A class has 1/4 students living together.
Contemporary college students are becoming more and more open, which has basically become "* * * knowledge" in today's society. Recently, a survey in Guangdong Province shows that 48% of college students agree that "premarital sex occurs between lovers". A sample survey of college students' sexual attitudes in several universities in South China shows that nearly 40% of college students don't care whether their partners are virgins or not.
Recently, a reporter from Life Times visited and found that college students' sexual concept is becoming more and more open, which can be seen through the "facilities" around the school. Donghu New Village is a large-scale village in Wuhan, and an entrance of the village is completely connected with the campus of a famous university in Wuhan. The villagers built their own buildings of different heights. They not only live by themselves, but also carry another important "function". As night falls, many college couples flock to Donghu New Village after class. They usually have dinner in a small restaurant in the village, and then walk side by side into a humble rental house for the night. CoCo Lee (pseudonym), who is still a junior, is a member of the off-campus rental group. At first, she wanted to rent a house for her study so that she could study late into the night. Then her boyfriend proposed to live together, saying that they could take care of each other and share the rent, and she agreed. CoCo Lee didn't tell her parents about this "cohabitation". "About14 students in our class live outside." CoCo Lee said that they don't think cohabitation is a strange thing, and many people are used to it.
Although the phenomenon is very common, I still want to kindly remind the pros and cons of college love and cohabitation!
The disadvantages of college students' cohabitation
Not protected by law
As adults, college students have the right to fall in love, but cohabitation is not protected by law. All kinds of disputes and property losses during cohabitation will not be protected. Although cohabitation is common, it is still not deeply rooted in the hearts of the people and is truly understood and accepted by the whole people.
Increase consumption
College students' cohabitation will bring great economic pressure to both sides. Having a romantic birthday, dating, eating and watching movies, there are many things to do, and consumption will naturally increase. The increased consumption can only be found by yourself, which will add a little psychological burden to the other party. People who don't want to reach out to their parents are sensible and have different consumption values. They will also have various contradictions, which will once again bring psychological troubles and lead to cohabitation.
Susceptible diseases
Two people who live together will not have a physical examination. In the process of cohabitation, if you don't pay attention to protect yourself, don't lead an honest and clean life, and be strict with yourself, you may bring unexpected infectious diseases to the other party and increase the risk of infection. In cohabitation, we still need to pay attention to these problems, which is no joke. Both sides should be responsible for each other's health and life.
Worried about pregnancy
In the process of cohabitation, we should always pay attention to contraception. Cohabitation brings sweetness, while enjoying love, it also brings a little trouble to women. Because of fear of pregnancy, boyfriends should understand this, or care about girls and take contraceptive measures. After all, they don't want the baby's time and period, and they have no ability to give each other and their children happiness. Inadvertent pregnancy is another great harm to body and mind.
Affect your studies
College students' cohabitation will affect their studies and studies to a certain extent, and will distract themselves from a lot of study time and energy. College students should still focus on their studies, especially in their senior year. When they are faced with employment and internship, they all need real talent and ability, or they should improve their knowledge and ability in school. This is right and what college students should do.
Cause psychological harm
Just because college students live together doesn't mean they are going to enter the marriage hall. Many of them are beautiful first loves. They put their emotions into this love, but they will eventually break up. The psychological damage to each other is huge, and it takes a long time to cast a shadow over the feelings. If betrayed, the consequences will be more serious, and they will no longer believe in love. Be cautious when living together, and think twice when breaking up.
Affect future marriage
After college students live together and break up, this relationship will be deeply imprinted in their own minds, lingering. It is better to break up peacefully. An injured breakup will have some bad effects on future marriage and feelings. I can only bury it in my heart and never mention it again. You have to bear it silently. Be careful when living together. You know, cohabitation is not only sweet, but also a responsibility.
The advantages of college students living together
Meet each other's emotional needs
A normal person has the right to pursue normal emotional needs. This kind of satisfaction is a kind of complementarity, each takes what he needs, each takes what he needs, and is complementary and mutually beneficial.
Meet each other's psychological needs
Everyone has different life pressures, and everyone is looking for ways to alleviate them. In cohabitation, couples can encourage each other, hint at each other and support each other. Why not?
Meet each other's material needs
There are still economic entanglements between classmates and friends in borrowing and paying off debts. Couples should learn to correctly handle the subtle relationship between money and emotion, and realize interdependence and mutual material enjoyment.
Meet each other's social role needs
Cohabitation represents the openness of each other's privacy, mutual trust and mutual adaptation, and the role of husband and wife in life. This kind of couples' behavior of trial marriage is helpful to adapt to the role in advance in the future.
Meet each other's emotional needs
In the right society, the right temperature, the flowers of love bloom properly, warm each other, comfort each other and seek comfort.
Meet each other's vanity needs
Women are born vain, and so are men? See others kiss oh, who is not tempted, who is not envious, who is not jealous? University cohabitation reflects the trend of the times, and it doesn't matter if anyone criticizes or ridicules it, because it is the inevitable product of social evolution and opening up.
What are the hidden dangers of cohabitation? The cost of cohabitation for women is higher than that for men.
1, social and cultural costs
At present, society may be tolerant of cohabitation, but tolerance does not mean affirmation. From ancient times to the present, if men fall in love, live together and break up again and again, they will be called "romantic talents" and "charming". This experience has also become their capital to show off in men's mouths.
The same situation is disgraceful for women, who are often regarded as "easy virtue" and "flirtatious".
Many people think that as long as they don't feel cheated, the opinions of the outside world are not important. However, social culture is tolerant of men's love affairs, but demanding of women. When women fall in love again or enter marriage, they have to bear much more pressure from public opinion than men. It's unfair, but it's a reality, at least for now.
2. Physiological cost
Women are older than men, and their physical function begins to decline at the age of 25. After living together for several years, the woman is old, the man is still young and his career is rising, but the two sides may not be able to get married.
3. Health costs
The physical characteristics of men and women determine that after cohabitation, women are prone to gynecological diseases and other diseases. If you accidentally get pregnant, it is very harmful to women's health, and it is easy to leave sequelae if it is not handled properly. The risk of pregnancy is almost entirely borne by women.
4. Economic cost
When in love, most men will take the initiative to pay the bill. Of course, AA system is also a very reasonable and fashionable way. Once living together, the two sides will turn into an embarrassing relationship that is neither love nor marriage. There is less romance in love and more economic burden.
5. Psychological cost
After cohabitation, men's psychological self-confidence is bursting, because they know how to please and deal with women better and have more experience in getting along with women; However, when the relationship fails after cohabitation, women usually leave a psychological shadow, become less confident, and prefer to get married rather than enjoy love when dealing with the next relationship. Therefore, women should think carefully before choosing to live together before marriage.
Seven reasons why you can't live together before marriage
1, the ugly reality of cohabitation
Compared with married couples, it is not difficult to find that unmarried couples quarrel more often, have greater difficulty in solving contradictions, are more insecure about their other half, and have more differences on issues related to future goals.
2. Inertia effect
Once two people live together, it is more difficult to separate because of the greater investment in each other. This is the famous inertia effect. But this is also the problem, forcing those unhealthy people to be more loyal to the other half and enter a vicious circle.
3. The process of getting married has been accelerated.
At least one party will exert great pressure to speed up the marriage. Cohabitation is regarded as a harbinger of marriage, partly because they are too used to each other. Nevertheless, if one party is not ready, this relationship means paying a heavy price.
4. Different lifestyles have played a role.
When two people don't live together, uniqueness is the reason why you like each other. But suddenly you need to deal with her angry temper in the early morning, or his poor hygiene habits. These differences led to a large-scale crazy struggle.
5. Increased sense of dependence
After living together, people get used to the existence of the other half. Even if the sex life is perfect, too much sex life is harmful to the relationship between husband and wife and their health. When people begin to give higher expectations to the other half, the growing sense of dependence creates conditions for more quarrels.
6. the charm of sex has disappeared
When two people are in love, there is a strong chemical reaction between them as their sexual life becomes better and better. But once two people live together, sex has no priority, because you know that you two can sleep together tomorrow night, the night after tomorrow and the night after tomorrow. ...
7. The mystery disappeared
Once you live together, your wonderful mystery about your partner will soon disappear. When a man comes out of the toilet comfortably after drinking the first cup of coffee, he may see that you are like a ghost, which will affect the image of a woman and make men's mysterious fantasies about women disappear.
The same thing will happen after marriage, but somehow, the so-called commitment to live together is always not enough to bear all the good, bad and even ugly aspects.