Hello, I'm glad to reply to you. What are the same ideas between men and women in choosing a spouse? First, career-oriented psychology. In fact, everyone is willing to pay attention to this point, hoping that their other half can become a pillar and get ahead in their work and career. However, due to various factors, there are not a few people who have this kind of mate selection psychology at present, but there are still many intellectuals. They regard their work achievements and career progress as the greatest happiness in life. Take each other's dedication and fighting spirit as an important weight on the scale of mate selection, and pin the happiness of love on the struggle of the cause. This kind of love is eternal because of the eternity of the cause. Second, the psychology of pursuing spiritual satisfaction With the progress of social civilization and the improvement of people's cultural quality, more and more people have this expanding psychology of choosing a spouse. They pay attention to each other's thoughts and feelings, moral quality, personality hobbies and so on. , and the pursuit of mutual spiritual communication and emotional harmony. As long as you can be happy and satisfied mentally, it doesn't matter even if the other person's economic and physical conditions are not good. This spiritual love is noble, and many beautiful love stories belong to the pursuit of this psychological scale of love. Third, the psychology of having money before choosing a spouse is more common, especially in economically backward areas. They put each other's financial situation first, and their marriage is to get a comfortable nest that can satisfy their food, clothing, housing, transportation and play, or to live on it. This marriage based on material and money is unstable, because economic conditions can be changed. Often, because the other party lost its generous material conditions, it lost the attraction of uniting two people's hearts, so it had to go their separate ways. Fourth, the psychology of choosing a spouse to find a political backer is quite common in feudal society. They open their own career path or consolidate nepotism in officialdom through marriage, which is called political marriage. Although this psychology of choosing a spouse is not common now, many people still take this opportunity to make other plans. They don't pay attention to the fit between emotion and psychology, let alone bosom friends, but put the ulterior motive behind marriage in the first place of love. This kind of love is also unreliable. 5. The psychology of pursuing physical beauty plays a very important role among young people. Everyone wants their other half to be more beautiful and handsome. This is human nature, but if we blindly pursue this kind of physical beauty, we will often go astray. The love generated by each other's beautiful appearance is short-lived. As time goes by, love will disappear with the aging of the face. As Goethe said: "The beauty on the outside can only please for a while, but the beauty on the inside can last forever." .