Determine what you want most.

Burning the desire for success

Choose a positive environment

First, look at yourself correctly. Find your strengths. Then, let your advantages come into play. This is the most basic condition for gaining self-confidence. To gain self-confidence, we must first get satisfaction and make ourselves feel good. This is the most basic. So you should make good use of your strengths and give full play to your strengths. Do more, only in this way can you taste the satisfaction of success as much as possible, and then you can build up your confidence. If you think you can't do anything, you dare not do anything. The less confident you become, it's a vicious circle. As long as you get the satisfaction of success, you can further gain confidence. Sure, maybe take your time. You can do some small things first and gradually increase. Confidence is actually just a state of mind. What you need is to explore for yourself, without too many complicated processes. As long as you have confidence in yourself, then you must be full of strength. Don't care too much about others and don't care too much about what others think of you. We should treat any setbacks with an indifferent normality. Self-confidence is actually very simple, just believe in yourself. When you have confidence, everything will be handy. The key is yourself. As long as you have confidence in yourself, everything can be solved. In addition, the biggest factor of self-confidence is probably the influence of the outside world on yourself. We don't have to live in other people's world to know that others' evaluation of ourselves is always their opinion. Just do your own thing. Who cares? We should have the momentum that the world exists only for ourselves. Have the courage to go your own way and let others speak. No one can change himself, no one can control himself. Success is your own business, but being influenced by others is your own business. Why control yourself for irrelevant people? The last sentence, as long as you believe in yourself, you will be full of confidence. The focus is on the mentality. Self-confidence is a state of mind. As long as you can believe in yourself, it is convenient to handle anything. Whether it's love or something. With confidence, everything in life becomes very simple.

Determine what you want most.

A fable tells that once upon a time, there were two identical stones on the same mountain. After three years, they have completely changed. One stone is admired and worshipped by many people, while the other stone is reviled by others. This stone is extremely unbalanced, man? Three years ago, we were a stone on the mountain. Today, the gap is so big that my heart is particularly painful. Another stone replied, "Do you remember, brother?" Three years ago, a sculptor came. You are afraid of the pain of cutting your body. You tell him that you just need to simply carve yourself. At that time, I imagined the future and didn't care about the pain of cutting your body, which made me different today.

The difference between the two: one cares about what you want and the other cares about what you are afraid of. In recent years, we may be childhood friends, studying in the same school, serving in the same army and working in the same unit. After several years, we found that our childhood friends, classmates, comrades-in-arms and colleagues have all changed. Some people become "Buddha" stones, while others become another stone. How do you expect to live in this world? What kind of person will you be in the future? What do you want most? If there is a super sports car without a steering wheel, even with the most powerful engine, it will not work; By the same token, whether you want to have wealth, career, happiness or anything else, you should be clear about its direction. Why should I get it? What attitude and action will I take to get it? Carnegie, the "father of life education", said: "We should not look at distant and vague things, but should start with clear things around us." Suppose today God gives you a chance to choose five things you want, and all five things can make your dreams come true. What do you want first? If you only choose one, what choice would you make? If life is at stake, what is your greatest regret in life, which you failed to achieve or complete? If you were given a second chance, what would you like to do most? If you find what you want most, make it clear at once. Clarity is power. It will be rooted in your ideology, deeply imprinted in your mind, and let the subconscious help you realize everything you want. Nothing is impossible in this world, only unexpected things, as long as you can think of and make up your mind to do it, you will certainly get it.

Burning the desire for success

The story of American john fuller deeply influenced me. The Fullers have seven brothers and sisters. He started working at the age of five and driving mules at the age of nine. He has a great mother who often talks to her son about her dreams: "We shouldn't be so poor. Don't say poverty is providence. We are poor, but we can't complain. That's because your father has never wanted to change poverty, and his family has no ambition. " These words are deeply rooted in Fuller's heart. He wanted to be rich and began to pursue wealth. After 12, Fuller took over an auctioned company and successively acquired seven companies. When talking about the secret of success, he still replied with his mother's words many years ago: "We are poor, but we can't complain. That's because dad never wanted to change poverty, and his family had no ambition. " Fuller said in many invited speeches: "Although I can't be the descendant of the rich, I can be the ancestor of the rich." Do you have a strong desire to change yourself? Do you have the ambition to be the ancestor of the rich? Fuller's words gave me a strong buzz and vibration, which inspired every nerve of mine. I made a vow from this: I want to change myself, change the poor family and be the ancestor of the rich? Each of us once had good wishes, but why did many wishes burst like soap bubbles ... For example, you will understand that if you are a salesman of a furniture company and have a chair, the market price is 100 yuan. If you are allowed to sell it in 600 yuan, what is your idea? I must think it's impossible. But if a group of kidnappers kidnap the most precious person in your life, and you value the person more than your own life, you are required to sell the chair to 600 yuan within two hours. If you can't sell it, these kidnappers will kill the ticket. Will you sell it? I believe that you not only want to sell, but also must sell, and your heart will breed a strong desire to do it. Often in our study, life and work, it is not so difficult to sell chairs. Why we are always so far away from success depends on whether you have the same passion for your favorite career and whether you have a strong desire to fill your heart. There is no longer just a good desire to achieve something, but a strong desire to achieve it; No longer want to succeed, but must succeed. How strong your desire is, how much power can erupt; When you have a strong enough desire to change your destiny, all difficulties, setbacks and obstacles will make way for you. You can overcome as many difficulties and obstacles as you want. You can fully tap the great energy in life and stimulate the desire to succeed, because desire is power.

Choose a positive environment

Success and failure. Why are you depressed? Because you are in a negative environment; Why didn't it work? Because you date losers. Suppose there are two environments for you to choose from: the first environment, you are the best, the monthly income is 800 yuan, and others are 200 yuan. In the second environment, you are the worst, everyone else is a millionaire, and your assets are only 200 thousand. Which one would you choose? What kind of person do you want to be, who you want to be with, who you want to be active, who you want to find more active than yourself, and who you want to always look for a better environment than yourself. Whether you are successful in official career or poor, when you choose someone better than you, when you fail, he will help you review and summarize and cheer for you: failure is temporary, success is the ultimate necessity; When you succeed, he will remind you to redefine yourself. The meaning of life lies not only in surpassing others, but also in surpassing yourself. I found that all successful people are activists. The story of Edison, known as the "king of invention", is well known; Pan Changjiang, a sketch actor, said: what is concentrated is the essence; Ge You, a comedian, laughed at himself: the busy road doesn't grow grass, and the smart head doesn't grow hair. I won't be long. Whenever I walk with my tall girlfriend, someone always points to my back and whispers, "It's really flowers in cow dung." I let go and smiled: Great? No matter how beautiful a flower is, no matter how beautiful it is, it also needs ugly fertilizer to fertilize and water it, in order to produce beautiful flowers. Positive people, in the face of any problems and difficulties, will focus on solving problems and ask what benefits this will bring to themselves. Think of problems and difficulties as coaches who exercise themselves in life. When you encounter problems or puzzles in your life, stay with positive people, with people who are 10 times more positive than you, and find a more positive environment than you require to cultivate yourself. You must do this, because choosing a positive environment is the key to success.