1, establish a correct view of love
(1) Advocate like-minded love. ?
The most important conditions in lovers' choice should be like-minded, and their ideological and moral qualities, professional ideals and interests in life are basically the same. It should be an organic combination of ideal, morality, obligation, career and sex. ?
In general, the development of heterosexual feelings is along the clue of acquaintance-friend-good friend-confidant-lover. When a man becomes an irreplaceable role in a girl's heart, love may come. In the process of sharing weal and woe and growing together, love will come into being and develop. ?
(2) Correcting the relationship between love and career. ?
College students should put their career first, handle the relationship between love and career well, and can't spend all their precious time on love and relax their study. Because learning is the main pillar of college students' values.
When women's universities regard love as the only thing in life, love is a flower in a greenhouse, delicate and beautiful but can't stand any blow. When love becomes a woman's only existence value, she will lose her independence and charm, and it is easy to lose the reason to be loved.
2. Develop healthy love behavior?
(1) Love words should be elegant and beautiful. Talk sincerely, frankly and naturally, and don't put on airs and show yourself affectedly; Don't be rude, abusive or rude; Get to know each other and don't ask each other endlessly, which will damage each other's self-esteem. Otherwise, it will only disgust them and hurt their feelings. ?
(2) Love behavior should be generous. Generally speaking, when men and women fall in love for the first time, they often feel shy and nervous at first, and with the increase of communication, they will gradually become natural and generous. Pay attention to the behavior in this period. Some people are impulsive and make intimate moves too early, which makes the other party disgusted and affects the normal development of their feelings. ?
3. Cultivate the ability and responsibility of love?
(1) The ability to meet love. Including the ability to give love and the ability to receive love. There is love in your heart. After rational analysis, you should dare to express it and be good at expressing it. This is a kind of love ability. People who have no love are selfish people.
You should be sensitive and enthusiastic about yourself, others and everything, and you should take the initiative to care for and love others. When others express their love to you, you can timely and accurately judge the information of love and make a choice calmly. Can bear the psychological troubles caused by refusing to woo or refusing to woo. ?
(2) the ability to refuse love. Love that you don't want or deserve should have the courage to refuse. When rejecting love, we should pay attention to two aspects: first, when unwanted love comes, we should say "no" decisively and bravely, because love can't be forced and will. If you are indecisive or give in to each other's pursuit, it will be detrimental to the development of both sides.
Second, we must master the appropriate way of refusal. Although everyone has the right to refuse love, cherishing every sincere feeling is a kind of respect for others, a kind of self-esteem and a test of one's moral sentiments. It is very inappropriate to treat each other's feelings and self-esteem simply and rashly without considering each other's feelings, and even add harsh words.
4. improve your tolerance for love setbacks?
The love of college students is restricted by many factors, so it is inevitable that they will encounter various twists and turns in the process of pursuing love. Mentioned unrequited love, love illusion, lovelorn and other psychological setbacks in love are all tests of college students' psychological endurance.
If you have a strong tolerance, you can better cope with setbacks, otherwise it may have adverse consequences. Therefore, it is very important to improve the endurance of love frustration for college students' mental health.
People's coping style of lovelorn reflects a person's psychological maturity level and love view. A person can rationally extricate himself from lovelorn love, which often makes him mature.
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What are the problems in college students' love?
1, unrequited love and love illusion?
Secret love and illusion of love are both cognitive and emotional errors in love psychology. Unrequited love makes some students fall into a painful situation, in emptiness, trouble and even despair. Improper handling will have a negative impact on future love and marriage life. Therefore, college students who fall into unrequited love should stop as soon as possible and choose again. In order to overcome the secret love and illusion of love, it is important to correctly understand the profound meaning of love, and at the same time control emotions with reason, respect each other's choices, and not be emotional. ?
2. The love motive is incorrect?
The motivation of some college students is not love itself, but to make up for their inner emptiness, loneliness or conformity. This kind of students seldom combine love behavior with marriage when choosing a spouse, and lack a sense of responsibility. There are also a few students who, in order to show their charm, associate with several opposite-sex students at the same time, engage in multi-angle love, and are not even sure about their relationship. ?
Immoral polyandry can easily lead to disputes, misfortunes and disasters, as well as contradictions and tragedies, which will eventually have adverse consequences for all parties. ?