1. Reading is the cornerstone of everything.
The author mentioned that when he was very young, his parents began to guide him to read, from street signs to short stories, to various popular science books, literature and history books and excellent children's magazines, and he developed the habit of reading from an early age. From the time he was able to study to the university for four years, he could not borrow books except for the third year of high school. His reading is amazing and extensive. After graduating from college, there are as many as 8000 books.
It may be inferred from his example that it is impossible to learn bullying by studying hard and brushing questions, which is why it is extremely rare for disciples of bitter farmers to learn bullying now. Because if you don't read a lot, your composition can't be good, and according to the current trend of college entrance examination, there are many extracurricular contents in Chinese, so the whole subject of Chinese will not be good. Moreover, reading is related to comprehension ability, and other subjects also need reading and examination. Poor understanding, sometimes I can't understand what this question wants you to do. In addition, many abstract concepts need to be understood. The author mentioned understanding trigonometric function through extracurricular popular science books.
He has always had the habit of taking reading notes. It is a shame that I didn't start to have this habit until this year, and I began to realize the great benefits of this habit. I have read some books before, and I have also read them. Now read a book, and when you see something good and interesting, you will write it down. After reading a paragraph or a chapter, I will go back and think about it, sum up the previous content and write down my feelings. For example, after reading "After two exams, some mistakes and omissions lead to self-doubt, hesitation, fear, palpitations and negative emotions surrounding me". Reminds me of those great defeats in history, such as the battle of Surabaya and the battle of Changping, which made me doubt, deny myself and collapse my mind from some small defeats. This may be the so-called "mastery". Another advantage of reading is that you won't worry about not knowing how to write your comments.
2. Growth is more than achievement.
The author mentioned that there are two lines in children's growth, one is bright line, that is, achievement, and the other is personality development. Most parents in China only look at the former, even if their grades drop suddenly, they still look for reasons in the front line. Parents' ignorance, contempt and even indifference to the latter is one of the reasons why students' psychological situation is worrying in a large area.
As a semi-graduate who didn't read high school but only secondary school, I don't know whether it is lucky or unlucky. Anyway, there was no psychological pressure at that time.
share
In fact, top student people are willing to spare no effort. The so-called "they want to achieve their own goals". Because sharing is not only a virtue, it can gain friendship and respect, and it shows that you have an open mind, you can accept feedback from others and find your own shortcomings. More importantly, sharing is a very important ability. It requires you to express what you know and "teach" it. In this process, you can often find your own shortcomings, omissions and even mistakes.
Our writing is essentially sharing. We share some of our experiences, concepts, knowledge and thinking process, and express our past experiences, present feelings and future expectations. In this process, we think more deeply, are more mature in the application of words and are more sensitive to subtle perception.
Be patient
Learning itself is boring most of the time, so you should be able to endure loneliness and not be afraid of trouble. The author mentioned that his parents asked him to read a big book and spell complicated Lego bricks to calm him down and get rid of his impatience. Teacher Li Xiaolai also shared it. His father coerced him to copy Xinhua Dictionary when he was in the third grade of primary school. It took him more than a year to finish copying, which benefited him all his life, saying that he was not afraid of boring things from now on. This is an ability, no matter what way you take it, you should practice it deliberately.
5. The meaning of the goal
We need motivation to do everything, so where should the motivation for the college entrance examination come from? From rankings and scores? The author is sure to win the first place in the grade. After almost crazy and sleepless efforts, he finally got what he wanted. The unexpected Gushan tsunami didn't happen. Only the classmates applauded and cheered for less than a minute, and his face disappeared, which led to a long period of depression. He used his own personal experience to prove how unreliable this is. From a classmate of the opposite sex you admire? If you are rejected by the other party, you are likely to have no fighting spirit. Be deeply hurt by someone's insulting words and try to prove yourself? This is likely to lead to extreme and narrow personality.
The author proposes to establish emotional connection with his ideal university. His own ideal university is Beijing Foreign Studies University, but later his score level has surpassed it. And give examples of your classmates. Because the ideal university is Xiamen University, I passed the exam through hard work. There is an ideal university belonging to Beihang University, but it was not admitted to the undergraduate course, only admitted to China Southern Airlines, and then admitted to the master's degree through the curve to save the country. This reminds me of the story that Laughter shared with his colleague Zhang Xiaonan from New Oriental. Zhang Xiaonan has always dreamed of becoming the host of CCTV. First, she works as a teacher in Beijing New Oriental, because she needs eloquence as much as the host and is not far from CCTV. Later, I heard that many CCTV hosts were studying at Columbia University, so she went to Columbia University to study for a master's degree and finally became a host at CCTV. Her curve is rather tortuous.
6. courage
The college entrance examination is like a war, which requires strategy and tactics, and more importantly, the courage to walk the line and make a final attempt. If not, it is easy to be swayed by considerations of gain and loss. I always want to come back on New Year's Eve and become an old campaigner year after year. This phenomenon is also common in the national examination and postgraduate entrance examination.
This is also the reason why the rich second generation entrepreneurs are not as good as their parents. Father can succeed because they cross the rubicon and don't leave a retreat for themselves. Many times, there is really no retreat. The retreat of the rich second generation has long been reserved-it is a big deal to go back to work to take over.
I also have an exam this year, which is not as important as the college entrance examination, but I will take courage.
7. intelligence
"I dare to pursue the best and accept the worst. I cannot afford to lose. " This is an answer to the author's good attitude. Do your best, no regrets, no complaints. In this fair but cruel game, there are winners and losers. If you lose, you have to admit it gracefully and decently. At this time, you can think of "starting over".
8. Thanksgiving, emotional intelligence.
Learning to bully means learning to bully, even with high emotional intelligence. What impressed me most was that a few days before graduation, he called all the familiar teachers one by one and sent a bracelet to Miss Mei, who needed the most thanks. "A drop of grace will be rewarded by spring water." Gratitude is a virtue and a quality that a person should possess. I am ashamed that a young man under the age of 20 has handled it so well.