Teacher Yang Yonglong answers Xiong Zaiyang: Hello! When I first mentioned emotional problems, you helped me a lot. Thank you for your concern about the growth of our younger generation. This time, I want to ask you, do you support living off campus? That was in my school! It's a specialized medical class. After graduating from junior high school, I went to our present school, and my grades were not very satisfactory. This year is my second year at school. It's been two years. Basically, it has not been able to persist well. I have been studying and playing all day, doing nothing. But I'm not the kind of person who is not self-motivated. I hope I can … how can I put it? Unlike our great leaders, who always pay attention to life, they can at least give themselves a good life. I usually see others playing, and I know it's beautiful and cool. But I think about my future. I can imagine what I will be like when I grow up while playing. Because there is no knowledge, I hit a wall everywhere. Others look down on themselves, and they will feel very sorry. Why don't they study hard at school? I don't want to have regrets in life. You may feel that there is no place to study in your school. The whole school is playing. Didn't they study hard? Of course there is research, and there are many more. But I don't want to study at school. I think our class dormitory is a mess. Speaking of dormitories, by the way, I'd like to introduce you to our five-year college dormitory. When I first came to our school, the teachers in the dormitory still checked the bed every day. See if any of us didn't come back. It feels good, just like junior high school. This is a good year. Sleep is sleep. But when the teacher inspected the dormitory, he just went to the dormitory to find the person in charge of the dormitory to sign, and all the representatives were there. I'm dying. What is this thing? That's great. The dormitory is loose. The guys in the dormitory come back at eleven or twelve every night, saying it's too early. Better not come back! It doesn't matter to me to affect sleep. What bothers me most is that there are four bedrooms in one class. I have never heard of any dormitory people discussing our medical content together. What I said was all a mess. It is so boring. Sunday, not bad. The dormitory is empty all day, and reading is ok. But in the dormitory, we don't even want the dormitory. Dirty, there is no good table yet. Still illiterate. I want to read in the classroom, but I can't read there every day! Very inconvenient. So I finally decided to rent a clean place off campus and study hard. After I told my dad, my dad wouldn't let me live outside. It's too dangerous for me to live outside. I can't help myself. I'm afraid I will fail in my studies. No matter how hard I try to persuade him, I won't say: no! Actually, I know my dad's worry. It is not easy for parents to accompany them all their lives. I am the only boy in my family. If something really happens to me, what will they do for the rest of their lives? I don't want them to worry about me either. But what makes me very depressed is that I am so old that they still treat me as a child and educate me with words about children. Really going to collapse! I have basically entered the society now. What I need now is their decades of social experience and experience in dealing with people. This is more useful to me than reading, if I don't study now. You will definitely suffer in the future! Hey ... forget it! This time, I just want to ask you, Mr. Yang. You are a scholar in psychology, and you will be more clear about this matter. Give me an idea! I really can't stand the present learning environment, and I want to change to a better environment at once. I wonder if you have any good suggestions. Please give me a lot of advice in your busy schedule! -PANDA KID PANDA KID: Hello! I understand your mood at this moment and appreciate your psychological and behavioral performance of active learning. I'd rather discuss your problem with you. When I was in college more than 20 years ago, my classmates behaved the same as you do now-almost all of them chatted and chatted, and didn't discuss learning problems at all, which may be related to our understanding. Generally speaking, the dormitory in the university has the same function as home-it is the place where every member practices and rests, and it is also the place where every member gets happiness, pleasure, joy and love, so it is normal for everyone to chat, shoot the breeze, have fun and be crazy, and … because of this understanding, I have positioned my study place in the classroom and library since high school, so I have been studying and even working in the classroom, library or office until now. At present, Normally, I don't work at home. I think my knowledge and experience will inspire you. I remember telling college students (as if I told you) that there are three major tasks that go hand in hand after entering the university-first, read more books (professional books, philosophy books, success inspirational books, physical and mental health books, leisure books, etc.). ), learn to organize and apply knowledge, and cultivate innovative thinking ability; Second, participate in interpersonal communication and social practice, learn to organize and use the wisdom and strength of all people, and cultivate the ability to transcend oneself and adapt to society; Third, make more friends, learn to get along with the opposite sex, love and be loved, and then develop love and cultivate equal family practice ability to fulfill obligations, be responsible, enjoy happiness and be taken care of. According to these three tasks, it is very important for you to study cultural courses, because doctors need skilled medical knowledge, skills and skills, so it is very important to learn and accumulate knowledge during college. But doctors need to deal with people in the future, so it is more important to learn interpersonal communication, humanistic care and unconditional understanding and care for others. Therefore, when we are students again, we must learn interpersonal communication, humanistic care and unconditional understanding and care for others. Only by developing this ability can we be loved and respected in our future life and work and achieve something! On the surface, other people in the dormitory have influenced your study, but you have made great progress in the second and third tasks, which shows that your emotional intelligence has been developed and improved to a high degree. Some people say that people with high IQ and emotional intelligence can not only do things but also be human. They are generally proud of the spring breeze in their life journey, and they can often achieve great success in life and career. Judging from your situation, I suggest you study in the classroom or library every day and form a habit. In the future, this habit will strengthen your study throughout your life, and of course you will do more in your future work! Regarding the handling of interpersonal relationship in dormitory, I suggest you watch How to Adapt to Campus Life. I believe this will help you develop your interpersonal relationship. Young man, don't lose heart, don't lose heart, remember the three tasks I said and pursue them with a positive attitude, then your life will be full of sunshine, and your friend Yang Yonglong wishes you success!