But after reading this article, I can neither like it nor be happy.
The article is relatively long, so I'll give you a brief introduction:
"Mathematics is almost completely incomprehensible, but he likes cooking; English is not good, but he is kind-hearted; Chinese is poor, but he is filial to his parents. We should not despise the ordinary, on the contrary, we should accept the ordinary gladly. "
This is the original words in the article, but it is definitely not a good excuse at the moment when the "chicken baby concept" is in power.
In my opinion, this article is only a temporary comfort, just like a bowl of chicken soup. It tastes good, but it is not suitable for most families.
I'm not bullying, I just doubt the replicability of "Buddhist parenting". There are three reasons. I broke the analysis.
In my opinion, most students are not lack of ability, but lack of subjective initiative.
As soon as school started these two days, many children suffered from "homework procrastination". No matter how urged by parents, children will grind their feet when they start to do homework, but if you give him an electronic product, believe it or not, he will have a good time.
People are naturally lazy and like simple happiness, but it is naturally difficult for children to be interested in things that take a long time to harvest happiness, such as doing homework and studying.
Therefore, if a child can conscientiously and diligently complete the learning tasks assigned by teachers and parents, in my opinion, this is definitely not a school scum, but a "self-denying potential stock"!
Then why is such an excellent child still at the bottom of the class?
As far as I'm concerned, the biggest possibility is that these children go to a school in Niu Wa by mistake. It's like, "Son, my mom believes you're here to pay your debts! The children in the article are not only raised by their parents, but also raised by their teachers one by one, and their grades are still at the bottom. Wouldn't it be better to transfer? I signed up for a lot of remedial classes, all of which were emergency. Will it be much better to make a good choice and change to a teacher suitable for children?
No matter what you study or do, you should pay attention to the "28 law", that is, you only need to pay 20% energy to complete 80% of a thing, but you need to pay 80% extra energy to do the remaining 20%.
For the top 80%, I think you just need to play "subjective initiative". If you are talented, you may play faster unless you have a bad attitude.
An educator once thought that the knowledge of cultural lessons learned by children in the process of growing up should not exceed 60% of the knowledge learned in their lifetime at most, and the proportion of this 60% is 5% in primary school, 65,438+00% in junior high school, 20% in senior high school and 25% in university.
Therefore, just because Wa's grades in primary school were not satisfactory, she came to the conclusion that her learning ability was not good, and she was openly labeled as a "school scum". I really want to cry for my children, and I also want to ask these parents: Have you been in top student since childhood?
Since my baby went to primary school, I often asked myself, "Can I really accept that my child is a school scum?"
Honestly, I can't accept it. I don't want him to be an alien, but at least don't be at the bottom of the class.
And in "son, my mother believes that you are here to repay the kindness!" " The old mother in the article is really rich in chicken soup, but she can't put down her ruler and become a Buddha every time she drinks chicken soup, and then become a monk sweeping the floor, can she?
There are often articles abusing the daily life of middle-aged mothers, but I think parents should always be consistent in their treatment of education: strategically far-sighted and tactically down-to-earth
It's okay to have fewer chickens, but you need fireworks and a good foundation, right? Otherwise, life in front of us will become "enough", there will be poetry that the baby will never understand, and there will be a distance that he can't reach.
Some people may say, "I just want my children to live a healthy and happy life!" " In the future, I can do what I like and live a decent life through labor. When I am a master excavator, I feel good! "
There is no problem for children to grow up healthily and happily, but children have not laid a good foundation since childhood. How can you be confident that he can do what he likes in the future? How can you guarantee that he can live a decent life? Please, if you really want to be an excavator master, you need to take different grades, okay?
Some people may say, "When heroes pass by, there are always people sitting on the roadside clapping." I agree with this statement with both hands, but there is also the second part of this statement, "Children who don't sit on the side of the road don't even have a chance to applaud the hero."
In primary school, children need the help of their parents to cultivate enough "subjective initiative". You can only fly better if you are pushed.
What we call "enlightenment" means that parents help their children find "correct learning methods".
I am a junior accompanying student, sometimes I still don't understand it after talking for a long time, but if I use several methods, I will definitely find the kind that children can understand.
Therefore, it is really not surprising that the baby's ability is not good, mainly because this parent can't. Either financial ability is not good, or counseling ability is not good. ......
We are all in the same boat. Raising children is not easy. Don't drink too much chicken soup. If you have time, it is better to find more learning methods suitable for your baby!
On my son, my mother believes that you are here to repay the kindness! "The old mother also wrote:
I agree to accept children's ordinary, but teaching children to enjoy ordinary is far more difficult than chicken baby!
First of all, parents should create enough material conditions for their children. The child's poor study must have cultivated one of his specialties and hobbies, right? Not much, learning 1~2 hobbies. Weekend holidays enrich children's after-school life, and sign up for a summer camp and winter camp in winter and summer vacations, and sign up for several cram schools. ......................................................................................................................................
Secondly, accepting the ordinary not only requires parents to bear the children's food, clothing, housing and transportation, but also requires parents to become their children's good comrades. Life is a battle without smoke. "You are not afraid of opponents like gods, but you are afraid of teammates like pigs." If the parents themselves lack a positive attitude towards life, then the baby's life will be worrying unless the baby has superhuman consciousness or talent.
Finally, "there is no absolute fairness in the world, only reasonable unfairness". We can't let children reject extraordinary possibilities just because they are willing to be reasonable and mediocre.
Tian Beichen, a Hong Kong tycoon, spent two days in a cage house of 1.6 square meters in a program called "The War between the Poor and the Rich". After experiencing the bitterness of the bottom cleaner, he said a sad sentence, which impressed me deeply and was worth pondering:
The upward channel has always been there, content with ordinary or beautiful things, but it is by no means the only choice.
If you don't want your children to live too hard in the future, parents should tell their children from an early age that hard work may not lead to happiness, but you won't get happiness without hard work. (ps: the second generation family is another matter. )
I just don't throw up after pulling so much.
I have seen too many parents who clearly have problems with their education, but blame their children for their lack of talent/scum. This is really not good, not good.
What is education?
True education is that one soul awakens another soul, one soul inspires another soul, and one life ignites another life. Parents need such strength to "ignite" their children.
The purpose of education is not to impart and instill some external and specific knowledge and skills, but to awaken children's sleeping self-consciousness and life consciousness from the deep heart, to awaken children's values, life sense and creativity, so as to realize the free and conscious construction of self-life meaning.
* * * Encourage!