can get others' support and help in dealing with people will involve your own ability. Good interpersonal relationships will make us get twice the result with half the effort. During school, you should learn to associate with all kinds of people and not be afraid of hitting a wall. Only when you try will you understand how difficult it is to do a good job in interpersonal relationships.