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The relationship between teachers and students of the opposite sex is ambiguous (17-year-old students and 38-year-old female faculty members are ambiguous)
For adolescent students, it is easy to have puppy love behavior, and their hearts are ready to move and they begin to have some curiosity about the opposite sex.

However, for parents and teachers, it is not particularly desirable to see this happen. Therefore, it is generally known that students will intervene in time to avoid the adverse effects caused by students' deep involvement.

But in the process of communicating with children, we must pay attention to ways and means, otherwise it may eventually lead to tragedy.

17-year-old student, 38-year-old female faculty member, ambiguous Xiaoren (pseudonym), is a student of a school in Xi 'an. During her study at school, she had a "special" relationship with a 38-year-old female faculty member of the school and often sent some ambiguous messages.

However, the age difference between them is 265,438+0 years, and the female faculty and staff are married. If this state is maintained for a long time, it will inevitably have a bad influence.

Facts have proved that this is true, because the ambiguous relationship between Xiaoren and the female faculty has been maintained for some time, which has affected the woman's family. Later, the woman's husband found Xiaoren's father and told Xiaoren the ins and outs of the matter, saying that now the husband and wife have reached the point of divorce. I hope Xiaoren's father can control his son.

After the father asked about the dispute, it led to a tragedy. Xiaoren's father confirmed it to Xiaoren, but the whole communication process was not pleasant, which led to Xiaoren's emotional loss of control, so he slapped Xiaoren in the face and kicked him.

In the face of his father's punishment, Xiao Ren is young and energetic. He couldn't take it easy for a moment, so he made an impulsive behavior and jumped down from the eighth floor, which led to the tragedy.

Xiaoren's father is more emotional because Xiaoren has another relationship with the faculty.

Because Xiaoren's father and the female faculty's hometown are in the same place, Xiaoren also regarded her as a "godmother" when she was a child, and usually called her "aunt" affectionately.

It is precisely because of this that Xiaoren's father couldn't accept the child's behavior and began to beat his son. But no one expected such a result.

The harm of puppy love Many parents and teachers don't want students to have puppy love behavior. Because as experienced people, they know the harm that puppy love may bring, and because they have a lesson from the past, they don't want students to follow their footsteps.

Academic performance has obvious influence.

Students who have puppy love behavior can find that their academic performance will fluctuate greatly, and most of them will decline.

Because after entering the state of puppy love, everyone will put more energy into the maintenance of feelings and pay more attention to each other's words and deeds. This leads to less time for study.

However, there is a lot of pressure and knowledge in middle school. If you don't pay attention to the class, it is easy to have some knowledge points that you don't understand and master, and these knowledge points will be directly reflected in the exam.

The psychological impact is obvious.

In fact, puppy love has a great influence not only on academic performance, but also on students' psychology.

Under normal circumstances, puppy love usually ends in tragedy, and few can persist until the end. It is precisely because of this that "breakup" is a normal state of puppy love. After breaking up, it will have a great influence on students' psychology. After all, the psychology of students at this stage is not mature enough, and their psychological endurance is weak, and they may be devastated.

How to communicate with students? For parents or teachers, everyone knows the disadvantages of puppy love, but the communication with students is not so ideal.

For teachers, they have more teaching experience and pay attention to skills in communication with students.

But for parents, because they seldom communicate with their children before, it is easy to take some improper ways in the communication process, which eventually leads to tragedy.

First of all, we need to understand the psychology of adolescent students, who have a certain rebellious attitude and strong self-esteem, so we are not advised to adopt very tough and oppressive communication methods. At the same time, I hope everyone will not insult their personal dignity in the process of communication.

The ideal way of communication is to be sensible and sensible. Let children know what their main task is at this stage, the harm of puppy love and the possible results.

At the same time, you can imagine the future with your children. Through the beautiful vision of the future, stimulate the internal learning motivation and find the goal.

In addition, parents can "follow" their children's ideas to communicate, such as:

Parents: "Do you like her?"

Child: "Yes."

Parents: "Do you want to give her happiness?"

Child: "Of course!"

Parents: "Do you have the ability to give her happiness at present?"

Child: "I can give her everything I have."

Parents: "After that, you two live together, get married, buy a car and a house, educate your children and treat diseases. How to solve it?"

Child: "I don't know."

Parents: "Son, you are now in adolescence, and it is normal to have a good impression on the opposite sex. But like is not equal to love, like may not be able to come together. If you really like someone, then study hard and constantly improve yourself. Only in this way can you have confidence to give her happiness in the future. Otherwise, what you like now is of little value, and it is difficult to stick with her to the end. "

The child is very thoughtful.

Finally, I hope parents can have more skills and flexibility in the process of communicating with their children, and don't communicate directly. After all, children nowadays are more rebellious.