Researchers believe that the sexual behavior of female college students does not simply depend on their age. The secretion of puberty sex hormones can of course play a biocatalytic role in the initiation and pursuit of certain behaviors, such as early menarche in women and early puberty in men, which all accelerate the sexual awakening of young people. But in addition, some related social reasons have attracted more and more people's attention, which has contributed to the sexual behavior of college students. For example:
(1) The impact of commodity economy, literature and art (such as movies, TV, videos, pop songs, publications, etc. ) are subtle influences.
(2) The striking gender difference in youth sexual activities more than 20 years ago seems less obvious now. Like men, women have begun to regard their sexual needs as legitimate, and the development of modern contraceptive methods has also led to an increase in women's sexual activities.
(3) The society is increasingly adopting a natural attitude towards women's sexual activities, which also opens the door for them to pursue sensory pleasure or other purposes.
(4) Since 1980s, the trend of authority being belittled by young people has extended to the field of sex, and the sword of Damocles hanging over female college students has been pulled out.
In addition to the great influence of the above-mentioned physiological and social reasons on the sexual behavior of contemporary female college students, there is also a factor that cannot be ignored, that is, the psychological factor that leads to their sexual behavior. It is under the temptation of all kinds of mentality that female college students have crossed the "thunder pool" and various sexual deviance incidents have occurred from time to time.
Show the loyalty of river love
In the process of love, some girls are very satisfied with their boyfriends and regard each other as a white horse in their dreams, while the other side keeps her at a respectful distance. The girl was afraid of flying away from golden phoenix, so she gave her virginity and tried to exchange the most precious holy land for the most loyal love.
"I'm afraid of losing him." A college girl said, "I love him very much. I was fascinated by him almost as soon as I saw him, but he always hesitated. " Besides, he is too rational. What he thinks about most is not me, but the future distribution and whether the family will interfere. But I can't leave him for a moment. "The girl is confident." He is an old-school boy. As long as we have sex, he will take responsibility and never leave me again, because then he will be condemned by his conscience and bear a heavy cross forever. "
In fact, this girl didn't get the true meaning of love. Love attracts each other. She tied his body with the sincerity of sacrifice, but she couldn't wake up his deep sleeping love. On the other hand, she only knows how to give love, but she doesn't understand the true meaning of love and can't get the corresponding return.
The pleasure of pursuing lust
Now, with the development of sex science. Sexual needs are considered legitimate pleasures and desires. Augustus Baerbel pointed out in his "Women and Socialism": "Among all the natural needs of human beings, the strongest one is sexual demand, which is second only to dietary demand." Malik's quip is amazing: "Love cat's paw. Love life is actually a cell that transmits some love. "
In the early 1980s, sexual liberation and freedom movement broke out in western society, and many young people suffered greatly and became sexual slaves.
Influenced by the western trend of sexual liberation, many male and female college students are also deeply poisoned, blindly pursuing sensory stimulation, treating sacred sex as a child's play, and some even embark on the road of crime.
A female college student wrote in her diary: "I do, I want to express my love." Only he can stimulate my senses. I can't help myself under the impact of this exciting desire. I am eager to merge with him. Under the catalysis of love, the combination of body makes my happiness experience reach its peak ... I can't live without him, and I am eager to get his rain and dew. Only in this way can I truly appreciate the firmness and warmth of life ... without sex, I will become crazy. "
In just a few pages of diary, a sexualist's mentality is naked in front of people.
For personal desires.
Sexual desire can not only make a person noble, but also make a person rolling in the deep.
Some people sacrifice their virginity by any means in order to achieve their personal desires, regardless of shame. In order to pursue material comforts, satisfy sensory needs such as eating, drinking and having fun, and get fashionable items such as clothes, some women also have sex with people and earn dirty rouge on their faces by low-level and despicable means. A rural girl from an old poverty-stricken area shed tears of remorse behind bars: "Soon after entering school, the pride of being a female college student has disappeared. My IQ is not worse than that of city girls. What I lack is only material, and I think the decorations are poor. I don't have a superior family to support me. Under the impact of material desires, the inner imbalance. I can only exchange my only youthful skin for the fashion and superiority that city girls have. "
However, a girl with excellent family conditions from the city said in her repentance book: "After entering the university, the family can no longer restrain themselves, spend money as they want, eat, drink and be merry. Although the money given by the family is quite a lot, it can't stand such profligacy. At first, my family was able to save my frequent economic deficit in time. Later, my parents finally couldn't bear it anymore, and they imposed a quota on me and never gave me any more money. However, how can I stand such a move when I am used to spending money lavishly? So under the guidance of my sisters in the society, I began to develop my own' natural' resources and took the initiative to start a' escort' in the ballroom. Since then, I have fallen into the quagmire of sin and cannot extricate myself. "
There are even some female college students who frequently give themselves to teachers in exchange for their bodies in order to get the places to walk graduate students or stay in school to teach.
Avoid loneliness
The personality composition of modern people is concerned by every psychological researcher, and loneliness is a headache for everyone. Observations show that people with higher knowledge levels are more likely to feel lonely. Female college students who bid farewell to their parents and left their hometown are new here and feel lonely. In order to pass the lonely and boring time, they always take an active part in various community activities and try to find bosom friends in other places.
Xiaoli, a female college student from a small town to Dalian, experienced loneliness without friends when she first entered the school, so she joined the photography association. It was photography that brought her into the holy land of life, and her loneliness was quickly melted by enthusiasm. The president is a senior boy who is good at photography and socializing. In frequent activities, he gradually became familiar with Xiaoli. At the end of a semester, all the members of the photography association had a meal in a restaurant and had a long fling. The president drank too much. Xiaoli was worried that he would go wrong halfway and simply sent him back to the dormitory. Xiaoli helped him to lie down in the apartment and prepare to leave. The headmaster suddenly took Xiaoli by the hand, dragged her over and took her away by force. Since then, the principal has often put forward physical requirements for Xiaoli's dormitory while everyone is going to the movies or studying by themselves. If Xiaoli refuses, she may be expelled from the photography association. The cowardly Xiaoli was afraid of being cold-eyed, and even more afraid of being alone, so she had to give up and never accept it again.
I can't bear to brush my boyfriend's mind.
With the gradual deepening of love, the feelings between the two sides are further deepened, and the physical contact between lovers will increase from less to more. From the beginning, holding hands with each other will gradually develop into hugging, kissing and touching the body. Furthermore, some men will make excessive demands-sexual attempts, and the woman may be afraid of hitting the other person's wishes and hurting their love relationship, so she has to give up her boyfriend.
Xiaoyan and Xiaohai, students of a university, fell in love soon after entering school. After two years of ups and downs, their feelings have been quite deep. Xiaohai was not satisfied with the usual hugs and kisses, and began to ask Xiaoyan for sex. At first, Xiaoyan refused politely every time, but she couldn't let go of her boyfriend's death because he said that if she didn't do what she asked, she would break up with her. Xiaoyan is reluctant to kiss her boyfriend after all.
Escape social pressure
Nature endows girls with beauty, but vulgar social pressure makes them lose their nature and become sacrificial lambs.
A female college student who is about to graduate from college wrote in her diary: "I am the oldest in my family and the apple of my parents' eye. My family usually dotes on me." "When I was admitted to college, my parents encouraged me to make more friends. They taught me from an early age that I can choose others, and in a few years, I will be chosen by an adult. They told me that there are too many older girls now, so don't just study. With a boyfriend, you have something to rely on. Some elders also told me that it is very important to find a partner, which is a lifelong event, so we should seize the opportunity. Girls' youth is too short, and ugly girls, as long as they are young and youthful, will not worry about being rejected; No matter how beautiful a girl is, she is annoying after marriage. I was influenced by the' high theory' around me. In this way, finding a partner to get married has become a compulsory credit for my four years in college, which has invisibly caused heavy pressure in my heart. "
"I am a quiet and obedient girl, and my classmates say that I will become a standard wife and mother. Although many boys pursued me, I finally chose him because he was personable and warm. Our feelings have improved rapidly, and our footprints have stopped in every corner of the campus. One sultry night, he invited me out for a ride. In a secluded suburban park, he asked me for sex, and I didn't have any sense of vigilance, because society and parents had tamed me. When I found someone I loved very much, I decided that he was my future support, and later I was pregnant with his child. Unexpectedly, he turned out to be a devil wears Prada. After possessing my body and playing with it, he finally took me away with one foot ... "
As a sign of personality maturity
After puberty, women, like men, are more and more eager to associate with partners with rich sexual knowledge and experience. Some girls feel beautiful, mature and sexy. It's time to show their love. They are eager to be recognized by the mature opposite sex.
A freshman girl in a school has been dating a boy for several months. Every time a boy stares at her with admiring eyes, she feels that she has grown up, and it is time to fall in love and get married freely. She has a great feeling of "defending the army for a thousand days and fighting for a while." So she took the initiative to have sex with this boy to prove her maturity and charm.
Sick way of communication
In monogamous society, the sexual love between husband and wife is a very sacred act and the highest expression of marital feelings. However, in real life, some young people pursue pan-sexualism, thinking that they can have sex at will as long as both parties are willing. Here, sexual behavior has evolved into animal promiscuity, which is not only ugly, but also ugly.
The following is the psychological confession of a female college student who slipped:
I was born in a teacher's family, and my parents were busy with work day and night, so we seldom talked deeply. But parents' thoughts are very conservative and rigid, stubborn and strict. If you usually go out with boys, your parents stipulate that you must come back early and often go out with your younger brother. If I want to be with the boy I love, I must make up many lies. Despite the close surveillance of my parents, I managed to meet my boyfriend in the park at the age of 15: he kissed me and touched me, he enjoyed it, and I enjoyed it.
I planned not to have sex with anyone until I was 23, and I want to take this responsibility when I grow up. I can allow my boyfriend to hug me, kiss me and even touch me, but I will never easily lose my last line of defense. Strangely, when I was a sophomore, just after my 22nd birthday, I went to the museum, where I met a well-informed young painter. I was finally attracted by his wonderful paintings and well-read talk. Although the shyness of virgins hindered my curiosity about communication, I had the idea of having sex with people for the first time in my life. The actual effect of C is great, which broadens my communication. From then on, I know that lewdness is not a sin, but a means of enjoyment and communication. People can love each other and have a physical relationship, but they don't have to get married. Later, I met and fell in love with a young singer and made love frequently ... In my mind, making love with a man I like is actually very common, just as simple as eating and peeing. However, it is this absurd idea that finally brought me into the abyss of sin.
A means of revenge and punishment for society.
Vasiliev once mentioned such a sentence in The Theory of Love: "Sexual desire is a powerful force. If it is out of control, it may become a social disaster. "