Back to the topic, we can see that such children are no longer a case, and many children are like this. Can money make up for the lack of family education? Of course not. I believe the question is the same as my answer. I just want to ask again. In fact, it is not only the wealthy families that have this problem, but also the children of ordinary families have educational problems, but they just don't have enough money to hide their eyes and ears and not attract attention.
Lao Li appealed to two things by asking the main questions.
First, family education is indispensable and parents and friends must attach importance to it. Many parents are too busy to take care of their children. But the growth of children needs the companionship and guidance of parents. Many children's unreasonable behaviors in the process of growing up are caused by the lack of family education.
Second, parents should study, and correct family education is more important. Some parents attach great importance to their children's education, but the methods are not appropriate. None of us are born educators, but we can learn. It is what parents should pay to spend more time studying and give their children a high-quality education. Education in the wrong way is better than no education at all.
The Party's educational policy is correct, and China's secular and distorted education is struggling.
With the process of reform and opening up, people's lives are getting richer and richer, and people's desire to keep up with others is also expanding, so "Don't let children lose at the starting line" has become the subconscious of China people. Emphasis on knowledge, light ability, anti-practice, parents have invested a lot of money in off-campus counseling, without stint. As we all know, children lie on money, and the sense of superiority of "the second generation of officials" and "the second generation of rich people" activates people's enjoyment nature, not to mention children! In fact, in today's information-rich society, acquiring knowledge is just a matter of tapping your fingers. What is more needed is the way of thinking and the desire for innovation. As long as we adhere to the party's educational policy, follow the educational syllabus, make full use of teaching materials, actively cooperate with teachers' education, and teach students in accordance with their aptitude, our education will certainly flourish and our children will not lose at the "starting line!"
Xie Wukong invited.
Money is of great value to family education. Today's children have various early education classes from the first week or so. When I am older, I will have various interest classes, such as painting, taekwondo, dance, hosting, English and so on. When they are older, there will be a young pinyin class, and there will be various Chinese education baptisms of traditional cultural classics. For a popular training class like English, if you hire a white foreign teacher, the price will be even more outrageous. Trained children are indeed better than those without systematic training in some aspects.
From this perspective, of course, we can't deny the significance of money to education. The probability of poor students entering famous schools has dropped significantly compared with many years ago. Nowadays, more and more children with good family conditions and rich parents will go to better schools, where teachers and teaching equipment are excellent in all aspects. Even some primary schools have irregular exchange and research activities with famous foreign schools.
However, family education is broken or seriously lacking, and it is impossible to train qualified talents by spending money blindly.
Family education, social teaching AIDS and school education are indispensable, and family education is particularly important. If family education is missing or incorrect, children can't be taught well simply by relying on school education. "Grandma sent it to eat, and she fed it bite by bite." How can such a family style cultivate children with independent personality? Good family discipline, parents leading by example and timely companionship are the best education for children.
Money is a necessary factor for a quality education, but it is not a sufficient factor. Education is inseparable from money, but money is not equal to quality education.
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Boys spent two years in high school abroad and spent 2 million. They often play games outside, but they didn't graduate. This result should be entirely attributed to the wrong decision of parents, which led to the failure of son education. The author deeply regrets this.
What should parents do about this now? What lessons should other parents learn from it? Let's talk about my personal opinion.
As parents, you should call your son to your side as soon as possible to help you with your work. You can arrange some hard things for him to do and let him experience the hardships of life personally.
When he has a new understanding and thinks that his original practice is wrong, you can go to this country to study in a vocational high school, take a vocational examination, choose your favorite major, learn a professional technology, and choose a way out for your child's future livelihood.
As other parents, we should learn two lessons from it. The author thinks:
First, children must follow their parents and be educated by their parents themselves. Children are born by themselves, so they must be with their parents. Don't just care about your career, regardless of your children. We should give consideration to career and children. You must realize that your child has succeeded, so that you can live a good life. No matter how much money you earn, regardless of your children, your children will spend it all for you, so that you will have no worries everywhere when you are old.
If you leave your children with grandparents directly, it will save you trouble. However, because you are divorced from your parents' education, because most grandparents love and spoil their grandchildren, all the requirements put forward by grandchildren will generally be met as much as possible, which will make your children willful and parents unable to educate, which will naturally become useless.
Second, children should read naturally. Schools should be chosen according to the specific situation of children's learning. Some of our parents think that if they earn a lot of money, they should send their children to a place far away from their parents, a well-known school or abroad to create a so-called good educational environment for their children.
In fact, parents should know that their children's grades are not particularly good. Although they are not very old in junior high school and senior high school, their ability to control themselves and manage themselves is very poor. Sending children to so-called well-known schools far away from their parents or abroad has caused an imbalance in parental control. Children are like wild horses without reins, doing whatever they want. As a result, children form bad habits, which leads to educational failure.
The child lost 2 million yuan after studying abroad for two years? What a loser! You should lose more! Such parents, undefeated and homeless, can't make her (him) anxious! Because money is their spiritual pillar! It is the bottom line, don't touch the bottom line, so parents won't really reflect on whether their education for their children is biased! That's why the child has become a walking parasite! A large part of the reason is poisoned by parents' wrong outlook on life and values! In their hearts, only money is everything! If you have money, you can send your children to study abroad. Gold plated! Then there will be a bright future! Don't you know that your children have already been infiltrated by the words and deeds of adults? Since there is plenty of money at home, why should I fight to death? Parents' money is for themselves! No white flowers! So a black sheep was born! ! ! God is fair! His old man's house gave you wealth, and at the same time he took away some smart brain cells from you! Let your younger generation distribute your wealth equally to those who really need it! This is fair! ! In this world, money is really important, and money can satisfy many wishes of a person! But cleverness and wisdom can't be exchanged for money anyway! ! ! The same good boy has nothing to do with more money and less Qian Qian! ! Why can so many poor teenagers make a difference? In the final analysis, it is still a question of parent education! Parents' correct outlook on life and values will be reflected everywhere in their words and deeds! The child has been guided correctly without knowing it! Can children trained in this positive energy environment become good children? ! Even if he is an ordinary person, he must be a self-improvement person! ! !
Wukong, thank you for inviting me: the education is valid. Once you miss it, it's hard to make up for it.
Whether studying at home or abroad, there is only one purpose: to learn knowledge and receive education. In the process of achieving this goal, the role of money can only be to provide the threshold for admission and ensure the cost of learning. Success depends on the quality of learners themselves.
Ms. Liu's son did not receive a good family education when he was a child. In the absence of good study habits, it is actually not suitable for spending money to study abroad. The reasons are as follows: First, being abroad and far from home, it is difficult for family members to supervise their daily behavior; As a result, he wasted a good time studying. Second, he spent a lot of money but had bad study habits, which made it difficult for him to achieve the expected learning effect both in his eyes and in front of him.
The performance of Ms. Liu's son after his failure to study abroad has a lot to do with the weakness of his family. In the long run, this giant baby will not only bring money consumption to the family, but also endless mental torture. ...
"What should I leave for my children? 》
Sometimes I think, what is it that people work hard all their lives to have children? Is it seeking fame or continuing the blood?
According to our tradition, parents have worked hard for their children all their lives and have no regrets. Since they gave him life, we should care about his growth. But some people pay too much attention to material things and ignore spiritual things, leading to cases in the problem, just waiting to be abandoned and doing nothing.
Strange children? I said that the children are fine and the parents have problems. As the ancients said, it is the father's fault that the son does not teach. It's the parents' fault here, because now men and women are equal, and parents have the responsibility to educate their children.
A person's growth needs the influence of many factors, such as family and society, and any party will have unimaginable consequences if it lets itself go. Especially in the materialistic era, people's value orientation has changed, so there are many "actors" who are obsessed with depravity like the moon in idolize, which is directly related to people's quality, and people's quality, including culture and morality, has been cultivated bit by bit since childhood, so there is the saying of educating people for a hundred years. Therefore, I think the most fundamental thing is to attach importance to education-family, school and social education, guide fine traditions and carry forward healthy trends; In addition to giving children life and wealth, we should also teach them good virtues, so that their lives have hope and the motherland has a future!
Spending 2 million yuan in two years is not easy for ordinary families to afford, so it shows that his family has good economic conditions and his children dare to spend money like this, which shows that the family has been indulging him. Why not spend more? Parents have a great responsibility and have formed the habit of using clothes to get enough food. Are you an idiot or a son? Now let him live by himself, not with grandma. Tell him that his family is in debt and has no money. Give him three months' living expenses and tell him that the living expenses are also borrowed. Let him find a job to support himself as soon as possible, and don't force him to be independent. How can he feel the hardships of life? Otherwise, his parents will get old and his fortune will be destroyed. At that time, his parents would only have a miserable old age.
No matter whether you have money or not, studying abroad will lose 2 million, which should be denied. Going to school, whether it is primary school, middle school, university or studying abroad, should focus on learning knowledge. If the family conditions are better, it is understandable to spend more, but spending money is beyond the scope of learning expenses. There must be something wrong with the students' own consciousness. This is to meet the higher consumption of students, for fear that they will not study well.
It can be said that it is counterproductive for rich parents to use money to make up for their children's educational shortcomings. Parents should first take learning as the main part of educating their children and run through the whole education process. Otherwise, he will spend your hard-earned money worthless and turn your dream of raising children into a pillow, believe it or not!
I can only say that my son dares to spend money and my parents dare to give it! I don't think he will study abroad, but he will go to play. I don't think his parents should have given him as much as he wanted from the beginning. Even if the expenses abroad are large, they will not be so much. As an adult, how much does he need to spend a year? Give it to him at one time. Tell him that this is the cost of studying abroad for one year, how to spend it and how to allocate it to yourself, and tell him that his parents have no extra money for him, so that he will not spend it indiscriminately. I told him to form a good habit of not spending money indiscriminately from an early age. I think he should spend money like this when he was a child. He has no concept of money. All he knows is that he can ask his parents for it after he spends it, and his parents have never refused. Besides, his family should be relatively rich and can bear the living expenses of 2 million in two years. If his parents support him to spend money at home, there is nothing to say. Many rural children's college living expenses 1 000.
Parents have developed a good habit of thrift since childhood. No matter what children want, they are blindly satisfied. Parents will buy a toy when they see it, and they will unconditionally agree to whatever they want. This will only hurt him. Learn to say no to children. You can buy a toy once a month, and you can buy something once for good behavior. You can't spoil your children just because you have money at home. People grow up only once, and a good education has a lifelong impact on children.
I saw a professor say in a program that the most important thing for a child is education, education and education. He is very strict with his children.