How are you doing? Originally, this letter should have been written a long time ago, and there were many things that should have been said a long time ago, but I didn't write or say it. It's not that I don't want to, but that I know you hate an empty missionary. So, I am waiting, waiting for you to experience life, waiting for your understanding of life, waiting for your own reflection on life attitude. These things are only a matter of time. At the end of the semester, I think this letter can be written, and these words can be said. I believe that you should have some feelings with me, and your thoughts should be able to reach a depth.

I still remember that at the graduation ceremony, a classmate said a sentence when talking about his feelings about college life. "There are two kinds of people in universities, one is talents and the other is scum."

So, for those of you who have spent some time in college, I want to ask: Are you talents or scum?

If I guess correctly, you will definitely answer: I am neither a talent nor a scum, I am in between. If so, I think you are degenerating into human scum. Do you think this is extreme? We need to go to extremes on this issue. Did you spend a lot of time at a loss in the past semester? You spend a lot of time in the dormitory bed, chatting about QQ and playing online games. Another semester passed, and suddenly I found that I didn't listen carefully to several classes, although all the classes I gave you were above the lecturer level; Suddenly I found that I didn't read a few books carefully, although there are many books in your university library; I suddenly found myself learning nothing, although there are many things in college. Don't say that you don't understand in class, don't say that the teacher doesn't care, don't say that you are not interested in your major, don't say that the school is too abusive, and you don't need an excuse to degenerate.

If I remember correctly, your annual tuition is more than 4,000 yuan, and most of them can reach more than 7,000 to 8,000 yuan with living expenses. Now you are in college and receiving a high-cost education, but how much output did your parents get from their high investment?

Most of you come from rural areas or small business families, and not many people have rich family wealth. Every penny you use now is the hard-earned money of your parents, even the money borrowed everywhere, which contains incomparable hardships and love for you. On their old faces scarred by years, there are also a pair of hopeful eyes for you, muddled and even a little vague.

Hope can turn into disappointment, and disappointment can turn into despair, but who is the decider of this change?

Responsibility is not given to you by others, but determined by your mature thoughts. You all say that you have grown up and said that you are mature, but I think that at the age of 20, you are only an appearance of maturity. You have a responsibility to your parents that you can never shirk, but you gave up your mission in inaction and degeneration.

After the end of the semester, you go home for the Spring Festival. Your parents still love you, are still full of hope, and still exhort you. But you don't apologize at all, don't talk about your study at all, or even show them your report card. You hide in a corner and sign their names by yourself.

Liar, an irresponsible liar, a liar who can become scum, I don't want to see you like this, and I have always stubbornly believed that you can be my pride.

It is difficult to build a thing, but it is easy to destroy it. Students, please remember and assume your responsibilities to your parents.

In college, many students have reflected such a problem: they don't know what they want to do in a day, or they have no motivation to do anything. This is a common phenomenon, because you have lost your goal. The reason for this is the following：

First, you have been admitted to the university and achieved your ultimate goal of dominating primary, middle and high schools. For many students, college is the last stage of your study. After graduating from college, you must find a job, but for you who have been a student for 12 years, it still seems out of reach.

Second, the teaching methods in universities are completely different from those in other periods. There are no teachers around you in the university, for fear that you have learned nothing. Whether you learn or not is entirely your own business. You're an adult. Without repeated explanations and endless homework, you will feel that the class is empty for you. What should I do if I learn? What should I do if I don't learn? Instead of making yourself study so hard, let yourself live a little more freely.

Third, there is too much time left for yourself in college. From morning self-study to evening self-study, there are teachers who arrange your tasks properly. Up to now, no one has told you what to do, leaving you at a loss. Most of you lack spiritual independence and good self-control, and you can't grasp these seemingly excessive freedoms at all.

Fourth, counselors in universities are completely different from former class teachers. The former head teacher had to take care of everything, just like a harsh nanny, because he regarded you as a child who had not grown up yet; Psychological counselors nowadays don't care much about specific things, because they treat you as an adult. In this process, there is another huge disconnect, and you can't complete this transformation psychologically and intellectually.

Fifth, most of you lack clear and definite goals in life. You don't know what kind of person you want to be or what kind of career you want to be. From the ideal of primary school, to the future of junior high school, to the university of high school, and then to the confusion of university, you have completed the transformation of your life goals in this process, and the last thing left is dead bugs. I think the combination of these five points makes you lose your goal. However, a ship without direction is not downwind.

You should find your goal, not immediately, but in the shortest possible time. Here I give you some advice, hoping to help you find your goal.

The first step is to put aside all obstacles and start from the major and think about what kind of work or career you want to do in the future. Find a blank sheet of paper and record your final decision. Please do not hesitate. Postgraduate entrance examination? Examination of civil servants? Teacher? Technician? Salesman? Other?

The second step is to fully understand the professional skills and other skills needed to engage in the job you set by using the internet and the recruitment notices in the talent market. Most of the theoretical knowledge of these skills is learned from books. What you have to do is to make a list of learning books for yourself in order from basic to profound. Please write this on paper, too.

The third step is to allocate study time for yourself according to the order of books and records. Of course, most of the time you can allocate is your spare time. And put it into practice every semester, so that you can have a study plan every semester, every week and even every day.

The fourth step is to study in a down-to-earth manner according to the study plan and practice with all possible conditions.

I believe that if every student has a goal, you will live a full and busy life and gain a lot. So please set yourself a goal.

Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gonna get! In fact, of the above four steps, the first, second and third steps are very easy to achieve, and the fourth step is the most difficult and really not easy to achieve.

First of all, there are too many college students around you, living a chic life that their peers yearn for. To reach the fourth point, you need to overcome the influence of the big environment.

Secondly, there are too many temptations in universities. There is another itchy sound in QQ; In online games, there are exciting killing sounds; There are two lovers standing under the tree by the roadside ... To reach the fourth point, you need to refuse these temptations and walk through the university like an ascetic in others' eyes.

Moreover, you should tolerate loneliness and loneliness, which seems to be incompatible with college life. But successful and great people are lonely, and their patience has cultivated their super perseverance and extraordinary wisdom.

There is an animal called vulture. It has a sharp beak and claws. But with the increase of age, its sharp mouth will become longer and longer, and it will be too long to bite its prey; Its claws will grow thick webbed meat, connecting them together and unable to catch prey. It is an unchangeable law that you will die without food. For it, death seems to be the only way out. However, it has made a choice that can shock mankind: it repeatedly bit its mouth on a hard rock and broke a long part until it recovered its sharpness; I pecked at the webbed meat between my paws with my mouth, although my blood was flowing and I was shaking with pain. This process will last for more than a month, and then they will fly proudly in the sky as usual.

The process of pain, greatness and rebirth. Isn't life the same?

Maybe someone will ask: Why do I have to struggle painfully when others can live a chic life? Let me change it to another question: Do you go to college to enjoy life or to shape yourself?

When many students first entered the university, they had the experience of running for the offices and cadres of the student union and various societies. Afterwards, many students expressed their feelings: unfair, everything depends on the relationship. I want to ask, if the school is still like this, what about society? Doesn't society play politics, relationships and money more thoroughly? What makes you stand in society in the future? It doesn't matter if you want money. If you don't have money, what else? At the beginning of college graduation, you either work in management or in technology. But you have no power, it doesn't matter, and you have no money. Isn't it Conan's dream to be engaged in good management and earn more than four figures a month? Your best choice is to engage in technical work, but it needs real materials, and it doesn't necessarily depend on who has great power, hard connections and more money.

When you graduated from college, you suddenly found that you didn't learn really excellent skills except to get a college diploma and talk about a seemingly abstruse topic. How much better will your job be than others? It may just be a nice name, or it may just be something that anyone can do. Will you still complain then?

Each of us wants to live a high-quality life, to let our closest relatives live a carefree life, and to leave traces of our own value in the world, but these can not be achieved through enjoyment. God gave each of us hands and a brain to create and think. This period of time in college is your best study time, so please give up enjoyment, try to reshape yourself and save strength for the future takeoff.

Since we are talking about college life, we should fall in love. The university gathers adolescent boys and girls, and love inevitably happens here. But I don't know when the feelings of college students are flooding. There are too many utilitarianism, desire and indulgence in college students' feelings now. When they graduate every year, the two lovers have to eat their last meal, hug and kiss for the last time, then turn around and leave, and set foot on their own journeys, forgetting this relationship as if it had never happened. Love is only regarded as a need.

There are many people in college who want to catch love or be caught by love. But I hope your love is sincere, earnest, pure and true. If you think he is handsome and want to fall in love with him, please think twice; If you think she is beautiful and want to fall in love with her, please think twice; If you feel lonely and want to find someone to fall in love with, please think twice; If you fall in love with someone just because you heard a few words from a friend, please give up. In fact, the word "love" has clearly indicated its object: the following word "friend" indicates that you should know him (her) well and he (she) should be your friend; It means that you should choose carefully among these friends; "ノ" means that you can only choose one of them as your lover and the others as your friends. Please cherish your emotion, otherwise it will become very cheap. What is love? You should know this in your hearts. I think that being attracted by Excellence, being loved by attraction and learning to love by being loved are the process of love.

At this point, what I want to say is almost finished. These 4,000-odd words look very tired, and I sincerely hope to bring you more or less help. If you find it useless, please tear it up and throw it away. Please forgive my rudeness. If you find it helpful, please keep it and watch it quietly for a few times.

I wish you all a happy and healthy growth!