[Scholar] My boyfriend wants to have sex with me. What should I do? 0 points

Answer: 12 browse: 266 question time: 2007-04-26 13:44.

We have been dating for almost two years. Since the end of last year, he has been talking about having sex with me. I never agreed. He didn't say anything at first, but he kept saying that he suspected that I didn't love him enough. Later he always asked me, what should I do? I'm afraid that if I don't promise, I'll lose him. We really love each other. He said he respected me very much, and I put up with it for so long just to let me think ... what should I do? I don't want to happen or lose him!

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tram

[Scholar] This is indeed a dilemma.

Many girls regret giving their first time to an unreliable person. It may be a little hasty, but they deserve recognition, that is, they believe in true love and are willing to pay sincerely. When she gives unreservedly, she gives for love. As for judging the right or wrong at that time, it is meaningless. No one has eyes. We can't conclude that she is a bad girl.

If you can persist, it shows that you are a rational person and responsible for your future family life, but it also shows that you don't feel true love and have doubts about your love.

Men want their other half to be pure and romantic. This is a paradox. But careful analysis is not unreasonable. A man wants his wife to be pure, but not his wife or a woman who has not yet become his wife wants her to be warm. It's not easy to do it right.

My advice to you is that after two years of discussion, if he asks again, you should ask him to get married at once.

If you don't want to get married and pay for it, there is only one explanation. As he said, you don't love him at all.

Answer: April 26, 2007 14: 23

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Open steamed bread

[Senior] Don't force yourself to do things you don't want to do. If he loves you, he will respect your decision.

There is also a good solution, that is: marry him, so you won't have any worries. It is natural for him to have you, and you don't have to worry about his irresponsibility.

Answer: 13:54

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Peacock nanren

Novice: You love him and can't have anything with him. What do you mean?

I think you should see a psychiatrist.

Answer: 13:55

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Zimu

[Senior] Since I think you love each other very much, it's nothing. . .

Besides, you've known each other for so long. . .

Most importantly, he is the best person to get married in the future. Whether before or after that. . .

Don't be so conservative. . . That's what men do. . .

Answer: 26 April 2007 13: 58

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forever

[Senior] Next time he makes such a request to you, you can ask him: If you don't sleep with him, he won't love you?

Sex and love are inextricably linked, and it is difficult for someone to distinguish them clearly. But this does not mean that men and women in love must prove their love in bed.

In my opinion, lovers should respect each other, and should not force each other to do things they don't want to do, especially this kind of thing, but should be willing to each other.

If you lose his love because of your refusal, I don't feel sorry: people who love for sex are not worth cherishing.

Answer: April 26, 200714: 04

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mpenziwe

[Senior] It's been two years, which is very difficult for him. . . .

Answer: April 26, 2007 14: 13

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angelmoonzz

[School girl] Don't be fooled! After marriage, you can only pay it yourself! Or you will regret it!

Girls should take care of themselves. If he loves you, he will respect you!

Don't do something that you won't forgive yourself.

Answer: April 26th, 2007 14: 30.

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hope

[Novice] Why not get married?

Answer: April 26, 2007 14: 38

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Political commissar 909 1998

[Senior] Sexual needs are normal, and everyone will have them, except those perverts. I don't think anyone will have a desire when they meet someone! Have you known each other for two years? It's been two years. To tell the truth, two years is not a long time. Love sometimes makes people turn a blind eye to some rational things. You all have to think about sex. Sex should have moral constraints. If he can respect you and do as you ask, I think you should be considerate of him! As for whether to do it with him, if you think the timing is wrong, then make it clear to him seriously. I believe you can make him understand.

Answer: April 26, 200715: 03

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Fat cat

[Senior] Assess how likely he is to be married (including all basic human, moral and social conditions except sex). The positive result of each counting point is 1, and the negative result is 0. I am particularly concerned about getting promoted to 2 or even 3 points. If there are n consideration points, the total score is >; 0.8N, suitability, total score.

Answer: April 26th, 2007 16: 1 1

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littles 13

[Student] What you said upstairs is so professional. I don't understand what it means to rely on measuring points. What do you mean, think about it? It's really confusing, but I think it makes sense.

Answer: April 26, 2007 16: 37

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Small folding knife

[novice] 2 years? It's normal if you are a student. Get married if you are not a student. In case everyone is embarrassed.

Weaving rain

[Novice] Boyfriend offered to have sex. What should I do? 0 points

Answer: 16 Browse: 587 Question time: 2005-09- 13 2 1:29.

My boyfriend and I have only been dating for two months, and now he is working, and I am still a college student. I am a traditional girl, and I don't think premarital sex should happen. I turned down his request a few days ago. What should I do if I encounter this situation in the future? Now he rents a house outside, and if it really happens, there must be a chance. Later, I talked to him, and he said that he would respect me now, but what if I had sex sooner or later?

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Bao Yang

[Novice] In fact, many men and women in love will encounter the problem you mentioned. This is normal. Young people are in the period of physiological development, especially it is common for boys to have sexual impulses. The sexual life of two people is based on mutual understanding and deep and stable feelings for a period of time. If you refuse, it means that you are still hesitant about him, and you need to know more about him. It is irresponsible of you to have sex with him so rashly. If you later find out that he is not your ideal object and regret it, will you leave smartly or endure the life with him silently? If you care about this, you should think it over and give him an answer. First, you should be alone with him as little as possible, and don't be too close when you are alone ... you should first find out whether he really loves you and whether you are worth it.

Remember! Remember! ! ! ! !

Answer: 2005-09- 13 2 1:52

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dan 19972002

[Novice] So how far are you two?

Answer: 2005-09- 13 2 1:40

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Little tomato.

Don't give it to him if you don't like it.

This is my own business, although the society is very open now.

I believe your friends will understand you!

May you live happily all your lives!

Answer: 2005-09-1321:41

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Wishing cloud

[Novice] I had premarital sex with my girlfriend, but she broke up with me before she married me, and I was in a very depressed state. So I remind you in advance that if you are sure that she will love you all her life and get along with you, you can consider doing it. If her relationship with you is only temporary, it is best not to do so, because a person's innocence is very important! So, I think the key is whether he is sincere to you!

Answer: 2005-09-1321:41

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Ask you if you want it.

[Junior] Stick to your principles, you must stick to them.

Men are unreliable.

Answer: 2005-09- 13 2 1:42

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Zihan

[Senior] Your time together is too short. There is no guarantee that he will be good to you in the future. Besides, you are a student. It's best not to have sex with him until we are sure whether we will be together in the future. You must reach an agreement with him. Make it clear to him that you don't want to have sex before marriage.

Answer: 2005-09- 13 2 1:44

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joke

[Senior] Look at his skill.

But people in love should be stupid.

Haha? ~

Answer: 2005-09- 13 2 1:47

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It's getting light.

[Junior] It's useless to talk more, mainly depending on personal wishes. what do you think? Not long ago, I saw a friend mention this problem. My answer is that your answers are for your reference only, and the most important thing is your own thoughts. If you think you know him well enough to give it to him yourself, give it to him. If you feel a little confused, don't give it to him. Wait for the opportunity. I think if he really likes you, he will respect your decision.

Answer: 2005-09- 13 2 1:53

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Welshm

[Senior] It's up to you ~

Answer: 2005-09- 13 2 1:55

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length by length

[Senior] If you want to have sex, it must be after you have a notebook.

Answer: September 2005-13

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xbox360

[Scholar] Of course, he rejected him. At first glance, you are not a good person. If you cheat, you will be divided. He insists that you have to resist, so don't seem to acquiesce, that's all.

Answer: September 2005-14 09: 45

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honge225

Stick to principles. If he loves you, he will understand you. If he didn't, it wouldn't be a pity to break up.

Answer: 2005-09-1415:11

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fragrant

Since you are a traditional girl, be open-minded and conservative, so you won't regret it. Leave more space for yourself.

Answer: September 2005-1415: 52

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Super key

[Novice] Are you sure he will marry you if you have sex? Otherwise, you will get married in the future, but I am not a virgin. Do you think you deserve your husband? I don't think so! ! 1

Answer: September 2005-1415: 55

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Lanyeling

[Master] That depends on how far you have developed. If you love him very much, it doesn't matter if you give it to him, but you must take safety measures when you do it.

Answer: 13:48

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Mu Mudr

[Senior] For you, there is no benefit at all, and this does not mean emotional sublimation.

What should I do if my boyfriend asks for sex? 5 points

Answer: 22 Browse: 1 190 Question time: 2005-09- 12 10:23.

Do men think that having sex is a sign that their girlfriends love and trust themselves? The point is that I'm unprepared, and I'm afraid of the consequences. Because he has come out to work, he is renting a house, and I am still a college student, so there are still many opportunities to have sex. Last time I refused, I found he was still unhappy. What should I do? How can I refuse to meet similar situations in the future?

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Friends who have girlfriends around them have had sex, which makes him think that "people have me." I think he has a great influence in this circle of friends.

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The blue sea.

[Senior] I think it is best to keep chastity. It is best to have sex when two people get married. Besides, he is working outside now, and you are still at school. This is very bad for you. Moreover, the relationship between men and women depends either on having sex or on proving that I love you and you love me. Now both boys and girls in this society can get through it. But I think it's always bad for you. What did you say?/Sorry? Worry can make the ship sail forever.

Answer: 2005-09-65438

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xkkynby

[Novice] Explain your position and concerns, and he should understand. It's normal for a man to ask, but if he really loves you, he will respect your wishes.

Answer: 2005-09-65438

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Northern scallion

[Wen Quxing] It's easier to go to bed carefully than to get up! You're the last one to lose! You should be measured.

Answer: 2005-09-65438

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Jh leaned against the railing to listen to the rain.

[Novice] Tell him your thoughts and concerns directly.

Answer: 2005-09-65438

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Think at night

[Novice] Real men will think so. If you have sex, you will be better to him. In fact, he is afraid of losing you. If he really cares about you, he will understand you!

Answer: 2005-09-65438

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Indeed, I agree with you completely.

[Novice] Sex and love are inseparable

The key is to see if your love is ready.

Answer: 2005-09-65438

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Mysterious angel

[Novice] After you slept with him! Relationships become sexual relationships! Don't continue!

Answer: September 2005-1210: 40

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xbox360

Is this what he wants? It doesn't matter who his sexual partner is. Terrible man, I really admire that you can get along with such a man.

You are still young, aren't you?

Answer: September 2005-1210: 46

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Heartbroken and speechless

[Senior] I can understand your boyfriend's mentality. Most men are used to letting the woman they completely like show their deep love, which is true love. But they often ignore that girls' endurance is limited.

Pay more attention to him. He may be afraid of losing you now, so he probably wants to tie your heart with possession.

Sometimes a man needs to be coaxed like a child, and tell him what you think, indicating that you don't give it to him now, not because you don't love him, but because you want to give yourself to him completely on the day you become his bride. This is actually the most perfect sex. At that time, there will be no pressure and no worries. If he really loves you, he will love you more and cherish you more.

Answer: September 2005-1210: 57

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Sang Yu flew late.

[Novice] Never! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !

I tell you from my personal experience that even if you love him very, very much, as long as what happens, no one can predict what will happen in the future, even if he is good to you later. Once he gets you, no matter how good he is to you, you can't bear the psychological and physical pain.

At that time, you can only bear it silently. How can I put it? The only person who suffers is himself. How can he care about you? He can't help you bear the physical pain. Don't fantasize about the future, even if he says you gave it to him now, how good he will be to you.

I don't want to lose the virgin in this world too early.

Answer: 2005-09-1211:18

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graceful carriage

[Junior] I just want to say, "Don't be fooled!"

Answer: 2005-09-1211:29

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hj_76 1

[Novice] Do you know? The easier it is to get, the less it will be cherished!

Answer: 2005-09-1211:31

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long live the understanding

[Senior] Girl, I hope you don't fall for it. All the friends around him are in this relationship. If you believe him, premarital sex is very common now, but risks and costs coexist. You should be ready for him to leave in after making love. If you can bear the consequences, it's up to you.

I suggest that you consider this matter carefully.

Answer: September 2005-1211:33

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The Boy Next Door

[Scholar] 1. It's normal for him to have sex with you. You should understand him. After all, he is also a human being.

There is nothing wrong with you refusing him. After all, you are not married, not to mention you are a student.

If he asks again, just tell him that you should save the sweetest for your wedding night. If he really loves you, he should agree.

Answer: 2005-09-1211:42

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Egg yolk pie

[Senior] Don't worry about others. You have your own opinion. Once you lose them, you will never come back. Be careful. His friends are his friends. What do you care? It is enough for you to be yourself, otherwise you will bear the consequences.

Answer: 2005-09-1211:45

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Happy Sui Xin.

[Senior] I think it is better not to happen, because it is hard to say what will happen in the future in today's society. Stick to your ideas. ...

Answer: September 2005-1211:51

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Baiguogang

[Teenager] Of course I'm not happy without him, but will you be happy without you? It is said that it will be his sooner or later, so this time is a great test of your endurance.

Answer: 2005-09-1211:52

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Good girl

[Senior] Before you talk about marriage, you should hold the line of defense. If he really loves you, he will understand you.

Answer: 2005-09-65438

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Gone with the Wind

[Novice] Don't promise him

Explain your worries and anxieties to him.

If he really loves you, he will think of you.

Answer: September 2005-1213: 39

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UC67073495

[Novice] Maybe the less you get, the more he will cherish you. Knowing how to cherish each other's love will last forever. If someone asks, or you should promise him because someone else has done so, then the relationship between your will be completely stale.

Answer: September 2005-1214: 59

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Dingdang Xiaoyao

[Junior] Refuse ~ ~ Let's talk about it after getting married!

Answer: September 2005-1223:11

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kkhj

[Novice] Don't just give your first time to a man who proposed premarital sex!

Answer: 2005-09-65438

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Respondent: Bank 544- Manager Level 4 10-3 10: 10.

If you give it to him, you will face your husband's unkindness to you in the future. In China, this is a kind of capital.

Respondent: Manager Zhen Lei level 4 10-3 10: 15.

Your idea is right!

Now that you both broke up, how can you have sex with him? Even if you don't break up, you shouldn't lose your virginity before marriage as you think.

Nowadays, it is common for young people to lose their virginity and have premarital sex. Although this is a social trend, I think it is best not to have sex with people before marriage. In this case, it is correct from both the traditional moral and legal perspectives.

Respondent: liguofa 994- Juren Level 4 10-3 10: 19.

Kicked him out of the nursing home.

Interviewee: Leng Mo Xue-Tong Sheng level 10-3 10:36

Don't lose your virginity.

Respondent: 52 Longjing-probationary period level 1 10-3 10:43.

You know the answer to the question, why do you ask us? Support your principles.

Respondents: 13825 12- scholar level 3 10-3 10:49.

Liguofa994, you misunderstood.

Landlord: I have two ideas about your question:

1. I think he met you and stayed with you after breaking up with his ex-girlfriend. Then his (her) affairs are over, and you haven't appeared yet, so don't think about it. You only care about the present and the future 2. "I don't want to lose my virginity without marriage"-that's right. Hold on.

Interviewee: kering 520- Assistant Level 2 10-3 10:5 1.

You are a very nice girl. Don't mess around. You did the right thing. Love is very casual now. I've met many people. Breaking up is a normal thing. Don't pay anything for him, or you will regret it later. ...

Interviewee: jjxmm- Qian Zongwu 10-3 1 1:02.

Never give it to him. If you give it to him easily, he won't love you so much now. There are too many examples like you, and there are countless regrets. What a good lesson! ! !