I had to smile and live together for more than a year.

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We are sure to meet all kinds of people in our life. Everyone in the dormitory has a different growth experience and a different temper. Therefore, we can regard the dormitory as a "small society" and a platform to exercise ourselves.

No one is perfect without gold. Everyone will have their own shortcomings more or less. If I were in this situation, I might make the following choices:

1, don't poke him.

A hypocritical person is actually like a "paper tiger". He is most afraid of being accused of hypocrisy. So when you find that your roommate has similar characteristics, don't rush to expose him. Exposing him will do no good except make the other party angry and worsen the relationship between them.

Step 2 keep your distance from him

Now that we know his shortcomings, we should keep a certain distance from him so as not to be assimilated by him. Because of this, those who are close to Zhu Zhechi are close to the ink. Little friends can choose peer communication with more perfect personality. Because there are not only hypocritical people in a dormitory, there must be other friends with better personalities.

Don't try to change him.

Sometimes a person has shortcomings, not because he doesn't know his own shortcomings, but because he is defending something of himself. For example, a person's hypocrisy or vanity may be just to cover up the fact that his family conditions are not very good. Although others may think it's nothing, he thinks it's a scar in his heart.

Everyone has self-esteem, and it is his too strong self-esteem that leads to some hypocrisy. So, don't change a person easily, and don't expose him in front of everyone.

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This kind of thing, we have to think like this. We met a false roommate. Where is his hypocrisy? How is he hypocritical? How can we not let his hypocrisy affect our lives?

First of all, you should understand that your life has its own independence. Don't deliberately think about something for people like him and ruin your daily life. This kind of destruction is unnecessary for you. The most important thing is to keep your independence. You should arrange your life regularly, and don't be influenced too much by such roommates. This is what you need to pay attention to most. If you have such hypocritical people around you, you must try to stay away from them, even if you have to attend classes with them every day, you should try to keep a proper distance from them.

Some people can't see what their personality is like on the surface. If after a period of time, you find their hypocrisy, which means that he is not a friend suitable for deep friendship. Don't tell them your privacy casually. When you are sad, they may not really worry about you.

First of all, you should keep your attitude towards life free from his influence. You can choose to keep silent about some of his hypocrisy, and you will see it then. You must also keep a low profile and choose not to pay attention to such things. Only in this way can you keep your attitude towards life independent to a great extent. After all, out of sight, out of mind, as long as you don't care too much about him, you can keep your most sincere heart.

Qi Yao of Zhilian Campus answered.

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