1. Try to understand and accept your partner's limitations.

Most of them are ordinary people. Facing the heavy pressure of life, their way of coping with the pressure is just hard work. So when there are contradictions, calm down, everyone's understanding is different, try to understand each other.

Results: You will reduce your complaints and accusations to your partner, greatly reduce internal friction, and save energy to think of other ways to reduce stress. At the same time, your partner will also feel your understanding and emotions.

2. Establish personal psychological boundaries

You should understand that the other party's accusations and complaints are the other party's emotions. It's not all your fault to ask ta to take responsibility and handle it calmly. It is mutual affection, not duty.

Results: Don't attribute the extreme emotions of the other party to yourself, it's just a grievance and anger after the other party's needs are not met. When psychological energy is insufficient, everyone should calm down and discuss a time to solve things.

3. Guide each other to learn to control their emotions first.

Guide the other party to learn to deal with emotions first, and give feedback and encouragement in time for good performance. This kind of quarrel soothes you. You should praise each other, tell each other about their progress, and express your joy and gratitude.

Results: In the future, the partner will know how to deal with contradictions better, give priority to emotions, get timely positive feedback, and the other party will have a sense of accomplishment psychologically and do better and better in calming emotions.

4. Encourage each other to develop hobbies

Encourage each other to develop hobbies and make more like-minded friends. If the other person doesn't ask you to concentrate all your energy on your feelings, you need different things and different people to distract some energy.

Results: You will all start to have your own independent time and space and develop your own social support system. If one day you encounter a problem, you can also get help from different people.

5. Help your partner see the source of his behavior pattern.

Show your partner their family background, see how their father and mother get along, whether their behavior patterns copy their father and mother's patterns, what they can learn from them and what they need to improve.

Results: When the partner starts to notice, once he realizes the root of the problem, he will understand himself. In the future, different countermeasures will be taken when contradictions break out.

6. Adjust your state and comfort each other from the heart.

When you are full of energy, you should learn to grasp the "key opportunity" to win each other. At critical moments, such as when the other party is angry, you should see the softness and fragility of the other party and appease ta like a child.

Results: As long as you seize an opportunity, the other person's love for you will be doubled, and the other person's mind will also get a qualitative leap. Maturity may be in an instant.