Some time ago, there was a speechless scene in Shanghai Library.

A middle-aged man in blue is not reading in the library, but staring at a girl all the time. When the customer is uncomfortable, politely remind him to stop this behavior.

As a result, this reminder attracted a man's loud question:

"At this age, why don't you go home and have children and raise children?"

Next to an elderly reader can't see the past, to persuade the man, the result was turned back by the man:

"You're more than eighty years old and still mind your own business? I am younger than you! "

Even personally insulted female readers:

"Reading can't change your humble position!"

Words are amazing, and they won't stop until they die.

According to informed sources, this is not the first time. The purpose of his coming to the library is not to read books, but to spoil books and harass others.

When other people in the library commented on his practice, he dismissed it and even held his head high:

"Are you capable of buying a house in Lujiazui?"

"Finally, you'd better go back to your hometown, a group of smelly diaosi!"

And in public, he said he was from Fudan, and then he said he was from Hunan University, clamoring for the whole museum:

"How many women are college graduates here? Let me see. The curator doesn't deserve to take care of me. Do you also take care of me? "

At this moment, I have to borrow a sentence from Yang Li: Why are some men so ordinary but so confident?

In the face of such people's foul language, netizens commented well:

Learning is not to marry such a man!

The importance of girls' reading can be imagined.

Reading has more choices and self-confidence.

The 20021China Marriage Survey Report shows that economically independent women have more power and freedom to pursue the happiness of marriage and family, while women who take care of their husbands and children at home or have relatively poor economic conditions are often subject to others.

A survey in a certain area of Shanghai found that the divorce rate of people with lower education level is relatively high.

Nowadays, marrying a good partner is no longer a reference standard for women's success. For women, real success is their personal career and pursuit.

Because only when you control the economy and realize your independence will you have more rights to choose and refuse.

The best way to realize your career, for most ordinary people, is reading.

Jane Eyre played by Tamia Liu in Xinghai is a typical example.

Her professional ability is excellent, because her education is only high school level, and she has repeatedly hit a wall in the interview.

The interviewer only glanced at her education level and refused to communicate with her further.

The scene is so real that the topic "Is education really more important than experience?" Has been hot searched.

On the contrary, it is Meng Yutong, the successor of Gree who has been hotly debated recently.

She seems to be blessed by the god of luck in TV series. She will eventually win Gree offer in We Are Novices in the Workplace and win Dong Mingzhu's unabashed admiration.

But few people know that she has been struggling on this road for a long time.

As a linguist Meng Yutong who went to Zhejiang University, it is hard to think that her worst subject in high school was actually a foreign language.

In order to improve her foreign language level, she actively looks for various ways to make progress with others on the Internet. Finally, her foreign language performance improved step by step, and she was qualified to be sent to Zhejiang University.

After going to college, she won a scholarship to Zhejiang University by her own efforts.

Finally, step by step, achieve your own life.

Meng Yutong's success is not easy.

As a girl, the difficulties and setbacks we need to face are not only the bottleneck of age, the fetters of family, but also the fetters of traditional social concepts.

Just as Ming Lan said when she talked to her grandmother about "a woman without talent is virtue" in Know, "this sentence is just that those men want women to be ignorant, obedient and easy to manipulate all their lives."

The best key to unlock these shackles is to use the power of knowledge and truth to pry open the door that has been boring for a long time and open another road of independence and self-improvement.

No matter who holds up half the sky, we all have our own ability and choice to live independently.

Reading is more about understanding and loving others.

The importance of girls' reading lies in their independence and freedom, so boys don't need it?

Not exactly. It's just that there is a more important layer for boys to learn, which is to understand and love others.

In marriage and family, there is an interesting phenomenon:

A good man, although strong outside, is considerate to his wife and children at home. The men at the bottom, on the other hand, kowtow to the outside and run their teeth at home.

The reason behind this is inconclusive, but there is an important reason, which is the cultivation brought by reading.

Behind a degree certificate, it represents not only a degree, but also your efforts and attitude towards it.

A female netizen with a high degree in Zhihu talks about marriage. Her husband has only received technical secondary education. Before being together, he was caring and attentive to her, but after being together, his nature was exposed, he was not enterprising and lazy.

The two often quarreled and finally ended in divorce.

In the face of this failed marriage, she can't help but sigh: in this marriage, the cognitive differences between the two are too great. Although education itself does not mean anything, it can at least reflect a person's attitude.

I'm impressed.

Behind reading is the expansion of one's cognition and the cultivation of one's own character. As the ancients said, "be virtuous, be close to the people and stop at perfection".

These beautiful qualities fall on people, which are respect for others, understanding, tolerance and love.

Some time ago, I was very moved to see the confession of a poor student in Tsinghua.

With excellent grades, he grew up in a poor family and had a hard life.

In the first two years of college, he only spent 10 yuan for dinner every day, and didn't want to drink 1.5 cups of drinks. The sum of all train tickets in four years is not as good as the high-speed train from Beijing to Shanghai.

It is such a poor person who needs financial aid, earning money as a tutor and studying insurance research at the same time.

With the ability to pay the daily expenses, he chose to spend 3200 yuan each semester to help poor children study and live.

From needing financial support to getting support from others by his own efforts, he has been practicing Tsinghua's school motto: self-improvement, kindness and morality.

Of course, there is a strong and unyielding character behind this, but what can affect him most is the power of reading.

Otherwise, why did he keep excellent grades and be admitted to Tsinghua? How to give back to society and help poor children with practical actions?

Behind this tenderness is that he knows the value of reading and is the best opportunity to change a person's fate.

Just like the movie Casablanca said: In your present temperament, there are roads you have traveled, books you have read and people you have loved.

The power of reading is far beyond your imagination.

When you work hard, the whole world will make way for you.

God may be unfair. Some people were born in Rome, and some people are still on the road after rough times.

But God is fair, because it gives everyone a chance to compete and challenge.

Jiang Xiaoxue, who was admitted to Tsinghua after dropping out of school, thus became a light between fairness and unfairness.

Jiang Xiaoxue's family is in Shandong Province. Her mother is deaf and dumb and has no job. Her father is too old to do heavy work and his family income is very unstable.

When I was admitted to high school, my grades fell all the way because I couldn't adapt to the changes in junior and senior high schools.

Financial difficulties and poor grades made her lose hope in her studies and chose to drop out of school and work outside to earn money.

The hard work and low income made her wake up. After all, she will go back to the classroom. At least, she should have a high school diploma.

When she returned to school, she met the liberal arts branch. Because she missed a semester's homework, she faced greater challenges and pressures.

So, with the encouragement of her teacher, she made a study plan suitable for her, asked her teachers, brothers and sisters for learning methods, and even regarded school as her second home.

Throughout her sophomore year, she went home for no more than 20 days.

It is with such strength that she finally got the admission notice from Tsinghua University with excellent results and became the first liberal arts student in her hometown to be admitted to Tsinghua in the past ten years.

"If you are poor, you will be strong, and you will not fall into the ambition of Qingyun."

Originally ordinary, she wrote an amazing chapter in her dreamlike life with indomitable efforts.

As Kotaro Isaka once said, "Do you know what is the greatest weapon of mankind? It is the determination to go out. "

When you try hard, the whole world will give in to you.

The meaning of reading: "draw water from a bamboo basket and have nothing"?

After studying for so many years, many people always ask: I have read many books, but I have forgotten most of them. So what is the meaning of reading?

Once I was confused by this question, and it was not until I saw a passage that I suddenly realized.

This passage says:

"Reading has two meanings, one is to make people live proudly, and the other is to make people clean.

After reading a book, you may soon forget it, just like drawing water in a bamboo basket, which is empty. But the bamboo basket has been baptized by water again and again, and it is cleaner every time. A person may not remember anything when reading a book every day, but he will subconsciously understand what is right and what is wrong. "

Behind drawing water with a sieve is our infinite pursuit of truth and a better life.

Therefore, reading more books, learning more knowledge and saving enough confidence and capital for yourself will be the best investment with the lowest cost in your life.