Not all women are material, but women are creatures who are good at seeing the world from small details. Seeing the truth in the details, a person's personality can be covered and hidden with great probability, but it is difficult not to reveal clues in small details.
Even if you have great ability to re-establish a lovely person for yourself, I'm sorry for a woman. A woman can't afford a man who has a flawed personality, loves to take advantage of petty advantages, loves to haggle over every ounce and loves herself.
We know that blind date is utilitarian and purposeful. Usually, men and women of school age get to know each other through blind dates, not just to get to know each other. Shakespeare once said that love without marriage purpose is hooliganism, and this sentence is also very suitable for blind date. Blind date, which is not for the purpose of marriage, is a rogue act with ulterior motives.
Most people engage in heterosexual social activities such as blind date for the purpose of marriage. If you don't care about the result, you can treat the blind date at will according to your own preferences and lifestyle, and you don't need to create a good image or win the favor of the other party. Because there is no need to get married, blind date may be just a pastime. If you don't care, you can dispose of it at will, regardless of the result, only considering whether the process makes you feel comfortable.
If you want not only the process, but also the result, then I advise you to do the image work honestly. This is not an affair, but a necessary image.
Especially on the first blind date, the impression score plays a vital role in whether there will be sustainable development in the future. If a man is stingy even when he meets for the first time, he only thinks about himself. Note that your image may be bad in the other person's mind. If you still have the possibility of continuing your relationship, it may already be very dangerous.
Being stingy may not be a big personality problem. It is not impossible for you to stick to the principle and bottom line and demand reciprocity. You can choose AA, you can choose a gentleman, you can choose an individual to pay the bill, and you can also pay the bill by the woman according to the wishes of both parties.
But the premise is that you should be psychologically prepared, that is, some of these choices may have unsatisfactory results.
Of course, it is not impossible to meet a woman with the same three views, but you have to understand that the waiting process may be very long, or it may not be met in a lifetime. This is also a fact.
What I said is just a suggestion. How to choose to look at personal needs requires appropriate changes in grades and does not require passing by. It doesn't matter to be the center of the world, just be happy.
Xiaozhen told me a true story of herself. This girl is really just. She met a strange blind date who was very stingy. Among her, she showed no face, and her square face also admired her courage and courage. Let's take a look at her story.
Xiaozhen is 25 years old and her family background is Fu Xiao. She is the only daughter in the family. Her parents opened a small gardening shop in their hometown, and the business is not bad. Xiaozhen returned to her hometown after graduation and found a relatively stable and decent job with her parents. Although the salary is not much, it is enough for her to spend. Coupled with the support of parents, Xiaozhen's life is much more comfortable than that of her peers.
Xiaozhen's parents are more open-minded and never strictly control Xiaozhen. When she was in high school, Xiaozhen fell in love, and the other parents came to Xiaozhen's house and swore at Xiaozhen. Xiaozhen's parents didn't care, only told Xiaozhen that love is not a bad thing, but it can't affect her grades. More importantly, your age should not underestimate the whole love. Maybe you will find that the boy you like now is not the right person for you in the future.
Sure enough, her parents did not strictly interfere, but supported them. They just ask Xiaozhen to focus on her studies and know how to love and protect herself. It didn't take long for Xiao Zhenlong to find out that the boy was not as good as she thought. She met many unreasonable "godsisters" inside and outside the school, and then broke up with that boy on her own initiative.
It is precisely because of the influence of parents' enlightened thoughts that Xiaozhen dares to love and hate. She knows how to protect herself, is principled and measured, and pays great attention to men. Other girls give a candy casually. Girls are flattered or boys are led by the nose. Jane is ashamed, but she doesn't accept gifts from people she doesn't like. She never thinks that women are superior, but that people who are good enough are qualified to have a sense of superiority, regardless of gender.
Is such a girl, she is too rational, no love brain, but was dumped, and now has reached the age of being forced to date by her parents. Based on the idea of knowing more about one person and some ways, Xiaozhen is not very exclusive of blind date, so she reluctantly accepted the blind date arrangement of her parents.
That is, two weeks ago, Xiaozhen was arranged to meet an old friend's son on a blind date, saying that this boy is quite good. There is a unit that compiles employees with good welfare and good family background, and he is not short, so he can be said to be suitable for Xiaozhen.
After seeing each other's photos, Xiaozhen and the boy felt good and exchanged contact information. Now they have been chatting online for some time. During the online chat, Xiaozhen didn't feel anything unusual about this boy. On the contrary, she is very enthusiastic. Although Xiaozhen is a girl who doesn't like talking nonsense, the boy still insists on saying good afternoon to Xiaozhen and cares about Xiaozhen's daily life. Xiaozhen feels very sweet.
However, there have also been visits to Tanabata. The boy didn't say anything, and there were no red envelopes and gifts, but Xiaozhen didn't care. She felt that she couldn't afford what she wanted. There is no need for the boy to spend money by himself. If there is no economic dispute in the future, she will be very confused.
It was not until Tanabata that the boys officially made an appointment with Xiaozhen for the first time, and Xiaozhen readily agreed. The boy booked a place, Xiaozhen came to the appointment, and the boy booked a small restaurant near the university town. Boys are also very straightforward. After all, it's the first time, there's no need to eat such expensive things, mainly to meet and chat.
Xiaozhen also thinks that the boy is right, but she has made up her mind. On the first blind date, she plans to go to AA with the boy to show her attitude, no matter how much it costs. She's not the kind of shallow girl who eats cards.
When dating, although the place she went to was not upscale, Xiaozhen changed a skirt and put on a light makeup to respect each other. She was also teased by her parents that "my daughter has finally grown up and learned the truth that women like themselves", and she went out with a meaningful smile. Maybe even Xiaozhen didn't think this one was very important to herself, and she thought she could have a blind date.
When I got to that place, the boy had already arrived. Two people ordered two dishes, and the boy even said enough. Xiaozhen thinks that since she wants to go out to eat, she should eat comfortably and the food is not expensive. At her request, she added two more dishes, and the boy's face changed from then on.
While eating, they talked for a long time, one build what did not build, and the food was almost finished. Xiaozhen burped contentedly and was about to tell the boy about AA paying the bill. I didn't expect that boy to pass her.
The boy touched all his pockets first, then touched them in a hurry, and then said to Xiaozhen.
"Oh, I hurried out. I forgot my wallet. This mobile phone doesn't charge. It's all turned off now. Forgot my wallet on the first blind date, and my mobile phone was dead. Unfortunately, otherwise, can you pay? There's not much money anyway. I'll treat you to a big meal next time. "
While speaking, the boy deliberately took out his mobile phone and waved it in front of Xiaozhen, and the black screen indicated that it had been turned off.
Jane looked at the boy hesitantly. She felt that the boy's behavior seemed reasonable, but it was intentional. No one will go out on a date without a wallet. I haven't seen it anyway. Besides, why didn't you say it earlier because the phone was dead? Why did you have to wait until the last minute to pay the bill?
Eat less than 200 yuan. On the one hand, Xiaozhen thinks that boys don't need to do this. On the other hand, a woman's sixth sense makes her feel something is wrong. She calmly took out a high-power charging treasure from her bag and shot it directly in front of the boys.
"What a coincidence, I just have a charging treasure, enough for three mobile phones. You'd better fill up your mobile phone first in case someone is in a hurry and can't find someone. That's not good. "
The boy took the charging treasure and said thank you with a stiff expression. Xiaozhen also answered you're welcome. However, the boy took the charging treasure but didn't charge it. But Xiaozhen kept watching, and the boy had to connect to the power supply. This connection is not important. A big battery charging screen appeared on the black screen of the mobile phone, and there were four batteries left.
Although the boy blocked it with his hand, Xiaozhen still saw it. Xiaozhen didn't speak, went directly to pay the bill, and then said to the boy.
"It was supposed to be an AA bill with you, but it was only 200 yuan. Your family is not without money. You have a good job yourself. There's really no need to come out and play with anyone. If you don't want to spend money, you can only lie at home without socializing and spending money.
Blind date is a more expensive interpersonal communication. I advise you, if you want a successful blind date, you should be generous and invest a little cost. It won't do you any harm Plan for the long term. No girl will like you like this. All right, I'll buy it alone. Even if I eat too much, I should pay the bill. Let's do it. "
Say that finish, Jane left without looking back. Later, the boy came to Xiaozhen many times, admitted his mistake to Xiaozhen and said that he really had feelings for Xiaozhen. He hoped Xiaozhen would forgive him and give him another chance, but Xiaozhen refused, for the simple reason that she felt that this boy was not only stingy, but it was the most unacceptable thing for her to cheat her with cleverness, even if it was 200 yuan. In the future, if she meets more money. In order to avoid future harm, Xiaozhen chose to stop loss in time.
Do you think Jane is wrong? I don't think so. Although Xiaozhen has tried, it is also a reasonable suspicion, not an unfounded suspicion. In the end, it turns out that Xiao Zhen's idea is right. Whether a boy is frugal or stingy is not the most important question. The important thing is that he is not only stingy, but also deceives girls. This attitude is really flattering.
As Xiao Zhen said, it's only 200 yuan. Is it worth such a big game? It is also thoughtful enough. He will do anything for 200 yuan, and the means are not very clever. According to the current online buzzwords, this boy is a little not smart.
Square face says you can stick to your principle, you can not pay, you can pay with AA, and you can pay alone. This is your freedom. But you have to understand that since you have chosen, you must accept the result, and you must firmly believe that you are right, and don't hesitate.
The boy knew that he had done something wrong, so he came up with this bad idea. I don't want to spend money to get good results, but I don't know that you can't have your cake and eat it. Pay will be rewarded, and it is natural to pay your share. The result of nothing can only be 0 to pay 0 in return.
Blind date will definitely have a cost, which both men and women should face up to. No one should pay, and the other party only receives the return from the other party. If one party doesn't want to pay, then it is doomed from the beginning, and one party only wants to return, and the result is the same.
Correct blind date attitude, men should not be too stingy, women should not take it for granted, you should know that no one owes anyone. However, under reasonable circumstances, men can try their best to show their gentlemanly demeanor, which is a smart choice.