At present, unmarried women are mostly only children, with superior family environment and parents' love. They always tell them carefully that girls should love themselves, not fall in love, pay attention to their studies and have their own careers in the future. They can have whatever kind of boyfriend they want.
Teachers are all kinds of indoctrination. You should have enough strength to master true love, and you should study hard to be worthy of him who is better by your side. Therefore, all love must be nipped in the bud.
As a result, your budding pure love was killed in the whole learning stage.
Parents and teachers have been instilling this idea around you, and that good girl has grown up strangely.
For example, my girlfriend, MengMeng, is very beautiful since she was a child and always attracts many boys to pursue her. I remember when she was in high school, she rode her bike home every day and found a boy following her many times. Because she was unfamiliar, she didn't care too much until one day the boy accosted her.
MengMeng foolishly handed the love letter to the teacher and told his parents about it.
The next day, the boy was dragged into the office and severely criticized. He walked back to the classroom with his head down.
Since then, the boy has never appeared on the girl's way home.
MengMeng's parents insisted on picking her up every day until graduation, and the boy never had a chance again.
When I was in college, I was in Seeds of Love, MengMeng, but no matter how many feelings have no material foundation, they are all fragile. Missed each other, just waved in a hurry and went their separate ways.
Youth is gone in a hurry. After graduating from college, MengMeng's love has never been cultivated, and she failed in the exam, but she can only graduate.
Second, the change of women's values of marriage and love.
Girls grow up to be "rich and beautiful" with the company of their families. Girls rely on their own strength and independence to have a more perfect interpretation of love. They are perfect and will only think more about love than marriage.
Too many predecessors also told us with bloody personal experiences that it is often the first step for a woman to give up her career and return to her family, which will eventually consume her old age and wealth.
Therefore, they think their career is much more reliable than that of men. They can stay up late for a manuscript, but they have no time to be housewives around men.
Susan, a girlfriend of mine, is like this. She works hard in her career, working overtime until dawn on rest days. She asked her why she worked so hard. She said that she likes the feeling of hard work and hopes that she can struggle until she is 40 years old and have enough money to travel around the world. Men were never in her plan.
One of my girlfriends, Semen, joined a Fortune 500 company after studying abroad and made great efforts to make progress. She soon became a middle-level employee with an annual salary of more than 500,000, and missed the best marriage and childbearing age. However, she was not in a hurry, just saying, I don't want to make do. I haven't met the right person yet, so I'd rather put all my eggs in one basket.
Yes, maybe some women want to get married, but they are love idealists, who worship the only true love 100% and firmly believe that Prince Charming will fall from the sky. They refused to make do in any sense, so they never met the right person every time.
Such values make women think that marriage is only an experience of life, and it is not that important. More importantly, women have their own careers and values. Or make women think that love is blasphemous. Since you really want to love, you must marry the person you fell in love with at first sight, and you will never settle.
Third, Phoenix Man and Mambo Man are popular.
As women in the new era, all ages have the right to pursue happiness instead of living a miserable life.
In fact, if you have eyes, a man can be Gao Fushuai, a second marriage, a little fresh meat, or a gray-haired uncle.
However, women may not despise any of them.
Phoenix man, that's golden phoenix flying out of the henhouse. Behind the dazzling is the drag of a large family. The persistence of Phoenix man is beyond the control of ordinary girls, such as the love between Gu Xiaoxi and Phoenix man in the new marriage era.
Their beautiful love can't stand the impact of the beautiful thoughts and behaviors of the beautiful family when the People's Republic of China was founded, and eventually the two people who love each other will be torn apart;
Ma Baonan is a weak baby who has not grown up, is irresponsible and has not grown up. They ask their mother everything. Without the courage and strength to make a decision, living really drives women crazy.
Chen Ke in A Picture Book of Women in Beijing finally couldn't stand her husband's bad habits and divorced angrily.
Now there are fewer and fewer elite men emerging in various fields, and there are more and more outstanding women in cities, so the attraction of nature to outstanding women is getting smaller and smaller.
Because they have abandoned the traditional values of relying on men to change their destiny and become independent women in the new era, what they need more is men who can talk to them on an equal footing and are evenly matched.
In fact, modern women can break through the secular barriers more. Love bravely, just like the heartbreaking phrase "Love even if you die", but you can't find your ideal partner.
Why do more and more women choose not to get married? Actually, it's not because you don't get married that you don't love. We love each other, but no one makes us want to get married.