A gas explosion occurred in Hongqiao, Tianjin, killing 1 and seriously injuring three people.

The cause of the accident was a seemingly ordinary and fierce quarrel between husband and wife.

Do you feel cold in your back when you see this news? I did it.

Because quarrels and emotions are too common in our lives.

It's almost a trivial matter.

But isn't there less bitter fruit brewed by such a trivial matter?

In 2004, Ma Jiajue, a college student in Yunnan, killed four roommates and hid them in the closet. The reason is that his classmates said that he chatted "derailed" and made him bear a grudge.

20 13 Fudan poisoning case was also a sensation. There is no so-called deep hatred between the murderer and the victim, but it is precisely because of the trivial things in life that the murderer chose to kill him.

In the early morning of 20 19, four grandparents and grandchildren of a rural family were killed. The murderer is a neighbor, and the reason is only because of the dispute of "planting trees and occupying land". The murderer once confessed that after killing and escaping, he wanted to kill everyone who had enemies with him.

There are not many such cases, but there are also many. Each one makes people feel sad and sorry, and it also makes people feel scared.

I really don't like the jokes made by my dormitory roommates during that time:

"I can survive the university for four years, thanks to the kindness of my roommates who don't kill!"

People, it is normal to have secular desires. It is normal to be angry.

We are called "people" precisely because we have the ability to control emotions and are the masters of emotions.

People who are dominated by emotions become slaves of emotions. I can't control my emotions, but I am dominated by my emotions and do behaviors that I regret.

Emotional slaves are like a bomb that can be detonated at any time. I don't know when the fuse will be lit, which will lead to bad consequences.

In fact, being emotional is a trivial matter for most of us.

When we are in a bad mood, we may sulk, sweat, throw pillows and hit sandbags, or we may choose to have a big fight or even retaliate with "harmless" pranks.

But no matter how we vent our emotions, even if we take some measures to retaliate against others, we will remain "rational" and will not embark on the extreme road of crime.

But what about those who are dominated by emotions?

What is terrible about them is that once emotions occupy their brains, their reason disappears completely.

In order to retaliate and vent their anger, they can do more cruel things: poisoning, chopping people, etc. At this time, they won't distinguish between "targets of revenge", even if they are just passers-by, they will inevitably get hurt when they see this scene.

These people also have a common fault, that is:

When their reason comes back, they will regret what they have done.

In fact, calm down and think about it, so do we on weekdays.

When quarreling with family and friends, when you get angry, you will talk loudly and even fight, hurting family and friends.

I calmed down afterwards, but I felt sorry and began to apologize.

But scars are like nails nailed to the wall. Even if the nails are pulled out, the wall will not recover.

That ugly black hole will still exist on the white wall. Let's have a look.

These behaviors are also actions against reason after the body is dominated by bad emotions.

At these times, there is actually only a gap between us and those who have made big mistakes.

Being a person dominated by emotions is undoubtedly sad and terrible.

How can we avoid being dominated by bad emotions?

In other words, how should we control our emotions?

If you want to control your emotions, the most important thing is to "vent" your emotions reasonably.

A bad mood is like a scourge, surging.

"Water control is sparse but not blocked"

We should face up to the emergence of emotions and vent them through reasonable channels.

It is not blindly suppressing bad emotions. If you don't break out in silence, you die in silence.

Endure and endure, and in the end it will only be unbearable. Once all the bad emotions break out, the consequences will be incalculable and unbearable.

If you want to control your emotions, you must identify their sources.

Bad emotions often come from "problems".

For example, what we do or say is wronged after being misunderstood, and the anger of arguing with others on a certain issue becomes quarrelsome.

If you want to control your emotions, you must know what the source of this emotion is.

In a rational situation, we should be able to distinguish right from wrong.

It is human nature to make mistakes. Our thoughts and actions are not always perfect.

It's someone else's fault. You don't have to argue with others because you are angry. You just need to firmly choose a reasonable way to safeguard your legitimate interests.

If it's your fault, admit it.

There is no shame in admitting your mistake, but it is the most shameful to persist when you know that you are wrong.

Finally, if you want to control your emotions, you must really solve the problem.

When you know what your emotions come from, you will know where the problem lies.

Solving problems is the best way to control emotions.

For example, arguing with friends about a certain point of view, the best way to solve this problem is to learn to "seek common ground while reserving differences".

There are a hundred hamlets in the hearts of a hundred people.

For various reasons, even two people with very similar personalities and experiences will make different choices when facing the same thing.

In the face of quarrels, many times, as long as we treat "seeking common ground while reserving differences" calmly, we will not detonate the war.

In the face of principle, you only need to stand on the side of morality and law and firmly safeguard your vital interests.

Even if the interests are damaged, you can defend your rights through reasonable channels. After a fair judgment, your bad mood will naturally dissipate.

Emotion is not terrible, it is a natural right.

In the face of misunderstandings and interests, we have the right to be angry and feel angry, and we also have the right to protect ourselves in a reasonable way.

The terrible thing is that when we face emotions, we always unconsciously suppress and escape.

Repression and evasion will not only help solve the problem, but also make the situation serious and expand.

As long as we face up to the emergence of emotions, accept them and vent them in a reasonable way, any bad emotions can be easily resolved.