At the end of Qin Dynasty, Liu Bang went to attend the Hongmen banquet hosted by Xiang Yu. Xiang Yu's father, Fan Zeng, has always advocated killing Liu Bang. At the banquet, he repeatedly motioned for Xiang Yu to start, but Xiang Yu hesitated and silently refused. Fan Zengzhao invited Xiangzhuang to dance sword to dinner, trying to kill Liu Bang. Xiang Bo drew his sword to protect Liu Bang and covered Liu Bang. At this critical juncture, Liu Bang's subordinate Fan Kuai came in with a shield in one hand and a sword in the other. The guards came to stop him, but Fan Kuai, who was as energetic as nobody's business, stumbled.
Xiang Yu saw a strong man with a hunchback and cracked fingers coming in and standing in the middle of the hall. He was very surprised and asked, "Who is this?" Sean hurried forward and replied, "This is Fan Kuai who opened the car for Pei." Xiang Yu likes strong men best in his life. When he saw Fan Kuai, he said, "What a strong man!" Then he ordered the guard to give him a glass of wine. Fan Kuai took it, cut it with his sword, and ate it up in a flash. Seeing that Fan Kuai was so heroic, Xiang Yu asked, "Can a strong man drink again?" Fan Kuai replied angrily, "I'm not afraid of death, and I'm afraid of drinking. At that time, the king of Qin was extremely tyrannical, killing people like tigers, which was outrageous and drove the world to revolt. Chu Huaiwang had an appointment first, and whoever entered the customs first was named king of Guanzhong, but Pei Gong entered the customs first and failed to become king. Instead, I closed the library and closed the palace, stationed troops in Pakistan, and waited for the arrival of the general. " What's the difference between such a hardworking man and the cruel king of Qin? "Xiang Yu was speechless, and Liu Bang took the opportunity to escape and get rid of a crisis.
Fan Kuai is just a little coachman. Why can he let Xiang Yu, the overlord of Chu, look so highly? The key is that Xiang Yu has a good impression on Fan Kuai and can listen to Fan Kuai. It is understandable to let Liu Bang go.
A person's first impression often leaves a deep impression on the other party. If you make a good impression on others in the first interaction, others will be happy to have a second interaction with you. On the contrary, if you don't perform well or well in the first communication, it is often difficult to recover. Therefore, when dealing with people for the first time, we must pay attention to our "first impression".
Bai Wei is a "white-collar worker" in the computer industry and has a strong working ability. But she has a bad habit. In life, she is always informal and wears jeans all day, giving people the impression of fooling around. And she never wanted to pay attention to her personal image.
Once, she went to a company for an interview and was still wearing that suit. As soon as they met, the person in charge of recruitment frowned. After a few words, the two sides ordered the guests to leave: "Sorry, what our company needs is people with serious work attitude and life attitude!" "
Bai Wei's interview ended in failure. If you want to pass the interview smoothly, the first impression is a link that cannot be ignored. If you don't even have the qualification to enter the door, where is the opportunity to display your talents?
Bai Wei missed a good opportunity because she didn't pass the first impression. Charming people are always welcome, and everyone wants to impress others. So we must pay attention to shaping our external image, but the external image is not just beautiful clothes, it pays more attention to your behavior and temperament revealed from it. Therefore, if you want to have a good image, you must pay attention to the improvement of dress, behavior and your own quality, so that your image can shine in communication.
Mr. Dong Qinghe, a professor of education at Waseda University in Japan and a lecturer in psychology in Tokyo, once said, "There are fifty or sixty basic words to describe a person's impression, but only five or six are used to describe the first impression, because the first impression can only be described with extremely superficial words. For example, annoying, smart, beautiful, gentle, energetic and so on. "
It is not difficult to win five or six favorable comments. As long as you work hard, you can enjoy the results of enhancing your image. But to enhance the image, we should not only decorate the appearance with dignity, but more importantly, how to express the connotation in the form of appearance. Some people think that the first ten seconds of an interview will determine whether things will succeed or not. People usually judge a person quickly according to his impression in the first few seconds of meeting him. If this impression is good, it will promote things. Otherwise, it can only be counterproductive.
At the end of Qin Dynasty, Liu Bang went to attend the Hongmen banquet hosted by Xiang Yu. Xiang Yu's father, Fan Zeng, has always advocated killing Liu Bang. At the banquet, he repeatedly motioned for Xiang Yu to start, but Xiang Yu hesitated and silently refused. Fan Zengzhao invited Xiangzhuang to dance sword to dinner, trying to kill Liu Bang. Xiang Bo drew his sword to protect Liu Bang and covered Liu Bang. At this critical juncture, Liu Bang's subordinate Fan Kuai came in with a shield in one hand and a sword in the other. The guards came to stop him, but Fan Kuai, who was as energetic as nobody's business, stumbled.
Xiang Yu saw a strong man with a hunchback and cracked fingers coming in and standing in the middle of the hall. He was very surprised and asked, "Who is this?" Sean hurried forward and replied, "This is Fan Kuai who opened the car for Pei." Xiang Yu likes strong men best in his life. When he saw Fan Kuai, he said, "What a strong man!" Then he ordered the guard to give him a glass of wine. Fan Kuai took it, cut it with his sword, and ate it up in a flash. Seeing that Fan Kuai was so heroic, Xiang Yu asked, "Can a strong man drink again?" Fan Kuai replied angrily, "I'm not afraid of death, and I'm afraid of drinking. At that time, the king of Qin was extremely tyrannical, killing people like tigers, which was outrageous and drove the world to revolt. Chu Huaiwang had an appointment first, and whoever entered the customs first was named king of Guanzhong, but Pei Gong entered the customs first and failed to become king. Instead, I closed the library and closed the palace, stationed troops in Pakistan, and waited for the arrival of the general. " What's the difference between such a hardworking man and the cruel king of Qin? "Xiang Yu was speechless, and Liu Bang took the opportunity to escape and get rid of a crisis.
Fan Kuai is just a little coachman.