In high school, everyone was strictly controlled, and the fantasy of beautifying love in my heart was always suppressed, just waiting for it to break out in college.

The university should have heard of "Senior Firefighter".

It is not that seniors are bad people who eat people, but that they have stayed in the university environment for many years and can overwhelm you in experience and cognition.

This so-called "college experience" is very attractive to you as a freshman. Many junior girls who have just entered the university can't stand the temptation of "maturity and gentleness" and throw themselves into the arms of seniors.

But in fact, many seniors have never talked about a serious love from the beginning, but simply pick up their younger brothers and sisters to get rid of the order.

As soon as you joined the orientation group, their thoughts began.

Red envelopes fly in the group, indicating your student union status (everyone in the university has a place). After you come to school, first introduce the school euphemistically, and then buy milk tea and send it to the dormitory.

It may be sweet at first, but after all, you have been away from life for years. By the time he began to be busy with postgraduate entrance examination, work and internship, he had already regarded primary school girls as a burden.

In this relationship, you are just his emotional comforter, and you have never appeared in his life plan.

The degree to which he cherishes you depends on your value, not your speed.

Girls often struggle with a question: will this person get me so soon and not cherish it?

In fact, boys are cautious creatures, and he may not say it verbally, even he doesn't realize it.

But he will instinctively "evaluate" the value of a relationship and analyze the "contribution" and "preservation" of both sides in this relationship.

So don't worry, he won't think you are inferior and don't cherish you because he gets you soon.

It is your personal value and charm that makes him respect and love you instinctively.

Don't love too hard, have your own life.

Roommate Xiao Li talked about a beautiful and gentle girlfriend who often buys food for our dormitory. Everyone has a good impression on her.

However, Xiao Li said she was very tired. It turns out that she is too clingy. Often she doesn't reply to the news for two minutes, and then she starts bombing indiscriminately. It's always been a video call.

There was a time when we were drinking in the dormitory and everyone was shirtless. His girlfriend made a video call and he cut it into voice.

But the other party didn't want to see him, and everyone was embarrassed.

No way, he had to go out with his mobile phone, so we ate his share.

Love is when two people live together, not when one person becomes a vassal or parasite of the other.

Understand that during the period of love, young couples have endless topics every day and want to talk to each other.

But you should also understand that the other person has his own life, and you can't always ask the other person to accompany you at the expense of his own life or even his future.

4. Read more and write more. Boys and girls with connotation are the most attractive.

Rich experience and knowledge, your profound thoughts can be conveyed through your eyes.

This kind of eyes is different from Tik Tok boys who play games all day, and they often separate their attention. Too short a concentration time will make people's eyes dull and make you depressed.

The temperament change brought by reading and writing more will accompany you for life.

5. If you don't communicate or quarrel when you encounter problems, you just don't love each other.

Quarrel is really not terrible, at least communication, communication.

The biggest killer of feelings is the cold war. Do you two communicate and maintain your feelings with your thoughts instead of talking?

This kind of love is really boring. Why not give each other a good time and break up early?

No matter how good the emotional foundation is, it will be exhausted by suspicion and bad emotions in the process of the Cold War.

If you don't want to continue and want to protect this relationship, I'll give you a solution here.

A. Give the other person a step and take the initiative to open the topic.

B. let the other party vent their emotions first, and then talk to ta after venting.

C. Wait for both sides to calm down, and then make sense slowly.

6. Love will disappear

No matter how beautiful the skin is, it will feel normal after watching it for a long time.

No matter how interesting the soul is, it will feel noisy if it stays for a long time.

Two people in love can make a phone call until late at night, and will not be willing to part until they are thirsty.

But often after a few months, after you have received each other, you will feel slack compared with when you are in love.

Don't panic, it's normal.

In fact, it is also the time when this feeling appears, and the relationship between your has just begun.

The next test for you is whether the life rhythm of two people is in tune, whether they can get along, whether the three views are consistent and so on.

7. Accept his occasional naivety

Not only girls, but every boy has a naive boy living in his body.

They also want to be spoiled once in a while and play a little temper with you.

Don't be surprised, this is the result of his trust in you. He is willing to let go of all his guard and show you the truest and most vulnerable side.

As everyone knows, Teacher Cang once said a classic sentence: After knowing many types of men, I finally feel that the biggest feature of men is simplicity. Even when they are old, they still feel like children. If a man always makes his girlfriend feel mature, then this woman may not have entered his heart.

8. Pay attention to protect yourself

There are more love rat in reality than you think. They try their best to get close to you and spend money for you.

Maybe it's just to let your body satisfy your abnormal animal desires.

If a girl has no previous love experience, she is likely to be cheated by a man's sweet words.

Everyone is an adult, and it is normal for both sides to have this demand.

But you must protect your health and privacy.