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Colleague Yuanyuan already has a daughter and recently conceived a second child. I asked her if she wanted a little princess or a prince this time.

"It is best to have a daughter."

"ah? Having a son, both children are not good! "

Yuanyuan answered directly without thinking, "My family has no throne to inherit. Why do you have to have a boy! "

She is right, but in reality, son preference is still a common phenomenon, especially in rural areas, and this trend has not disappeared.

In college, Mo Yan became the first person in China to win the Nobel Prize in Literature. I know him well, not because he won the prize, but because the headmaster of our school looks like him!

I was interested in the novel "Big Breasts and Fat Buttocks" from the beginning. At the beginning of the story, Shangguanlu's family is experiencing various painful childbirth. She had seven daughters before, but both her mother-in-law and her husband wanted a boy. We can imagine her old life. The husband beats and scolds endlessly, the mother-in-law treats each other coldly, and the daughter is young and hungry. Fortunately, this time she gave birth to a girl and a boy at the same time. The boy's name is Jintong Shangguan, but he became a breast worshipper when he grew up.

The concept of son preference has been deeply rooted in people's hearts, and it is accompanied by human beings like a tumor.

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Some time ago, "Ode to Joy" was broadcasted, which caused countless people to sing bad. In reality, there is never a shortage of Fan and Qu Xiaoyu.

Fan's family is her lifelong sorrow. She laughed at herself. I'm thirty years old, and I have no savings! All the money she earned was given to her parents for family use. As a result, her mother gave all her money to her disappointing brother. She is vain and must buy a good house before she can get married. What's wrong with her? If there is, it is also the family environment that forces her to prefer sons to daughters.

Children who were not treated fairly by their parents in their childhood, who were not held in their arms and loved by their parents, lacked calcium from childhood and lacked love when they grew up. She is extremely insecure, and the house is the best tool to give her a sense of security.

Qu Xiaoyu was born in a wealthy family. She has a beautiful mountain view. She is a smart and capable woman in her career. In fact, she is a kind little woman at heart. She works very hard. She just wants her father to take a look at herself and know that her daughter is fine. But her father finally chose her brother. Fortunately, she has a doctor Zhao who is willing to raise her.

My college classmate Linlin is Fan Meisheng in real life!

When Lin Lin was in college, she once lost her water card and cried in the dormitory for a long time. Once a quilt was stolen, and he scolded the thief all afternoon. We all think this is not enough.

That's what she said. My father only gives me a fixed living allowance every month, not a penny more. He cried even harder and told everything at home.

"My grandmother has a preference for boys since childhood, and so have my parents. My brother wanted everything since he was a child, and I wanted to buy a new schoolbag without saying anything. My grandmother scolded me for wasting money. My brother tore up my new textbook, I pushed him down and my mother gave me a good beating. He stole my pocket money, and my mother didn't say anything when she found out. I go to college, and my monthly living expenses are not as much as my brother's high school living expenses. My dad always said I was his little cotton-padded jacket. Last year, I took all my family savings and bought a house for my brother in the city center. The real estate license wrote the names of the three of them, but didn't write me ... "

Such things are common in rural areas and even cities.

Those girls who are treated with preference for boys have a gloomy childhood, without love and warmth. Old people's preference for boys makes them feel inferior from an early age, and they are often laughed at by other children for having no parents, which leads to their withdrawn and inferior personality.

If she has not been treated gently by this world, how can she learn to treat others gently! The unfairness in life leads them to be short-tempered, irritable, aggressive and arrogant.

Lack of love, so inferiority, because inferiority, so conceit, because conceit, so strong.

Lack of love, so lonely, because lonely, so paranoid, because paranoid, so scarred.

The greatest despair in life is never a choice, but no choice!

We can't choose our birth. What did the girl who was treated like a son preference do wrong in her last life? I was born with such a grievance!

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Preference for boys seems to be a terrible common fault. People in the previous generation prefer sons to daughters, which will be passed on to the next generation. Ironically, it is often women who prefer boys to girls in the next life. Obviously, their children have to taste it again after what they have experienced. Is this human selfishness or moral sorrow?

Therefore, we can always see such a picture in our lives.

The man said that girls don't have to study hard, but they will get married in the future anyway. Many girls drop out of school and then work to support their families. All the money they earn is used by parents to raise their sons.

When the second child policy was not liberalized, in order to have a boy, the girl born could only be sent out to live with relatives, and then she was called her biological parents, uncles and aunts.

Grandma pointed at the girl and scolded her. Why do you say you are such a loser? I can't even take care of my brother!

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They did nothing wrong, but the world treated them so cruelly.

When watching the movie "Wrestle, Dad", the most touching thing was that when Guitar and Babita's friends got married, they said that they, like other girls in India, had no freedom and sovereignty at all. At that time, they were left at home like drag bottles, married an unknown man, and then lived a slave life.

This film mercilessly criticizes the unequal hierarchy between men and women in India and calls on women to pursue equality and freedom through their own efforts.

Those girls who are treated with preference for boys, some meet Bole and some meet ferrymen, which is extremely lucky.

No matter what kind of adversity you are in, I hope you can seize the only light and breathe the air desperately, even if you are alone, don't give up growing up. To live is to love yourself. Living well is the most meaningful thing.

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In reality, many stars are desperate to have sons. Yi Nengjing said that since she was a child, she has always wanted to have boys. She tried various other ways to have a son, drank Chinese medicine and nourishing soup, and later decided to have a daughter, feeling depressed and very anxious. Later, under the guidance of her husband, she got out of her anxiety.

Korean actress Choo Ja Hyun is deeply loved by many audiences because of her role in The Temptation to Go Home. She said in a program that when she was a child, her parents divorced, her grandmother preferred sons to daughters, and her mother cursed her to die. Later, she developed better and better in China, met Ethan, the love of her life, and finally got out of the dark life where she was treated as son preference.

Most girls who are treated with preference for boys are extremely insecure and eager to change their lives through their own efforts, or try to jump out of the original circle and have a new start.

On the surface, they are strong and independent, but in fact, their hearts are riddled with holes and devastation. No one loves themselves, so they hold themselves when they are sad. No one cares about themselves, so they go into darkness one by one and never look back.

Looking back suddenly, the man was in the dim light. May you find the light in your heart as soon as possible, illuminate yourself and warm yourself.