How are you getting along in your new school?

Originally, this letter should have been written a long time ago, and there were many things that should have been said a long time ago, but I didn't write or say it. It's not that I don't want to, but that I know you hate an empty missionary. So, I am waiting, waiting for your own life, waiting for your understanding of life, waiting for your reflection on life attitude. These things are only a matter of time. At the end of the semester, when you are busy preparing for the final exam, I think this letter can be written, and these words can be said. I believe that you should feel the same way as me, and your thoughts should be able to reach a depth.

You have experienced the third year of high school, but it is not black for you, but a feeling of more tension than usual. Deep down, you haven't really realized the significance of fighting for your goals. In this pale process, you lost an opportunity to temper yourself.

It is nothing for a person to lose an opportunity, but it is in this loss that many people lose their successful lives. So, class, what have you lost? Black is depressing, depressing, but it represents a medium maturity and atmosphere behind it.

Remember the students who studied in * * College at the graduation ceremony? When talking about the feelings of university life in our class, he said, "There are two kinds of people in universities: talents and scum." So for those of you who have been in college for a semester, I want to ask: Are you talents or scum? If I guess correctly, you will definitely answer me: I am neither a talent nor a scum, somewhere in between. If so, I think: you are degenerating into human scum. Do you think this is extreme? We need to go to extremes on this issue. In this semester, do you have a lot of time at a loss, a lot of time lying in bed in the dormitory, a lot of time chatting on QQ, and a lot of time fighting in online games? A semester passed, and suddenly I found that I didn't listen carefully to several classes, although all the classes I gave you were above the lecturer level; Suddenly I found that I didn't read a few books carefully, although your university library has a lot of books; Suddenly I found that I had learned nothing, although there was a lot to learn in college. Are you worried about passing the final exam instead of getting good grades, and are planning various methods that will not stand out: surprise study, cheating in exams, buying wine as a gift, and praying alone? ...

Don't say that you don't understand in class, don't say that teachers don't care, don't say that majors are not interested, don't say that schools are too bad, and depravity doesn't need reasons, just excuses.

If I remember correctly, your annual tuition is more than 5,000 yuan, and the highest is 9,000 yuan. Plus your living expenses and other expenses, most of them can reach 1 10,000 yuan or more. Now you are in college and receiving a high-cost education, but how much output did your parents get from your high investment?

Most of you come from rural areas or small business families, and not many people have rich family wealth. Every penny you use now is the hard-earned money of your parents, even the money borrowed everywhere, which contains incomparable hardships and love for you. On their old faces scarred by years, there are also a pair of hopeful eyes for you, muddled and even a little vague.

Hope can turn into disappointment, and disappointment can turn into despair, but who is the decider of this change?

Responsibility is not given to you by others, but determined by your mature thoughts. You all say that you have grown up and said that you are mature, but I think that at the age of 20, you are just an external maturity. You have a responsibility to your parents that you can never shirk, but you gave up your mission in inaction and degeneration.

After the end of the semester, when you go home for the Spring Festival, your parents still love you, are still full of hope, and still exhort you, but you don't apologize at all, don't even talk about your study, and don't even show them your report card. You hide in a corner and sign their names by yourself.

Liar, a hypocritical liar, a liar with no sense of responsibility, a liar who can become scum, I don't want, and I don't want my students to become like this. I have always stubbornly believed that you can be my pride.

It is difficult to build a thing, but it is easy to destroy it. Students, please remember and assume your responsibilities to your parents.

This semester, many students have reflected such a problem: I don't know what I want to do in the end, or I don't work hard at anything. This is a common phenomenon among students who have just entered the university, because you have lost your goal. The reason for this is the following：

First: you have been admitted to the university. You have achieved your ultimate goal in primary school, junior high school and senior high school. For many students, college is the last stage of your study. After finishing college, you have to find a job, but for students who have worked for 12 years, it still seems so out of reach.

Second, the teaching methods in universities are completely different from those in other periods. There are no teachers around you in the university, for fear that you have learned nothing. Whether you learn or not is entirely your own business. You're an adult. Without repeated explanations and unfinished homework, you feel that the class is empty for you. What should I do if I learn? What should I do if I don't learn? Instead of making yourself study so hard, let yourself live a little more freely.

Third: there is too much time left for yourself in college. From morning self-study to evening self-study, there are teachers who arrange your tasks properly. Up to now, no one has told you what to do, leaving you at a loss. Most of you lack spiritual independence and good self-control, and you can't grasp these seemingly excessive freedoms at all.

Fourth, counselors in universities are completely different from former class teachers. The former class teacher had to take care of everything, just like a demanding nanny, because we regarded you as children who had not grown up; Nowadays, counselors don't care about anything but roll call because they treat you as an adult. In this process, there is a huge disconnect, and you can't complete this transformation psychologically and intellectually.

Fifth: Most of you lack clear and definite life goals. You don't know what kind of person you want to be or what kind of career you want to be. From the ideal of primary school, to the future of junior high school, to the university of high school, and then to the confusion of university, you have completed the transformation of your life goals in this process, and the last thing left is dead bugs. I think it is the combination of these five points that makes you lose your goal. However, a ship without direction is not downwind.

You should find your goal, not immediately, but in the shortest possible time.

Here is a suggestion for you, hoping to help you find your goal.

Step 1: Put aside all obstacles, start from your major and figure out what kind of work or career you want to do in the future. Find a blank sheet of paper and record your final decision. Please do not hesitate. Graphic advertising designer? Animator? Web designer? Network programmer? Software development engineer? Communication engineer? Architect? Mold design engineer? ……

Step 2: Make full use of the network, recruitment inspiration in the talent market and other channels to fully understand the professional skills and other skills needed to engage in the job you set. Most of the theoretical knowledge of these skills is learned from books. What you need to do is to make a list of books for yourself in order from basic to profound. Please write this on paper, too.

Step 3: Assign yourself study time according to the order of books and records. Of course, most of the time you can allocate is your spare time. And put it into practice every semester, so that you have a study plan every semester.

The fourth step: according to the study plan, study in a down-to-earth way and practice with all possible conditions.

I believe that if every student has a goal, you will live a full and busy life and gain a lot. So please set yourself a goal.

Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gonna get! In fact, of the above four steps, the first, second and third steps are very easy to achieve, and the fourth step is the most difficult and really not easy to achieve.

First of all, there are too many college students around you, living a chic life that their peers yearn for. To reach the fourth point, you need to overcome the influence of the big environment.

Secondly, there are too many temptations in universities. There is another itchy sound in QQ; In online games, there is a killing sound, which makes people feel very excited; Under the street lamp by the lake, there are pairs of lovers who are closely related; The table is full of money that seems easy to get ... to reach the fourth point, you need to refuse these temptations and walk through the university like an ascetic in the eyes of others.

Moreover, you should be able to tolerate loneliness and loneliness, which seems out of place in college life. But successful and great people are lonely, and their patience has cultivated their super perseverance and extraordinary wisdom.

There is an animal called vulture, which has tax bills and sharp claws. But with the increase of age, its beak will grow longer and longer, so that it can't bite its prey; Thick webbed meat grows between its claws, connecting them together and unable to catch prey. It is an unchangeable law that you will die without food. For it, death seems to be the only way out However, it has made a choice that can shock mankind: it repeatedly bites its beak on hard rocks and breaks long parts until it regains its former sharpness; I pecked at the webbed meat between my paws with my beak, although my blood was flowing and I was trembling with pain. This process will last for more than a month, and then they will fly proudly in the sky as before.

The process of pain, greatness and rebirth. Isn't life the same?

Maybe someone will ask: why do I have to struggle painfully when others can live a chic life? I'll change it to another question: Does the university enjoy life or shape itself?

When many students first entered the university, they had the experience of running for the offices and cadres of the student union and various societies. Afterwards, many students lamented: unfair, everything depends on the relationship. I would like to ask, if schools are still like this, what will society do? Doesn't society play politics, relationships and money more thoroughly? What makes you stand in society in the future? It doesn't matter if you want money. If you don't have money, what else? At the beginning of college graduation, you either work in management or in technology. But you have no power, it doesn't matter, and you have no money. Isn't it Conan's dream to be engaged in good management and earn more than four figures a month? Your best choice is to engage in technical work, but you need real materials, because it doesn't depend on who has great power, hard connections and much money.

Recently, Chongqing TV Station is replaying the TV series "Mountain City Bangbang Army". I believe many students have seen this TV series. I gave it to you then.

What kind of feelings did you leave behind? Funny, comedy. But this kind of humor and comedy is different from Mr. Fool. It is the poverty, helplessness and self-improvement of the working people at the bottom, which makes people cry after laughing. You all look down on their work in your hearts, or you will be asked to do a big job for a month. Will you go?

I don't think you will go. However, when you graduated from college, you suddenly found that you didn't learn a really good skill except getting a college diploma. How much better will your work be than awesome? Maybe it's just a nice name. Maybe anyone can do it. Will you still complain then?

Each of us wants to live a high-quality life, to let our closest relatives live a carefree life, and to leave traces of our own value in the world, but these can not be achieved through enjoyment. God gave each of us hands and a brain to create and think. This period of time in college is your best study time, so please give up enjoyment, try to reshape yourself and save strength for the future takeoff.

Since we are talking about college life, we should fall in love. The university gathers adolescent boys and girls, and love inevitably happens here. But I don't know when it started, but this normal thing that can't be normal has never been questioned: today's college students are full of feelings. The criticism of major media has intensified. Nowadays, college students are mixed with most utilitarianism, desire and indulgence in their emotions. When they graduate every year, lovers eat their last meal, hug and kiss for the last time, then turn around and leave, embark on their own journey and forget this relationship as if it had never happened. Love is only regarded as a need.

You are now in the first semester of freshman year. In the second semester, many people will want to catch love or be caught by love. But I hope your love is sincere, earnest, pure and true. If you think he is handsome and want to fall in love with him, please think twice; If you think she is beautiful and want to fall in love with her, please think twice; If you feel lonely and want to find someone to fall in love with, please think twice; If you fall in love with someone just because you heard a few words from a friend, please give up. In fact, the word "love" has clearly indicated its object: the following word "friend" shows that you should know him (her) well and he (she) should be your friend; It means that you should choose carefully among these friends; "ノ" means that you can only choose one of them as your lover and the others as your friends. Please cherish your emotion, otherwise it will become very cheap. What is love? You should know this in your hearts. I think: being attracted because of Excellence, being loved because of attraction, and learning to love because of being loved, this is the process of love.

At this point, what I want to say is almost finished. These 4,000-odd words look very tired, and I sincerely hope to bring you more or less help. If you find it useless, please tear it up and throw it away. Please forgive my rudeness. If you find it helpful, please keep it and watch it quietly for a few times.