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If you make the wrong choice, your efforts will be in vain. Wrong efforts are more terrible than no efforts. Everyone needs to give himself a big direction in the future.

I learned a course "The Life Course of the President" some time ago, and I have a deep understanding of this sentence. In this rapidly changing digital age, but the basic ability to survive in the future will not change, that is, a person should be able to think, communicate and be healthy.

The same is true of raising children. You can't just focus on the present and blindly instill knowledge and skills. The key is to cultivate children's basic abilities.

Real education is oriented to the future, and what children need is the ability needed by the future society, not the ability needed by the present society.

I was surprised to see the book "Planning for Children's Future Brain", which coincided with the ideas of some courses I attended recently, and gave me a deeper thinking and a more scientific and operable parenting method.

The author, Dr. Wei, is called the most handsome professor in China. After watching his variety shows "Super Brain" and "Everyday Up", I will be deeply attracted by his charm. He is a professor of psychology in Peking University and an expert in human brain work with a doctorate from the University of Pennsylvania.

He said that many popular parenting knowledge in the market is pseudoscience, and he has raised two children, so his parents wrote this book to help millions of parents how to raise their children correctly and truly.

In the future children's brain science, the author helps children develop their basic core abilities through the laws of brain development.

Education is reshaping the brain. Scientific parenting should start with the brain. This book exposes many pseudo-scientific parenting methods. If the list can reach more than 30 kinds, there must be pits you have stepped on. Today, I will share with you the "five brain systems" proposed by the author. That is, the five bottom social skills of children.

This is a new education system for children. Based on the cognitive science of the brain, according to the development characteristics and laws of the brain, it puts forward the crucial ability of children in the future, which can be summarized into five parts: intellectual brain, emotional brain, sports brain, language brain and creative brain. This includes memory, concentration and emotion? Social reading? Creativity and all other abilities.

The key point is to cultivate children's underlying core competence, and the most important thing is to use it at home anytime and anywhere.

If people are compared to cars, intelligence is equivalent to our engine. My parents have been very concerned about this since I was a child. For example, pregnant women take iron supplements, prenatal education or listen to classical music when the baby is young. The author says that these are pseudoscience, and children can't be really smart.

According to the principle of brain science and neuroplasticity, nerves can only be strengthened in the process of application. For example, when there is no road, a path will never come out. The more you walk, the more you can walk out of a road. If you don't walk for a long time, weeds will grow out and the road will slowly disappear.

Therefore, the author believes that the key to developing an intelligent brain is "stimulation", that is, providing a rich environment to stimulate the brain.

Taking children to nature and different places, observing different natural phenomena and providing them with different rich environments can stimulate their brains and promote their intellectual development.

The key here is to inspire children to think in different ways, not to instill knowledge and skills in children, but to think in a way more important than knowledge.

The child's brain is immature, especially unbalanced. The rational brain can't develop until after the age of 20, so the child will always cry, because he can't control his emotional brain with the rational brain, so he can only cry.

Therefore, at this time, parents should act as the rational brain of children and guide them from emotional distress to rational brain.

We can start from the following three points:

① Guide children to describe emotions (describe emotions in words). * * * Be with your child and understand the child's mood at the moment. For example, I think you are angry. Can you tell your mother?

Try to guide children to describe in words.

(3) Guide children to reflect on their emotions (let children learn to understand the feelings of others)

The key here is to let children understand and express their emotions and develop their emotional ability.

About emotional picture books, such as Feifei Angry, Emotional Little Monster and other series of picture books can help children understand and describe their emotions well.

Sports in a narrow sense refers to physical exercise, and also involves the development of emotions and intelligence.

For example, aerobic exercise can provide sufficient nutrition for the brain and promote the good development of the brain;

Fine movements, good toys, etc. help children exercise their sense of space.

How to cultivate:

Develop exercise habits: take your children to run and ride bicycles at a fixed time every day, and take them to exercise by playing games.

There are two controversial questions here: when can literacy and bilingualism be learned well?

The author's point of view is when to learn well, of course, the sooner the better, but the key issue is how you teach your children to learn.

The wrong way: bilingual, thinking that only playing English CD cycles for children is to provide children with a language environment.

The correct way is to point to "apple" and say "apple" to children. ...

Literacy is based on children's understanding, such as the process of "pre-literacy experience" before formal contact with knowledge, rather than letting children memorize it mechanically.

This is a book about children's literacy and reading, which is Zhou Jing's core experience in language learning and development for preschool children. This book explains children's language learning in an authoritative and professional way. )

The key here is interaction: ask questions and follow children's interests.

The key to learning a language is interaction and feedback in a real environment.

We often have two extreme misunderstandings about children's talent and inspiration:

1) Children's entrepreneurial ability does not need to be taught? Need protection.

2) It can only be taught by the mystery of talent.

In fact, children's creativity can be obtained through deliberate practice, and it is not innate. Need guidance and training.

How to exercise?

① Play divergent games with children.

(2) Play Lenovo thinking the game with children.

(Ask your child questions without giving an answer)

There are many books about ① ② games on the market, which can be used, and thousands of books can be found online.

③ Video games. Playing appropriate life-oriented and practical video games is helpful to the development of children's creativity.

In today's era, it is impossible to completely control children's access to online games such as mobile phones. The key here is to limit children's time. Many parents find it difficult, because you don't give your children complete freedom of choice. This is our father who has done very well. Our children always set their time when they play mobile phones and watch TV. He will automatically turn off the TV then. Moreover, I found that children don't really like watching and playing mobile phones. It is because they are bored and no one plays with him that he is addicted to mobile TV.

In "Super Brain", Bao Yunmeng walked through the honeycomb maze blindfolded and came out faster than a player who opened his eyes with a map. Such spatial cognitive ability, Dr. Wei said: Your child can do it!

The most typical toy to train this spatial ability is Lego. Psychologists have found that playing with this toy can qualitatively improve children's fine movements, divergent thinking and language skills.

We can consciously tell children "I put the card in the middle of the bookshelf" and "I put the book on the right side of the table" to create space imagination. When you are a little older, you can say "southeast, northwest" to determine your orientation.

It can be seen from this short story that understanding the laws of brain science and raising children scientifically are not boasted, but learned through hard work and practice and mastered scientific methods. Everyone can do it. The key to raising children scientifically lies in cultivating children's above five basic abilities.