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On the Love Psychology of Contemporary College Students

Abstract: Love is an eternal topic. Contemporary college students are at the age of love, and they are eager for love, which is also the inevitable result of the development of college students' sexual psychology. And college students' love has become a very important thing in their lives, involving all aspects. So, what kind of psychology should contemporary college students take to talk about a love? What is the love of college students?

[Keywords:] Contemporary college students; Love psychology; Adjust to

I. Introduction

What does love mean to contemporary college students? In the high school stage with heavy courses, most students imprison love for their own ideals and pursuits. University is a relatively free and independent environment, so love has been liberated and become aboveboard. For many college students, love has become a compulsory course.

Second, the causes of love

what is love ? Love in the dictionary says: "The strongest form of interpersonal attraction means that individuals with a certain degree of psychological maturity have romantic high-order feelings for the opposite sex, which is very social." In real life, people tend to express their love with positive words. Once love appears, it will become the source of most people's emotions. What is the love of contemporary college students? How did college students' love psychology come from?

* * * A physically mature person. College students are generally 18-23 years old. Young men and women in this age group are in a period of complete sexual and physiological development, their sexual awareness is obviously enhanced, and their desire for love has become unprecedented.

* * * Two * * * lack of constraints. Parents feel that when their children grow up, they should not interfere too much in their private affairs, chanting and interfering less; As long as it doesn't violate the school rules, teachers generally don't interfere in students' personal lives. College students have their own outlook on life and values. They feel that they are adults and can be responsible for their actions, so falling in love has become a normal behavior.

* * * three * * curious psychology. With the growth of age, college students gradually mature physically and psychologically, and become more and more curious about the opposite sex. They are eager to know the opposite sex, to be understood by the opposite sex, and to love more strongly.

* * * Four * * * herd mentality. For contemporary college students, there is a herd mentality, that is, seeing friends and roommates. Being accompanied and cared for by others around them will lead to a certain degree of psychological imbalance. Influenced by other students, some college students have joined the ranks of love. So many college students fall in love because of psychological imbalance and because of others.

* * * Five * * * Relieve loneliness. Most contemporary college students are far away from their hometown and parents, and their hearts are lonely. In addition, the living and learning environment in the university is relatively free, and there is a lot of free time. Especially on weekends or holidays, students are very busy and lonely. Falling in love has become a good way to eliminate emptiness and loneliness.

* * * Six * * * value pursuits. With the popularity of idol dramas, the taste of love permeates every corner of life. College students are drama-chasing groups. They are eager for an unforgettable relationship and look for like-minded lovers. They will try their best to start developing and reach a relationship when they meet someone of the opposite sex they can talk about.

Third, the characteristics of love psychology

Contemporary college students have various ways of falling in love, so what are the characteristics of their love psychology?

* * * a * * strong autonomy. Contemporary college students are generally outstanding in love. Most of them are emotional impulses and are not bound by traditional customs. Before determining the relationship with the object of love, parents are generally not consulted.

* * * Two * * love motives are simplified. Contemporary college students have simple ideas, have not experienced too many things, think little in the process of falling in love, and have not considered whether to get married in the future. To a large extent, they fall in love only because they need love and be loved psychologically.

* * * Three * * * Self-control and anti-frustration ability are weak. Contemporary college students, especially female college students, once they start a relationship, it is difficult to control their emotions and lack rational control ability. They are generally very dependent on the object of love, and it is very painful to have a little twists and turns, so it is difficult to get out.

* * * Four * * * Love is blind. Most college students don't know what love is in love. They fall in love with different friends, but only regard this experience as a practical activity to lay the foundation for future love. Some college students talked a lot about love during their school days, which was very blind.

* * * Five * * * love openness. Driven by TV and movies, and under the impact of western culture and lifestyle, the love style of contemporary college students abandons the essence of China's traditional introversion, profundity and aestheticism, and more is to express their feelings at will. They are willing to hold hands and even cuddle in public.

* * * Six * * * has a strong romantic color. Contemporary college students fall in love, more is to show their good side and leave a good impression on the lovers. But they care more about that kind of love and good wishes for life. They just want to love forever and have no idea of getting married. This romantic color of love covers up too many contradictions between ideal and reality, and lacks tempering and realistic foundation.

Fourthly, the types of college students' love.

Love is the art of life. College students' love shows a diversified trend because of different psychological motives. According to the psychological analysis of college students' love, their love types can be summarized as follows:

* * * A type that flies with me. Generally, these students basically have a mature personality and a healthy view of love. Have a certain emotional foundation, can handle feelings rationally, can correctly guide love, and the love relationship is relatively stable. We can turn love into a driving force for life and study, strive for the same goal and promote the common progress and growth of both sides.

* * * two * * psychological comfort type. College students are in the "psychological weaning" period, eager to be concerned and understood. When the surrounding environment cannot meet the psychological needs of being concerned and understood, some students will seek the help of the opposite sex in the form of love. This kind of love seems to be falling in love from the outside, but in fact it is only for them to find psychological comfort and eliminate their inner loneliness.

* * * three * * * affordable life. Contemporary college students are under great employment pressure, and finding a job after graduation is their greatest concern. Love has also become a means for them to walk from here. These students are very concerned about each other's family conditions and development prospects. Maybe they love each other, but in order to get on a boat smoothly, they started a relationship.

* * * Four * * * romantic ideals. These students are generally emotional, but lack calm thinking. Romantic love is the source of their life. Like most heroes and heroines in Qiong Yao's plays, they think of love very well. Once they identify a person, they will be desperate for it and willing to give everything, even their lives, for each other. Once these students are frustrated, they will be very painful and difficult to extricate themselves.

* * * Five * * * psychological comparison type. The spiritual world of these college students is often not full, and love only proves their ability and charm to make up for the emptiness of the spiritual world. So they make friends with different people and fall in love with different people just to meet their spiritual needs and humble self-esteem. Especially when I see that my classmates and friends are not as good as each other, I feel that love has become a comparison.

* * * Six * * erotic types. With the rapid development of the Internet, explicit descriptions and performances have attracted everyone's attention. Under the instruction of adolescent hormones, some college students are full of desire for sex and make real and bold attempts to pursue * * * * * *. Thus, a kind of love psychology with the purpose of satisfying * * * is produced. These college students regard love as entertainment and take part in accidental amusement. Pay attention to appearance, pursue sensory pleasure and ignore love in the process of communication.

Fifth, the adjustment of college students' love psychology.

Love is the eternal pursuit of human beings and one of the inexhaustible spiritual motivations. Love and love, love and life, love and eternity are closely linked. In addition, love also depends on wisdom and patience, and is brewed by people who love each other. And how should college students adjust their love psychology?

* * * One * * * Improve psychological quality and know yourself correctly. All success begins with healthy psychology, and healthy psychological quality is the premise of healthy love psychology. When college students are in love, they often can't know themselves clearly. They may become blind, overestimate or underestimate themselves because of love, resulting in blind optimism, self-righteousness or inferiority. Therefore, a healthy love requires college students to recognize their own advantages and disadvantages, clarify their value and dignity as knowledge college students, and achieve self-esteem, self-confidence, self-reliance and self-improvement, so as to enhance their sense of responsibility and mission in love.

* * * Two * * * Establish a correct view of love. The concept of love refers to the basic views and attitudes towards mate selection and love. For college students, what we advocate is to establish a scientific concept of proletarian love. There are the following aspects.

1. Like-minded love

College students' love is a beautiful thing. Only in the choice of lovers, we should take like-minded as the premise. Only in this way can love and life be organically combined, and love and unemployment can be both harvested.

2. Find out the relationship between love and school and career.

Love is a very important part of life, but it must be clear that love is not the whole of life. People in love always think that love is everything, but they don't know that love without a career will not last long. Therefore, college students should put their studies first, and love should be subordinate to their studies in order to promote progress. College students can't spend all their precious time in love and neglect their studies, otherwise the flower of love will not last long. Only when love is combined with study and career can it have strong and lasting vitality and really blossom and bear fruit.

3. Understand that love is responsibility and dedication.

Love is not getting and possessing, but responsibility and giving. Generally speaking, one should be responsible for both family and society. Responsibility for the family belongs to the nature of private life, which is mainly maintained by moral cultivation and conscious sense of responsibility. Once college students choose to fall in love, they must have a strong sense of responsibility and dedication to get true love.

* * * Three * * * Improve the endurance of love setbacks.

College students' love is an adventurous love bet. Therefore, it is very important to improve the ability of love to resist setbacks. Mainly through strengthening reason, analyzing reasons, looking for ways and means to solve problems to deal with setbacks. When you are really faced with lovelorn or the ideal love object is rejected, you can relieve your pain through appropriate emotional adjustment and transfer, and strive to make yourself brave and strong, so as to make the best preparation for future love.

* * * Four * * * Correct bad behaviors in love.

Some behaviors of college students in love should be corrected, such as excessive intimacy, love triangle and premarital sex. As a contemporary college student, we should establish a correct concept of love and form a healthy and upward love psychology in order to find our own happy life.

References:

[1] Zhang Liji, Zhao Among. Introduction to mental health education for college students [M]. Shanghai: Second Military Medical University Press, 2008.

[2] Zhu Mei. College students' health course [M]. Nanjing: Nanjing University Press, 1999.

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