From the perspective of interpersonal relationship, there are great differences between universities and middle schools. Especially for students who leave the local area to go to universities in other places, they feel a world of difference. The original local language is gone, the classmates and teachers who speak the same language are gone, and the parents and family who give themselves psychological comfort and physical care are not around. For the first time, the word "independence" really came into our life in all directions. But independence doesn't mean living alone. Because of the interpersonal relationship lost when I left home, I can only start a new interpersonal relationship in a completely different environment. Whether the interpersonal relationship can be handled well in the brand-new environment of university directly affects the study, daily life, psychological endurance and physical health of college students during the whole university period. More importantly, the interpersonal relationship on campus directly or indirectly affects the future life path after graduation. Therefore, it is by no means a trivial matter to handle the interpersonal relationship during college, but a major event that should be taken seriously from the beginning. The interpersonal relationships of college students in universities mainly include: relationships with classmates, teachers, department leaders, other members of their clubs and lovers. Judging from the current situation, most college students failed to handle these five kinds of interpersonal relationships well during their college years. However, if we can't handle these relationships correctly, it will lead to the following results for college students: (1) They can't integrate into campus life as soon as possible, their grades are getting worse and worse, and they lack confidence in their own learning, which leads to serious graduation obstacles; (2) Feeling intense mental pain, being in a trance all day, not interested in anything, either doing nothing all day, or indulging in alcohol and online games; (3) Because of poor grades and unhappy spirits, I feel that I am worse than others in all aspects, gradually closing myself off, leaving classes and other groups, and suffering from loneliness and boredom; (4) If the problem is not solved in time, it is likely to lead to mental illness, even crime and suicide. Of course, the consequences of not handling interpersonal relationships are far more than these, but the above behavior is the more serious consequence. First of all, we should deal with the relationship with the students in the dormitory. This is the most important relationship among all interpersonal relationships during college, and it is also the starting point for dealing with other relationships, which is inextricably linked with almost all other activities during college. Several students from different places, different family backgrounds, different economic conditions, different cultural traditions, different languages and customs suddenly want to live in the same room, which is a great challenge to the ability of college students to deal with interpersonal relationships. Even students from the same place have many differences. For example, some like quiet, some like lively; Some love cleanliness, pay attention to personal hygiene, some are sloppy, and pay little attention to other people's feelings; Some people like to go to bed early and get up early, while others don't have a certain schedule. And so on, the differences may be difficult to enumerate. So it is conceivable that there are many differences among students in different places. To handle the relationship between roommates well, we should do the following: First, we should have a tolerant heart. You know, personal ideas and living habits have been developed for more than ten years, and you can't get rid of them in a day or two. You think other people's ideas and habits are strange, and others may find your ideas and habits unbearable. As the saying goes, habit is second nature. Therefore, when encountering ideas and living habits different from your own, you should be good at thinking from each other's standpoint and be more tolerant and understanding. Some students don't want to solve the problem when they can't handle the relationship with their roommates well, but start to escape. The way to escape is not to go back to the dormitory, but to hide in the library or classroom until the lights are turned off. What's more, renting a house off campus is a waste of money, and it is also a complete separation between yourself and your classmates. This is a kind of self-deception, which does not help solve the problem at all. The second is to be good at communicating with each other. When encountering problems, students in the same dormitory must sit down, calmly express their views and ideas, have a full discussion together, form a unified opinion on the basis of taking a step back, formulate rules that everyone must abide by, and supervise according to these rules. After a long time, everyone will get used to it and the relationship will be natural. The third is to learn to respect others. Being respected is a psychological satisfaction that anyone needs. Tolerance is the starting point of respect. We should respect other people's ideas, practices and habits. If you want others to respect your ideas, practices and habits, the only way to succeed is to respect these things of others first. Secondly, we should deal with the relationship between classmates. Now many students know little about some students during their four years in college, or don't know their names, or even never say a word. This situation can be said to exist in every college class. Most students will confine themselves to a circle divided by specific things, such as hobbies, academic performance, economic conditions, geographical scope and so on. From the perspective of interpersonal relationship, this is a great pity. Why is it a pity? The reasons are as follows. First, people live in interpersonal relationships. University provides us with a rare place to establish lasting and good interpersonal relationships. Because college students come from different backgrounds, we also need people from different backgrounds to support our future life. After graduating from college, students may go all over the country, even all over the world. These classmates will provide us with a huge interpersonal network. Second, there are at least 50 or 60 years of life after graduating from college. In such a long period of time, the world will undergo endless changes. What kind of support we need in our future life may not be fully visible today. What we don't seem to need today may be what we need most at some point. Our classmates, in different places, may have exactly what we need in the future because of different life experiences. Only good interpersonal relationships can provide us with these things in time. Third, no one's life trajectory can completely see the future from now on. Don't predict a classmate's future success or failure in society according to his/her current situation. A classmate you see today who doesn't even like to talk may achieve success you can't imagine many years later; Today, students with poor academic performance, even the worst in the class, may become well-known expectations in a field other than their own professional fields; Students with poor economic conditions today may be better off than you many years later 100 times; The shortest student in the class may be the president of a multinational company in ten years. This so-called judge a person by his appearance, the sea is immeasurable. Who will help you in your future life, what kind of help you need, when you need help, and who you need in your life. All this is unpredictable now. So any student in the class may bring good news to your later life. Fourth, interpersonal relationship is a huge network. Your relationship with your classmates is by no means limited to you and your classmates. You know, your classmate has his or her own personal network. In addition to his (her) relationship, there are countless relationships, and these countless relationships can be linked with you. For example, one day one of your relatives got a disease, and this disease is so special that it is difficult for doctors and drugs to find in your own relationship. At this time, you will think of him or her who has a good relationship with your classmates, and your classmates are unable to help you. But because he (she) has a close relationship with you, he (she) can find people who don't know you in a larger circle through his/her own relationship. This person who can help you may be in a place you have never been, may be abroad, or may be near your home, but you don't know him. And the people who can help you now are your college classmates. This is the role of interpersonal networks. To sum up, dealing with interpersonal relationships between students during college is not only related to our study and life during school, but also to our life after leaving campus, which is one of the most important interpersonal relationships that affect our life. If we don't handle it well, our precious college life will become dull and colorless, and we will feel depressed and lose many things we need in our future life. If handled well, our college life will be full of sunshine every day, and we will feel very comfortable. It will also help us learn the methods and skills needed to deal with interpersonal relationships in the future, prepare for future life and create more opportunities for future life.