Two children are classmates, one is admitted to Tsinghua and the other is in a vocational high school. I feel a little disappointed, but this gap was not made in a day. Children who can be admitted to Tsinghua are probably masters of learning from an early age, and there is no comparison with children in vocational high schools. After years of study, the dissatisfaction and gap in their hearts have probably adapted.

Since the same class, parents have been comparing that classmate: if a friend goes to bed early, my mother will say, look at that classmate, who is still studying and has such good grades. If a friend wants to go somewhere to play, mother will say, if you are as good as that classmate, I will let you play everywhere. As a result, that classmate went to Peking University, and my friend read one or two books, but the harm that top student brought to her for many years is still there, and it is still scary to mention it now.

Netizen 2:

How many children in China can be admitted to Tsinghua because of their own pain? Is it because they have a neighbor in Tsinghua, so they are unhappy and resentful? It's really unnecessary. There are only a few students in Tsinghua in key high schools. Such a small probability is like winning the lottery, and certainly not everyone has it.

Besides, if someone's children can be admitted to Tsinghua, their parents are certainly not bad, at least they are better than me in their ability and concept of educating children. There are probably two reasons why children go to vocational high schools. First of all, their parents failed to give them a good education. The same is true of school education, and the decisive factor lies in family education. Second, there is a gap in children's natural learning ability. An ordinary person always wants to be taller than Yao Ming. Isn't that looking for abuse

To say the least, the college entrance examination is only the first step in life, and those who study well are not necessarily winners in life. Try to help children plan their future, learn more self-defense skills, and want to go to college.

Netizen 3:

My children grew up with their neighbors' children, and the two families were very close before. That child has been obedient and sensible since he was a child, and everything in his studies depends on his own consciousness, never letting his parents worry. Moreover, my children are obedient, but they are far less disciplined than their neighbors in their studies. They have a wide range of hobbies, wild thoughts and are not very diligent, but they are ok at school. The two children went to key high schools and key classes together. In high school, the two families had a conflict because of one thing, and they became passers-by from then on. The children in the neighborhood are getting better and better at their studies, while our children are not obvious. Even on the eve of the college entrance examination, she wants to play, herself and sunshine, while the children in the neighborhood are absorbed in their studies. That kind of effort makes him less than 18 years old like a middle-aged man in his thirties. The child is not ugly, but because of long-term high tension and anxiety, he looks mature and old beyond his age. Even after he became the champion of the college entrance examination and was reported by the media that year, some netizens were there.

I feel sorry for this sentence, son. To tell the truth, being admitted to Tsinghua is the pride of every parent, but if for this purpose, children have to bear the heavy burden that ordinary people can't miss home, I would rather give up this ideal. This is by no means an acid mentality. This is what I really think. When the children next door go to Tsinghua, I feel calm and have no jealousy. This is what the children pay in return. However, I'm happy that my children are only admitted to a 2 1 1 ordinary university. There is no need for the child next door to be her comparison object. Every child has his own characteristics. The key is to tap the potential of children as much as possible and let them.

Netizen 4:

First of all, people admitted to Tsinghua must keep a low profile, otherwise it will easily attract hatred. Even your relatives, classmates and friends may have shadows in their hearts. This is a psychological barrier for many people. For the vast majority of people, to be honest, they all feel that they are better than others, and they all hope that their children are better than others' children, but the reality is cruel. Especially those who are not far from you at ordinary times, if their children don't do well in the exam, they will have more hatred for those who are admitted to Tsinghua. After all, there are very few people who can face up to themselves and their children, and even fewer people can settle their minds. What he saw was the result of being admitted to Tsinghua. He never thought about how much people who were admitted to Tsinghua paid and how much their parents paid.

My child was admitted to Tsinghua this year, but he is not particularly clever. He studied from 2: 30 to 65: 438+0 every night for four years. In Tsinghua, he is also an ordinary person, a dime a dozen more than him. Now learn a little every night. His classmates in Tsinghua learned a lot. Keeping a low profile and keeping a low profile is fundamental. After my children got the Tsinghua score, they never discussed the college entrance examination with their former classmates. He thinks more than all of us and is easy to attract hatred. Moreover, the results of the college entrance examination are not necessarily related to the future prospects, but only a small part of life.

Netizen 5:

I feel guilty and depressed, because there must be a reason why parents don't study well for their children. And even if I don't want to show this disappointment in front of the children, I can't hide it. And that child, I think his disappointment and self-blame, or inferiority complex, is more serious. As a party, studying in the same class, the grades are so different, and the self-esteem of children is heavier than that of adults.

Therefore, if such a thing happens, I hope parents will not scold their children. Now that it has become a fact, we should talk to them calmly and find out the reason for the gap. How to work hard in the future? We don't have to compare ourselves with others (the life compared with others is sad), but we must find ways to make live high wonderful!

Every day this road leads to success! Therefore, in the key link of the heart, the most tested is not the child, but the mentality and practice of the parents.

Netizen 6:

At this time, the test is not the child, but the mentality of the parents. Once, I also said to my children, who can't study well? My child said softly, mom, you also said "other people's children." I felt ashamed at once. I think comparison is vanity. On the other hand, how do we feel if our children compare their parents with those of their classmates? Children don't criticize us, and we shouldn't hurt their self-esteem.

As parents, the first hope is that children are healthy; The second is to be an upright person; Third, encourage children to discover and develop their own strengths and advantages and develop their independent personality. In other respects, just treat it with a normal heart.