Win at the starting point
Everyone who has just entered the university campus should master seven kinds of learning: learn the way of self-study, know the basic knowledge, practice well, cultivate interest, be proactive, control time and deal with people. As long as these seven points are well done, the biggest gain for college students when they graduate will never be "impatience and adaptability for anything", but "confidence and desire for anything". Just do these seven points. You can be a potential, thoughtful, valuable, promising and happy graduate.
-Kai-Fu Lee (Google Global Vice President, President of China)
1. 1 University is the preparation stage for entering the society.
"Just classmates and teenagers, in their prime; The scholar was furious and cursed Fang Qiu. " Many years ago, Mao Zedong wrote a poem "Qinyuanchun? Changsha is not only popular, but also inspires the lofty aspirations of generations of young people.
As an ambitious person, college is a critical period that cannot be ignored. Four years of college can make or break a person. Four years of college life, there are too many things to prepare. If you grasp them well, you can win at the starting point.
No matter whether college life is hard, boring or relaxing, for these celebrities, college is a starting point of their lives. The wealth that the university gives them will benefit them for life!
1.2 cherish your college life
University is the preparation stage for entering the society. College life means new experiences, new hopes and new pursuits, and it also means the end. Therefore, we must understand that college life is our last chance to receive systematic education and improve our knowledge system, and it is also our last chance to learn how to be a man in a relatively tolerant environment.
Although the university is a key stage in life, it is not an ideal paradise, but a transit station to realize integration with society. University is a watershed in life. Some people, like Gao Yan and Zhang Chaoyang, accumulate wealth and make a fortune, win at the starting point and enter the society like a duck to water. Some people will get lost in doing nothing and do things like throwing sulfuric acid at black bears and putting puppies in the microwave. Some people, Marek Gajue, because they can't find an emotional outlet, either raise a butcher's knife to their classmates who live together day and night, or simply go to self-destruction; However, most people, because they didn't manage their college time well, faced with the increasingly fierce competition in the job market after leaving school, searched again and again, and applied again and again, and finally they could only "lock in" a job of about 1,000 yuan, struggling for a long time. ...
In college, we should know ourselves correctly, position ourselves well, don't look at ourselves too narrowly, don't study hard, and don't be too sad. Some people are suitable for studying, others are not necessarily suitable, and employment is not limited to research institutes and schools. Perhaps our specialty is not academic research, but in other aspects, as the saying goes, "After 360 lines, the top scholar will rise." Of course, it is best to have outstanding academic performance and excellent ability. There are such people, but after all, they are a few, so you don't have to be too strict with yourself, and ask yourself to be proficient in all subjects and be excellent in everything. If you know everything, you might as well stand out from the crowd.
1.3 Universities should prepare for the future.
This is a society full of brutal competition. If you are in a muddle in college, you lack the sense of competition and survival, then you will be unemployed after graduation. Observing nature will give us a lot of enlightenment: cats and dogs in rural areas often fight after birth. What is this? 7. They are cultivating and exercising their viability. After a few months, they can find enough food to sustain their lives. How long can kittens and puppies live? About 20 years. However, it took them less than a year to learn skills, accounting for only 1/20 of their life, while we spent nearly a lifetime preparing 1/4 from birth. Four years in college is the last four years for us to learn skills. Think about the moment we left school and compare the life performance in nature. Are we ready?
If you don't want to hit a wall when you graduate, if you want to face your future calmly, then make good use of four years of college to cultivate your viability and competitiveness. By the time you graduate, you should have the following abilities and qualities:
1. Independent decision-making ability
Self-decision-making ability is a person's ability to think independently, act decisively and complete a task independently. For college students who are about to graduate and enter the society, they have to make their own decisions when they are faced with job hunting and job selection, which is a test of their self-decision-making ability. In the future work, everything, every problem, and their changes and progress can't be guided by teachers like in school, but we should make decisions quickly and deal with them in time. Therefore, it is very important for college students to have good independent decision-making ability.
2. Adaptability to society
From high school to university, from university to society, our life has been changing. Only by constantly adapting to the changing life and society can we become a strong person in life. The adaptation to society and the environment should be positive, not passive waiting, not recognition of negative phenomena. Only when college students have strong social adaptability can they shorten the adaptation period as much as possible and give full play to their intelligence.
3. Practical operation ability
Practical operation ability is the basis for people to turn knowledge into material strength, and it is a kind of ability that professional workers must have. In real life, especially in the front line of teaching, scientific research and production, the actual operation ability of college students will directly affect their role. For example, as a teacher, it is not enough to have rich knowledge, but also to have the ability to impart their knowledge to students. Therefore, college students should pay attention to overcoming the tendency of focusing only on theoretical study and ignoring practical operation. If a college graduate has excellent practical skills, he will certainly be favored by employers.
4. Expression ability
Expression ability refers to the ability to use language to clarify one's views, opinions or feelings, mainly including oral expression ability and written expression ability. If a person wants to let others know about you, value you and give full play to his talents, the premise is to have the ability to express himself. If you want to express yourself accurately, you can't do it without excellent expressive ability. Not only will I be strongly aware of this immediately after I join the work and go to the society, but I will also have deep feelings when I apply for a job and choose a job. For example, writing cover letters, cover letters, personal materials, answering questions from recruiters, accepting interviews from employers, etc. Every link needs strong expression ability.
5. Social skills
Social skills are actually the ability to get along with people. The interpersonal relationship in society is far less simple than that of classmates, teachers and students in school. After entering the society, college students should have such and such relationships with all kinds of people. Whether we can correctly and effectively handle and coordinate the relationship between people in work and life not only affects a person's adaptation to the environment, but also affects his work efficiency, mental health, happiness in life and career achievements. Therefore, it is very important for college students to consciously cultivate good social skills.
6. Organization and management ability
Although not every college graduate will be engaged in management, every practitioner will need organizational management ability to varying degrees in practical work. Modern social occupations show that not only leading cadres and managers should have organizational management skills, but other professionals should also have them. With the development of the times, pure "scholar-type" talents can no longer meet the needs of society. In recent years, many employers often give priority to those graduates who have served as student cadres and have certain organizational and management skills when hiring university graduates under the same conditions, which reflects the objective requirements of the times.
Choice of work
A psychological questionnaire survey shows: "If a person is satisfied with a job, he can give play to 80%-90% of his talents. Can maintain high efficiency for a long time without fatigue; On the contrary, if he is not satisfied with his job, he can only play 20%-30% of all his talents, and he will easily get bored. " It can be seen that the subjective evaluation of your first job determines whether you can do it well or not, and it is more related to your future career development.
2. 1 the impact of the first job on life
Although the employment situation is getting more and more severe now, the choice of the first job must not be sloppy. A graduate who is about to set foot on the society is like a "blank sheet of paper", simple and simple. With the growth of social experience, this "white paper" will be dyed with different colors, and the experience of the first job undoubtedly set the tone for this.
The first job not only affects the attitude and behavior of graduates, but also affects the mentality of treating other jobs in the future. Therefore, in the first job, besides considering external conditions such as position and salary, it is more important to consider whether the enterprise has a correct and far-reaching development concept. These may not bring obvious benefits at present, but they have a far-reaching impact on the development of life.
The success or failure of the first job will also affect a person's self-confidence. For most graduates, with the expectation of development prospects, they will make a lot of efforts in their first job in the future. Once they find that such efforts will make them make a lot of efforts in their first job, once they fail to bring them further development, their enthusiasm for work will be greatly reduced and their self-confidence will be hit.
Therefore, the choice of the first job must pay attention to whether it can improve the quality, whether it is conducive to the cultivation of ability, and whether there are enough learning opportunities for self-charging. Success doesn't have to wait a step, but winning in the first step is often easier to succeed. No matter whether your first job is desirable or undesirable, or you are particularly unwilling, you should treat this job well. Because, for you who entered the society in your twenties, your first job is likely to affect your life.
When your first job is the one you have been longing for for for a long time, it is particularly noteworthy that while you are working, please slow down and do three lessons well:
1. Be familiar with the organizational structure of our company. Including the establishment of various departments of the company, how the functions of each department operate, the functions and status of one's own department in the company, the titles and grades of colleagues in the department, the promotion mechanism and so on. With the concept of the overall leverage of the company, you can initially define your development prospects in the company, instead of burying your head in work and ignoring the development direction, you can turn passive acceptance of transfer, work assignment and promotion into active struggle and planning.
2. Understand the company's position in the industry. After finishing your first homework, you should look further. Pay attention to the strategic development of our company. For example, whether the company is a leader in the industry, whether it is facing internal and external troubles, and its performance is declining, so that you can know what development opportunities the company has in the industry and how far you can go with the company. Your three or five-year plan will take shape.
3. Understand the development of the industry. You need to make a macro analysis of the industry: is it a sunrise industry or a sunset industry? In this way, you will know how your accumulated experience will help your career development in a few years. If you transfer to related industries, what skills do you need to supplement, what fields can you learn and seek development? You can continue to pay attention to industry reviews and listen to the opinions of your predecessors at work. Get to know each other.
I have finished three lessons well. Work can be targeted, more planned and purposeful, otherwise the company will still be ignorant after half a year, and the working state will show an obvious parabola: from initiative to enthusiasm disappearing, to satisfaction declining, and finally to job hopping blindly.
2.2 When the first job is not satisfactory,
1. Correct attitude and study actively. "Although the sparrow is small, it has all aspects". Even if the company's scale, profit and salary are not good, it is most precious for newcomers to have enough things to learn. Knowledge accumulation of work skills, enterprise rules and regulations, on-the-job training of enterprise management, workplace etiquette, office politics and other workplace hidden rules are all important foundations for workplace survival.
2. Pay attention to career opportunities. While doing your job well and accumulating workplace experience, you can also prepare for your next job, such as understanding the professional definition of your favorite profession, the professional skills you should have, and the core competitiveness, and using your spare time to improve yourself.
3. Adjust your mentality and know yourself. We should analyze our own shortcomings instead of complaining about work and peace all day. If you still can't find a satisfactory job like other students after hard work, it means that your professional competitiveness is weak, and you may lack professional knowledge or teamwork communication skills. So your focus should not be on how bad your company is and how many people there are, but on your own weaknesses.
2.3 Design your own career model
For most people, work is an important part of life. I spend most of my time dealing with work. To some extent, designing your career model is designing your life.
2.3. 1 Fully understand your own situation.
1. What do I have? List your major, age, gender, family situation, specialties, etc. It depends on what you have and what impact these things can bring to your professional life.
2. What should I do? Ask yourself what you will do so as not to make the mistake of being arrogant in the workplace.
What I like to do depends on your hobbies. If you can connect your hobbies with your career, it will be of great help to your career.
2.3.2 Analyze your own situation
It is not enough to know your own situation, but also to analyze your strengths and weaknesses in the workplace competition, how to have social relations in your environment, and how many "noble people" can have an important impact on your career.
2.3.3 Market demand analysis
When you have several professionals to choose from, you should analyze the market demand. Generally speaking, you should try to choose "core business".
The so-called core business refers to the business that can directly help the company create revenue. For example, I am engaged in R&D in Techno-Pacific company and copywriting in advertising company. Being engaged in the core business can not only make you earn more money, work more stably, but also get more respect in the company. Most importantly, employees who have made achievements in their core business often get a rapid promotion in their professional titles.
The second is to choose "business with little substitutability". Your position will be safer if you are engaged in a business with little substitution. Your salary will be higher if it is less. This is why the salary of the front desk secretary can never be too high. Small alternative businesses often have the characteristics of "three highs": one is high intelligence, such as consultants, game designers and asset appraisers. Second, high-tech content, such as software architect and communication engineer positions; Third, high experience, such as doctors, lawyers, accountants and other positions.
2.3.4 Set long-term and short-term goals.
During the interview, many people were asked such a question: "What are your plans in five years?" Why do you ask such a question? Because the recruiter knows whether you are a person with a plan or a person who slips away everywhere. Generally speaking, the bigger the long-term goal, the better, but it must be achieved step by step through a short-term goal.
start a business
3. 1 Comparison between entrepreneurship and part-time job
Which is more risky, starting a business or working? Many people will take it for granted that the risk of starting a business is of course greater. In fact, there are certain risks in starting a business and working. Many people who say that starting a business is risky actually only look at the problem from the original perspective of money, and do not analyze it from the planning of different stages of life. Because the happiness of life psychology can not be ignored, entrepreneurs are painful and happy, and people who work are happy and miserable.
Is the working population under great pressure? Just look at the advertising words of books that have been particularly popular recently: the gospel of office workers, stress relief, mental fatigue relief, and treatment of "office syndrome" ... And in newspapers and magazines, it is not uncommon for a company elite to commit suicide by jumping off a building because of heavy work pressure. It is very likely that the pressure of office workers has exceeded the original pressure of entrepreneurs.
The risks and pressures faced by migrant workers are everywhere. If the job pay is low, you should naturally worry about today and tomorrow; The salary of the job is high, and I am worried that my post and treatment will be affected by my own mistakes.
This is actually one of the psychological factors that many people with higher incomes choose to start a business in real life. They need greater psychological release and greater value realization, so for them, the risk of starting a business is far less than when the company is in a high position.
3.2 The qualities that entrepreneurs need to possess
We find that although a capable person may not be successful, a successful person must be capable. The world is full of talented and thoughtful people. They are born with a strong desire for wealth and strong action, and they are never satisfied with the status quo and complacent. However, not all people are suitable for working, and not all people are cooperative entrepreneurs. So, what qualities should an entrepreneur have?
1. Commercial sensitivity
Do you have a keen sense of wealth? Can you find huge business opportunities from seemingly insignificant things or extremely subtle things? If you plan to start a business, you have to take a good look at whether you are commercially sensitive. Business ability is the first quality that entrepreneurs must have. Many of our young entrepreneurs often underestimate this point, thinking that they are superior in technology and business, while ignoring the cultivation and exploration of business capabilities.
Sensitive and willing to think, people will find opportunities from unexpected things and then achieve themselves. This sensitivity is an indispensable quality for people who want to start a business.
2. Be good at seizing opportunities.
Modern society is a society full of competition. Competition not only brings challenges to people, but also provides people with a good opportunity to achieve their goals. Life is full of useful information and opportunities. Every activity in society, every interaction between people, every turning point in life and every gain and loss in work may bring you new feelings, new information and new friends, which may be a choice, an opportunity and an opportunity to lead you to success. The question is whether you can find every information and opportunity. Don't think that information is hard to grasp and opportunities are hard to find. In fact, opportunities and opportunities are around us, even in my hands.
Step 3 have a good relationship
I want to start a business, but I have no money and no experience. What should I do? You might as well ask yourself, how many intangible assets do I have? My technical assets, my personal assets? In our twenties, contacts may become the biggest capital for our business. Because, 80% of a person's career success is attributed to getting along with others, and 20% comes from his own mentality.
Carnegie, the American steel magnate and success master, concluded after a long-term study: "The role of professional knowledge in a person's success only accounts for 15%, and the remaining 85% depends on interpersonal relationships." Therefore, no matter what occupation you are engaged in and learn to deal with interpersonal relationships, you will complete 85% of the road to success and 99% of the road to personal happiness.
Success comes from eloquence.
Speaking, that is, oral communication, is one of the main signs that distinguish human beings from other animals, and it is also an important means for human beings to survive and develop for hundreds of thousands of years. Especially today, when human development has entered the 2 1 century, a new wave of science and technology and information revolution is surging. Speaking is not only an important part of people's daily life, but also a decisive prerequisite for the success or failure of people's careers. The level and quality of speaking.
A popular analogy can be made: in modern society, human beings can't live without talking, just as fish can't live without water.
There is an ancient saying in China: "A word can prosper the country, and a word can also be a mistake." . This sentence shows the decisive power of speech. According to the records of historian Chen She's family, when Chen Sheng got up, he used his speech to mobilize the masses. He called and said, "If it rains, it will be overdue. If it is overdue, it should be cut off. If a strong man in ................................................................................................................................................ dies, he will become famous and princes will have descendants." Under the "instigation" of his remarks, every peasant uprising in the history of China has erected a war flag.
This good habit of paying full attention to people's speaking ability and fully expressing people's speaking and eloquence ability in western society has been developing and spreading to this day. Its typical embodiment is that the campaign speeches of many national leaders are often the key factors to determine success or failure.
4. 1 Speaking skills
1. Talking about the things in front of us
If you meet a person for the first time at the station or on the horse's head and have nothing to say at the moment, the most convenient way is to find a few topics to talk about from what you and I have seen, heard and felt at the same time.
Hide the needle in talking cotton
In many conversations or various interpersonal relationships, don't use sharp language to express criticism or opposition to each other, but use the method of hiding the needle in the cotton, that is, use words that are quite mild on the surface but actually critical.
Don't procrastinate.
When people speak, it is easy to add speech disorders and noise. Some people speak very well, but there are many meaningless noises between other speakers. Such as "alas, well, that" and so on.
Step 4 talk in a roundabout way
A circuitous speech generally consists of two parts: leading and straight Chen Qi. For example, a child asks his father, "Accidental negligence, can you tell the truth?" ? Dad replied, "Everyone has an accidental negligence, which can certainly be forgiven. The child immediately said, "I accidentally broke your favorite big vase yesterday!" " "Dad just wants to have an attack, but when he thinks of what he said, he can only say' Forget it'.
5. Skilled language
Contingency is to take appropriate measures to get rid of the unfavorable situation at the critical moment when the situation changes. Contingency is an important symbol to measure a speaker's eloquence, especially in contemporary social life. Without contingency ability, many chances of success will be lost.
During the conversation, someone will attack you in good faith or malice, leaving you in a dilemma, and you need to respond. The difficulty of this kind of response is to fight back and not be rude.
6. Roushuo Ke Gang
There is a scene in life: a young man made a mistake, a leader flew into a rage and severely scolded the young man, while another leader just patted the young man on the shoulder and smiled. As a result, the former is offensive, while the latter shows understanding and tolerance. On the contrary, young people are shaken and then reflect on themselves.
7. punch lines can solve difficulties
The embarrassing scene may have been experienced by everyone. When you are in an awkward position, you are silent, you are angry, even angry, and you all join the parliament to get out of trouble. Sometimes one or two witty words can break the silence, resolve the embarrassment and let the unhappiness in my heart disappear.
4.2 Conversation skills in work and life
1. Use local materials and improvise.
What you want, you always have to say a few commonplaces first. Straight to the point, straight to the point gives people the suspicion that everything goes to the Three Treasures Hall. It is best to steal the environment, use local materials and lead to the topic.
2. Dialogue depends on the goal.
Conversation is not to vent one's feelings and emotions blindly, but a cooperative procedure. People of different ages, occupations and geology have different tastes and different languages and habits. Therefore, what kind of topic to choose, what kind of language to use and what kind of kiss to taste in conversation should be different, so that everyone can feel "one of their own", otherwise there will be invisible barriers.
Be good at listening
Being good at listening is the key to a successful conversation. When you listen to the other person, you should pay attention to the following points:
First of all, communicate with people about life, and nod your head or make some gestures appropriately to show that you are paying attention.
Secondly, through some short sighs and questions, it implies that you are really interested in his words. Or inspire each other to lead to topics of interest to them.
Again, don't jump to conclusions, premature statements will make the dialogue die.
Ask smart questions
Asking questions is a good way to lead to a topic and start a conversation or topic. Asking questions has three functions: one is to know what you don't know by asking questions, and the other is to guide the other person's thoughts to a certain point; The third is to break the ice and avoid deadlock.
5. Think before you speak
Before you speak, you should think about what you are going to say. There are two meanings here. One is to know yourself and yourself, that is, on the one hand, to have a correct estimate of your personality, temper and mood, and not to set up a self-warning line. At the same time, we have a general understanding of the other person's personality, hobbies and interests, and the second is the preparation of the conversation itself, that is, the content of the conversation, the way of asking questions, the language side, the tone and so on. Speaking without thinking, unprepared, or irrelevant and aimless gives people a shallow feeling.
College graduates who have just taken up their jobs suddenly step into a complex society from a relatively simple campus, which often causes all kinds of confusion and role change. It is very important to adapt to society and complete a major turning point in life. School and society are two different environments, and students and faculty are two different roles, bearing different rights and obligations to society. College graduates should fully realize that the sharp change of roles is a major turning point in their lives, speed up their psychological adjustment, get rid of the mentality of campus life as soon as possible, bravely participate in the new social life, strive to shorten the psychological adaptation period from students to staff and actively adapt to society.
First of all, treat people equally. Treating people equally and living in harmony is the premise of establishing good interpersonal relationships.
Secondly, we should study hard and be brave in practice. With the change of roles and the demand of posts, learning is particularly important. Although I have mastered some basic knowledge and professional theoretical knowledge in college, there are still many unfamiliar things, so I still need to continue to study hard to catch up. Although college graduates have a certain theoretical level, they still lack practical experience. They should take the initiative to do everything, experience it by themselves, insist on learning by doing, and improve their professional level and ability to find, analyze and solve problems in practice.
Third, we should be strict with ourselves and be good at summing up. Strict self-discipline is the basic quality that every college student who has just started to work should have. We should adhere to self-respect, self-examination, self-discipline and self-motivation, and treat every job carefully. Don't climb the left, don't compare with the right, be honest with yourself, be conscientious, self-denial, be honest and self-disciplined, and truly be a person who can reassure leaders, satisfy units and make his alma mater proud. Due to the influence of life experience, working methods and work experience, college graduates who have just taken up their jobs will inevitably make some mistakes in their work, so it is particularly important to be good at summing up. To sum up the work, we should adhere to the viewpoint of dividing into two parts, not only sum up the successful experiences and practices, but also find out the existing problems and reasons. Finding problems is level, solving problems is ability, and thinking problems is quality. Only by finding the right problem can we prescribe the right medicine. In the process of summing up, we should be good at grasping the key points, not covering everything, but summarizing the key work of a period and the main aspects of each key work, and finding out the regular things from it. This will get twice the result with half the effort.