He has a special hobby: he likes to wear soft silk skirts.

Mr. Wu, a company employee, came to the company's office in Tianjin from other places. One is for company affairs, and the other is for my own lifestyle, satisfying my hobby of wearing skirts, especially soft silk skirts. Mr. Wu said that he has had this habit for more than ten years. The situation has become more and more serious recently. If you don't wear it every day, you will feel very uncomfortable. But when facing my wife and children at home, I don't have the courage to do so. Although sometimes I feel that my hobby of wearing skirts has not hindered others, it is not an act that everyone can understand. I want to find out where the problem lies. The incident originated from Mr. Wu's behavior of buying a skirt for his girlfriend during his college years. His wife was a high school classmate and they were admitted to different universities. On the eve of summer vacation one year, Mr. Wu wanted to buy a skirt for his girlfriend as a gift. When he bought it back, Mr. Wu tried on the skirt himself while his roommate was away. I didn't expect it to get out of hand. Wearing skirts has become a hobby for more than ten years, and no one knows it. I once asked a psychiatrist for help and was told that I might be too possessive. But Mr. Wu doesn't think so, because he has maintained a beautiful and harmonious family relationship and marriage feelings with his wife so far. I have never had an extramarital girlfriend, and I have never thought about having sex with men and women other than my wife.

In the winter afternoon, the sun shines warmly into the consulting room. A 40-year-old man's voice came from the receiver. After we politely exchanged greetings, he told me about his experience and the suffering of his mind who likes to cross-dress (see above).

Transvestites usually satisfy their repeated and intense sexual desires, but Mr. Wu is not.

Transvestite, also called transvestite, is a mental illness. In the field of psychopathology, transvestites usually act to satisfy their repeated and strong sexual desire and imagination. It is generally believed that the cause of the disease is related to early childhood education and family and social factors. Mr. Wu's situation seems more complicated. There are several situations that make us feel embarrassed: Mr. Wu is tall, the man is strong and the family is happy. In the eyes of family and friends, he is a standard big man, an athlete, and received a college education in the early 1980s. His transvestite has nothing to do with sexual desire. The feeling of touching or wearing a skirt is different from that of being with your wife. No sexual desire, only warmth. I am the youngest in my family. There are several sisters in the world, and there is a certain age gap. I have never been raised as a girl, and I have never worn my sister's old clothes. At the same time, because of my parents' special experience in the Cultural Revolution, I have never been timid since I was a child. On the contrary, I am eager to be a little man, bent on revenge for my parents. Even if I followed my mother to the May Seventh Cadre School to take part in labor, the children played all over the mountains and chased them to the sunset, and the children dispersed. They were alone in the threshing floor, and they never felt sad. Since I got married, I have been playing the role of protector in front of my wife and children, and I have never thought of asking others to protect myself. On the contrary, I was hit hard by a job and quickly recovered and cheered up. ...

Mr. Wu gets a warm feeling from the skirt. All this seems to have something to do with his mother.

However, the dawn reappeared in these difficulties: Mr. Wu's wife once said to him: You actually have a very weak side. He remembered his wife's words, but didn't think much (as if by instinct). Mr. Wu gets a sense of warmth from the skirt, which seems to be related to his mother. Yes, it really seems so. Teacher Wu told me that his mother was a "workaholic" in those days and a "strong woman" in today's words. She seldom has time to accompany her children, play with them and give them warm maternal love.

I think the problem lies with his mother. Even though Mr. Wu is an indomitable man, there is still a slender corner in his heart and an eternal yearning for maternal love. The special experience of life often leads to some illusions that we lack nothing and need nothing. But in fact, those things that are suppressed to the unconscious will not really disappear. If they don't get normal satisfaction, they may leave some kind of complex in their hearts. At the right time, these repressed wishes will almost be expressed in a pathological way.