Mental health of college students in love.
In recent years, campus love has not only become a fashion, but also a prominent psychological problem. This paper analyzes some psychological phenomena and psychological effects of contemporary college students in the process of love, and reveals some bad love behaviors.
Contemporary college students; Love psychology; psychological problem
At present, college students' love has become an unavoidable topic on campus, and it is also an important epitome of colorful college life. However, not every love can be sunny, and not everyone can be smooth sailing on the journey of love. Then, a series of problems will follow because of love, the most prominent of which is psychological problems. Studying the psychological phenomenon of college students' love and analyzing their psychological effects are helpful to understand some of their behaviors in the process of love.
First, common psychological phenomena in college students' love
According to the survey, many college students don't understand why they are deeply in love, or even can't explain it clearly, so they have blind motives.
(A) herd mentality
Most college students 18-23 years old. At this stage, falling in love seems to be a fashion, so that it is not normal not to fall in love. Whether it is to conform to the fashion trend or to integrate into this group as soon as possible without being eliminated, or many college students think that I should have what everyone has, many college students have joined the team of falling in love without thinking.
(B) Identity psychology
The premise of love is mutual attraction. Many college students regard attraction in front of the opposite sex as an important standard of self-worth, and think that having friends of the opposite sex can prove their existence value, make themselves stand out from the crowd and show their charm. This seems to be the common sense of many college students, especially female college students.
curiosity
Judging from the degree of physical and psychological development at the age stage, college students are mature, full of curiosity about many things in the adult world, especially the opposite sex, eager to be recognized by the adult world, and more hope to be recognized by the opposite sex, so they are full of curiosity and desire for love.
(D) Dependence psychology
Most post-90s college students are only children. The gap between the environment in which they grew up and the unfamiliar university campus will inevitably lead to loneliness and dependence on their parents' care and love. Emotional sustenance? An important factor in love motivation.
(5) Relieve loneliness.
The free life in college is in sharp contrast with the busy study in high school, so many college students have developed the habit of laziness, especially on weekends or special festivals, and they often choose to fall in love to relieve their loneliness.
(6) Talk about psychology
College students are in the years of burning passion and dreams. Students from different places, whether boys or girls, live in the same campus. Because they are similar in age, they may all have a common language, and it is easier to walk into each other's hearts. On the other hand, when they encounter academic setbacks, conflicts of interest among classmates and family disharmony, they are more inclined to talk to a friend of the opposite sex.
Second, the common psychological effects of college students' love
(A) halo psychology
? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder? This is the psychological effect of love generally recognized by college students. It is also called halo effect or prejudice effect in psychology, which usually refers to an exaggerated social impression formed in interpersonal communication between men and women. Because college students are often full of expectations and longings for love, it is easier to lack correct and objective evaluation of lovers after love. Many things are often easier to analyze and distinguish from the emotional point of view, and it is difficult to comprehensively evaluate a person, and it is even more difficult to recognize the shortcomings of the other party.
(B) Rebellious psychology
Most college students are self-centered and are at the age of self-promotion. When their subjective needs conflict with the objective reality, they are more likely to have strong resistance, and at the same time they are more willing to realize their own needs and fight against the objective conditions against subjective will. This phenomenon often occurs in the process of love. For example, when both sides are opposed by their parents or friends, or hindered by other unfavorable factors, their inner desire to be together is more firm and their attitude of loving each other is more firm. This kind of psychology is called. Romeo and Juliet effect? Phenomenon is more likely to arouse their rebellious psychology.
self-abased
Psychological inferiority refers to the low self-evaluation of the subject, which is more likely to cause some negative emotional experiences, such as shyness, anxiety, guilt, timidity, sadness and disappointment.
Inferiority is the common psychology of many people, but its components are different. It is the existence of this negative psychological effect that makes college students adversely affected in the process of love. People with a weak sense of inferiority may find a reasonable debugging method to restore themselves in a relatively short time; People with a strong sense of inferiority need a long time to gradually get out of the shadows and rekindle the hope of pursuit; People with a strong sense of inferiority often suffer setbacks in love because they constantly doubt their abilities and worry about their self-esteem, and then they often choose to escape because they don't want to associate with others, making it more difficult to get out of the psychological shadow.
Third, the love behavior of college students.
It is precisely because of the above-mentioned psychological phenomena and psychological effects that college students have in the process of love that many unhealthy situations appear in their love behavior.
(A) enjoy the process of love, ignoring the results of love
Through investigation, it is found that many college students think that love is love itself, an emotional experience together, and a process of enjoying love, lingering, beautiful and sweet. They generally believe that love is a mutual attraction, that is, a mutual appreciation. China's concept of love embodies the freedom of contemporary college students to pursue love and the courage to yearn for true love, but they don't care much about the result of love, such as whether they can be together and become each other's lifelong partners.
(2) Love status is high and academic status is declining.
The love of many college students originated from their common interest in their major or their persistent pursuit of ideals and beliefs. They expect to study together and make progress together in the process of pursuing their ideals. This is their original intention. However, with the deepening of mutual affection, some college students are addicted to the vagaries of love, fall in love very much, are influenced by each other's emotions, and only focus on love for a limited time, even? Overtime? The enthusiasm for career achievement and learning is relatively declining, and the priorities are reversed, which will inevitably affect the overall and healthy growth of students.
(C) the concept of excessive openness, weakening traditional morality
In this era of developed media, all kinds of information are flooding the minds of college students, making them lose their ability to distinguish, perhaps because of the so-called? Fashion? College students' pursuit of love is becoming more and more open and even excessive. They are no longer ashamed that school is not allowed to fall in love. They dare to pursue, and even think that not falling in love is a great regret in college life. In the way of love, their openness leads them to cuddle and other uncivilized behaviors on university campuses, and make overly intimate moves in public places such as study rooms. Now all kinds of videos circulating on the Internet are the obvious existence of this problem, which has seriously affected the image of college students. In terms of love morality, some people are not single-minded, only care about seeking the stimulation of love, lack the basic sense of love morality, and even engage in multi-angle love relationships. In addition, the attitude towards love is extremely serious, and many behaviors often go beyond the normal love relationship.
(D) tolerant attitude towards lovelorn, tolerant and weak.
Many college students' love is influenced by herd mentality, which makes them often have a lot of blind psychology in the process of finding love and many problems that follow. So, although falling in love is a fashion for college students, but? The army of lovelorn? It is also an important part of college students. Although they are free to choose to break up, they often don't know how to deal with the problem of lovelorn. Being lovelorn is a serious setback, and many college students are not good at bearing and coping with it. Therefore, the psychological problems caused by it are also an important topic in recent years, and even suicide may occur seriously, which is a very worrying problem.