It is also an important task for college students to learn to adjust interpersonal relationships correctly. From the above characteristics of college students' interpersonal relationship, it can be concluded that the factors affecting college students' interpersonal relationship are nothing more than cognitive factors, psychological factors and social factors. Therefore, we should guide college students to adjust their interpersonal relationships correctly from these aspects.
1. Promote a good social atmosphere
Creating a good social environment is the basic premise to guide college students to adjust their interpersonal relationships. Nowadays, an important manifestation of interpersonal relationship under the condition of market economy is the gradual weakening of emotion, which is replaced by the exchange of material interests. At present, the bad social atmosphere of "money first" and "everything depends on relationship" which is popular in society also affects the freshmen's view of communication. So as to form a harmonious and healthy social environment and a fair credit social environment; Vigorously carry forward the excellent moral tradition of the Chinese nation, establish the moral principles of patriotism, law-abiding, courtesy, honesty, unity and friendliness, advocate an aggressive and optimistic attitude towards life, establish the humanistic spirit of ultimate concern for life, condense into a new moral system in the new era, create a harmonious social environment, and cultivate fertile ground for the healthy development of college students' interpersonal relationships.
2. Create a good campus environment
Schools, departments and classes can consciously carry out colorful activities according to the interpersonal characteristics of college students, such as various parties, literary competitions, speeches and salons. Through these activities, we can carry forward the spirit of equality, honesty and friendship, make the campus and class full of vitality and popularity, create a good interpersonal environment for college students, encourage them to take the initiative to participate in communication, establish good relations with students from different backgrounds, give full play to their talents, and make correct communication cognition in practice.
3. Guide college students to form correct cognition and learn to eliminate psychological barriers.
Discordant interpersonal relationships come from imperfect cognition. A correct understanding of yourself and others is the premise of regulating interpersonal relationships. Students come from all over the country, have different backgrounds and life backgrounds, and also have their own strengths and weaknesses, which are natural. In the case of interpersonal problems with classmates around us, we should first correctly understand ourselves and put ourselves in a correct position, and we should not be condescending and domineering, which will only aggravate the tension of interpersonal relationships and is not conducive to communication. Knowing yourself correctly also includes "accepting yourself" or "accepting yourself correctly". People who can't accept themselves can hardly treat others correctly. For example, people who can't accept their own shortcomings will feel inferior. Once this kind of psychology is not alleviated, the "hostility" to the people around you will become an obstacle in interpersonal communication, and it is difficult to be sincere and frank in the process of communication. Therefore, it is necessary to guide college students to learn to overcome psychological barriers, such as stereotypes, jealousy, inferiority and so on. For example, don't be biased against classmates' origins, family economic conditions and academic achievements, but should give them understanding, care and help to enhance their self-confidence; Be good at discovering and giving full play to your own advantages, and learn to look at yourself from different angles; When you don't get along well with your classmates, you can adjust and control your bad mood in many ways, such as participating in cultural and sports activities, diverting your attention, and broadening the scope of making friends.
4. Guide college students to master the knowledge and skills of interpersonal communication.
(1) Three basic principles should be followed to improve interpersonal relationships. First, the principle of active opening. College students come from all over the country and have different habits, experiences, feelings of life and customs. Only by opening yourself up actively can we make better friends and let others know ourselves and others. Second, the principle of equality. There are differences among college students, which come from the original living conditions and background. Therefore, in study and life, student cadres should treat ordinary students equally. Students with excellent academic performance oppose students with excellent academic performance, students with good family economic conditions oppose students with poor conditions, students from cities oppose students from rural areas, and Han students oppose ethnic minorities and even boys and girls and help each other. In practice, it is not easy for students to truly treat each other as equals. In colleges and universities, counselors or class teachers should guide and set an example. Third, the attitude is enthusiastic. Enthusiasm is a strong and infectious emotional state. In interpersonal relationships, the enthusiasm for people can cover up all ugliness, and the warm treatment between classmates can effectively close the relationship between them.
(2) Learn to treat others' behaviors correctly. In dealing with people, you should immediately express your attitude clearly about the behavior you like, and don't "reluctantly" praise others. People in a bad mood should adopt the method of "listening", listen to each other sincerely and patiently and comfort him. One of the most difficult problems in interpersonal relationships is how to deal with behaviors that you don't like. In classmates' communication, an intentional or unintentional behavior of others may affect your interests, or some opinions of classmates conflict with yours. At this time, the common attitude is to answer blows with blows, which can only further worsen interpersonal relationships. Once you encounter this situation, you should calm down and think about how to solve the problem without hurting your feelings.
(3) selective communication. Nowadays, college students' interpersonal communication is not only concentrated in schools, but also gradually increases with the society. Consciously choosing those who have ambition, morality and taste will help to form a positive and healthy interpersonal network. In addition, there are many communication skills that are conducive to the formation of good interpersonal relationships, such as the correct use of verbal and non-verbal skills, giving people sincere praise and smiles, and proper use of humor, which are also conducive to the adjustment of interpersonal relationships.