Because you know, no one wants you to live better than her except your parents. Those small shows that originated from vanity, while being envied, are also accompanied by jealousy and even being excluded. Your sense of superiority will only make others feel that you are not in the same circle, so they are afraid or unwilling to approach you.
2. Call friends or parents at ordinary times and try to avoid playing in the dormitory. Because you never know how many secrets your roommate will get from your conversation with others. When you meet some gossip roommates, you say something to your friends that you think only you can understand, and they will rack their brains to infer something from your words. ...
Don't say it when you are hesitant to say it.
There are no secrets between two people in the dormitory. If one person knows your secret, it basically means that it is not far from the whole dormitory.
No matter how small it is to ask others for help, you should remember to repay others. Roommates are not friends. Maybe you think you have a good relationship with her. Let her help you bring your meals, collect your clothes, bring a courier, and help you answer in class, all of which are trivial matters. But people don't think so, and they have no obligation to do so. In the eyes of others, more is better than less. Therefore, treating roommates who are willing to help, remember to share a snack afterwards or invite them to have a cup of milk tea (as the case may be), which will make others feel valued and let others know that you are a grateful person. This way, the next time you look for her, you won't feel embarrassed to always ask others for help, and others will be happy to help you, because they feel that they can find their own value while helping you.
6. Don't be the first person to rush in, and don't be the one to express opinions. I have a roommate who never participates in every discussion about what to eat out or how to arrange something. If you ask her, she will say anything.
Such people seem to be independent and even a little unsociable. But she has become the most popular person in our dormitory, and we want to be with her in everything we do. There are few things, and they are not forced.
7. In the dormitory, the more you talk, the greater the chance of offending others. Talk less and do more. Doing a lot of things can be doing your own thing well or helping others as much as you can.
8. There may be small groups in the dormitory that play well together in twos and threes. At this time, what you have to do is not to get on well with people in any small group, but to learn to make a small scale for these small groups. Imagine if you only keep good relations with two people in a small group. Once one day you are unhappy, you can't stay in this group, and other groups don't want to accept you. Others are playing so well that you are embarrassed to intervene.
But if you are not a member of these groups from the beginning, get on well with each group and let each group be willing to accept you. If you are not satisfied with these people, you can play with others. Therefore, always remember to leave room and retreat for yourself.
9. Stay away from people who make you feel uncomfortable at first sight. Don't ask me how I know.
10. This should be written to the little sisters in the dormitory who are always kind-hearted and always like to think of others. If you often feel good about everyone but don't get the respect and reward you deserve, even your kindness and kindness are taken for granted.
Please remember, if you don't cherish your heart, you will know how to save it in time! This also applies to any interpersonal relationship. A person should have his own personality. I can treat you well, which is based on the premise that you treat me well and we respect each other. I'm sorry if you can't do it, but I'll take back my kindness.
1 1. If you are new to dormitory collective life, you must set your own bottom line and principles as soon as possible to let them know what kind of person you are and what habits you have. For example, I don't like people using things without permission.
Once someone breaks your bottom line, be sure to let her know that you are not happy right away. It is inevitable that people are not afraid of contradictions and conflicts. You put up with it for a while, instead of being peaceful, friendly and calm, you pushed your luck and made you feel more and more ugly.
12. The recipient is selfish and ugly. If you expect too much from your roommate, you are often the only one who is hurt and unhappy. Besides, just roommates, even friends, have no brothers before interests. Ask less of others and expect more of yourself. You will find that life is so beautiful.
13. to sisters who may be being squeezed out and isolated: you are particularly good and especially worthy. Don't deny yourself just because of one person or a few people. People who don't get along can't get along, and they don't have to think about what they can do to make themselves happy and get affirmation.
You know, people who hate you hate everything you do. The more humble you are, the worse she is. If you feel that you can't turn your face, then fade out of her sight, go out to participate in activities and competitions, and meet some like-minded friends. Think about it. In fact, before college, we didn't have many opportunities to choose friends on our own initiative. The person in our class, the person at our table or the people before and after, that person is probably our best friend in high school.
But college is different. A wide circle of friends gives you the opportunity to choose your own friends. Cherish this opportunity and find friends who are in line with your real interests. Most of the uncomfortable reasons for being isolated are because we are afraid of loneliness and no one to accompany us. So when you are accompanied by friends outside the dormitory, you will find something isolated and excluded. To put it bluntly, no common goal, no common goal. You take your wooden bridge and I'll take my sunshine road. Everybody's fine.