It only takes 1 1 week to break up. A survey of a dating website once found that it takes 18 months for divorced people to heal the trauma caused by divorce, which is six times more than that caused by breaking up. Lewandowski and Bizzoco think that it is probably because marriage is regarded as a very serious commitment that most people find it hard to let go. No matter what kind of divorce, it is painful, more or less. Although divorce is a relief for many people, it is undeniable that there is pain in the heart at the moment when I feel relaxed.
Although there will be pain, the difference is that some people only suffer for a while, while others suffer for a long time. Some people may only need a few months to forget the marriage of 10, while others take six years to forget the marriage of two years. Why is there such a big difference between people? Because everyone has different attitudes and methods towards pain, the outcome is naturally very different. Since everyone has pain, it depends on how to deal with it. The pain of divorce is inevitable, and the more you escape the pain, the more tenacious you are.
Only by facing the pain first and accepting it can we face the pain. Therefore, you must set aside a painful time for yourself after divorce. This is the only way after divorce. You can't avoid it. You just need to go, you don't need to try to bypass it. When you admit your pain, you have surrendered to it. You don't have to spend more energy fighting it. You just let yourself suffer peacefully.