1. The most important thing is to change you, not your mother.

2. Stay calm. The more upset you are, the more your mother thinks you are still a child, and naturally the more she wants to take care of all aspects of your life. When you find yourself getting impatient, tell yourself: it doesn't matter, mom just needs me to coax her.

3. When your mother is concerned, you can gently respond with a "Yes, Mom", so that your mother can feel your concern for her and calm down.

4. convey the message "I am an adult" to my mother in behavior. When the family needs help, stand up and take responsibility; In the absence of parents' requirements and expectations, do intimate things for parents, such as washing dishes after meals; Take your parents out to dinner, buy beautiful clothes for your mother, and so on.

5. Distract your attention. The next time my mother does this, she can say, "I know you haven't seen me for a long time, and I'm worried that I can't eat well and wear warm clothes, but I take good care of myself, and my mother can rest assured." "Then, the conversation naturally shifted to mom:" How are you and dad recently? Are you in good health? "

6. Sometimes, mom's nagging may just have nothing to say. She wants to be close to your life, but there is no way.

7. Share your life with your mother. At home, tell your mother a few things you want to talk about in college, and then ask her thoughts and opinions. When you listen, you won't interrupt or refute. This is to give your mother enough opportunities to participate in your life, and it also shows that you have considered her opinions. Of course, you can just listen quietly without listening to her advice.

8. Note that when you ask your mother to change the way she treats you, you also need to reflect on the way you treat your mother. Don't think "she is a nagging mother" in your mind, but tell yourself "she is an adult" and ask yourself, what is the difference if you communicate with her in the way that adults treat adults?

9. Be mentally prepared. No matter how you change, your mother still treats you like a child. You have the ability to change yourself, but there is no guarantee that you can change others. No matter how your mother treats you as a child, you can cooperate with her patiently. All you have to do is take care of her feelings. This is a sign that your mind is mature enough.

These are my suggestions. Please accept it if it helps. Thank you for your encouragement ~