I heard a sentence a long time ago, "High school is a high school for a group of people, and a university is a university for one person." I didn't understand it at that time, and I didn't understand the meaning until I went to college.

In high school, we regarded the university as an ideal, as an ivory tower, and wholeheartedly wanted to go to the holy land of dreams. But when I got to college, I felt "afraid of being close to home".

We left our familiar high school, our familiar classmates and our hometown where we lived for a long time. We went far away. We talked about sunny days in the south, greenhouses in the north, Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai.

Our imaginary university is like this: preaching, teaching, dispelling doubts and finding partners.

And universities in reality:

Sign in, scan the code, and throw in the meal card.

Regular meeting failed, open the network to write the plan.

Find a seat in the online class and push it home.

Lectures, plays, dog food, no money to spend.

Faced with such a high number of implants, there is nothing we can do.

Let's learn a C language to make ourselves angry.

When we draw a Zhang Gong, we have to vomit that "real warriors dare to face ten intersecting lines and dare to draw their frontal projections".

We have been looking for PPT templates online for a long time, but we still can't find them satisfactory.

We went to class and found that the front row was occupied, and then we were annoyed that we didn't come earlier.

We found that the mobile phone was full of PPT photos of the teacher's class.

We use headphones more and more frequently, and listen so much in online classes.

We also have to deal with the relationship between roommates from all corners of the country.

We finally found out that it doesn't seem to be an ideal university or an ideal major.

Only then did we understand that we didn't go to college, it was given by the university.

2,

The opening report, with freshness, we went to explore college life. Community activities, sports meetings, part-time jobs, volunteers, etc. At a loss. We are both excited and scared. We are very happy, but we also have many concerns.

After busy, I found myself suddenly confused. Although there are students who play well, the fact of geographical isolation makes you feel that you don't have the sense of belonging and identity like high school.

You dare not tell others about your troubles.

So, you want to go back to senior three and have a rest?

You miss those people in high school so much. You really want to go back and play with your high school classmates, but you know you can't go back.

So, you are waiting for the news of high school QQ group or WeChat group on your mobile phone and want to return to that feeling, but you know what is missing, and you don't know it yourself.

So, you find yourself with the lonely temperament of a poet, and you laugh at yourself! You feel busy, but you are inefficient. You find yourself with lazy cancer and procrastination, and then continue to laugh at yourself.

You try to fit in, but you feel lonely. You want to blend in, but you find that it is against your own interests, but on the other hand, you feel that you should not be too maverick and follow the crowd.

So, you feel like a failure!

3,

I have a friend who is introverted and has a narrow knowledge. When he was in college, he didn't adapt to many things, such as the climate, the food in the canteen, the rhythm and the operation of the computer. , do not adapt to the dormitory!

So he wants to send a group of friends or spit in QQ space. Halfway through the code, he suddenly remembered whether it would be too melodramatic, so he deleted it word by word, but he really wanted to vent his depressed mood. He's ambivalent.

He changed one QQ avatar after another and WeChat avatar, determined to start over, and tomorrow will not be so anxious as it is today. But the next day, I was still so confused.

He wants to chat in the QQ group in high school, but he is usually introverted and doesn't like to talk at first. He is afraid that no one will pay attention to him. Talk to your high school friends when you think about it. Further thinking, it is better to build a group and let his classmates who are playing well join in.

He suddenly felt so smart that he found a perfect reason, the book club. So you can hide your anxiety.

Maybe it works, maybe it doesn't.

In my impression, when he first went to college, he didn't know a lot of things. He doesn't know the basic operation of computer, and he doesn't know how to use office software at all. He was depressed and chatted with his friends, but he didn't know what to say. He has been spitting and giving red envelopes to high schools. Slowly, my friend is a little tired, but he doesn't know enough is enough, so sometimes my friend pretends not to have heard from him.

His QQ avatar has changed five or six times, so that when his friends first saw it, they all wondered who it was.

Behind the change of avatar is a confused heart. He hid behind QQ, watched the dynamics of his friends, refreshed the news again and again, and wondered if others would send him a message at this time, saying that he should read it at the first time and reply to the comments at the first time.

This is actually a microcosm of everyone, just a matter of zooming in and out.

4,

So dear you, you should know that a university is a university for one person after all. Don't worry about confusion, everyone has it. Through the fog, you can find a better self.

You should join a warm department or club, instead of thinking that the more you join, the better.

You should learn to do what you like, keep trying and have fun instead of doing nothing;

You have to have three or two warm-hearted friends to talk about the same hobbies, instead of forcing yourself to deliberately integrate;

You should form the good habit of going to bed early and getting up early to eat and exercise, instead of saying, "Go to bed early and fall asleep at four in the morning."

You should meet the person you like, take a walk, read books and watch movies instead of indulging in your own world.

You should make yourself cool and excellent, instead of indulging in the past and thinking about going back to senior three. You can't go back, you have to look forward.

If you don't like this major, try to change it, although it is difficult and risky;

If you don't like this school, be arrogant and get into a better university;

If you want to study abroad, you must first practice your spoken English to a superb level.

We have a lot of things to do, besides, we have to do it ourselves.

Loneliness is a compulsory course for growth.

No one will accompany you to verify the analytic geometry results, but you will learn calculus by yourself;

No one will accompany you to correct the wrong answer in the passage, and you will die.

No one told you where to find the PPT template, but you searched the internet yourself and finally found the right one;

Nobody told you how to draw a work plan. Because I can't draw either.

For students who have been to college.