She was 19 years old when I met her. I didn't know that she had a boyfriend until the day when she came back from traveling with me. Yes, she turned her ex green. She told her predecessor that she didn't want to leave me, and she broke up the same day. She told me that they had no feelings for a long time, and I still feel sorry for that little boy.

Two years later, I traveled to Thailand and found that she was having an affair with an uncle who was almost forty years old. After dating me, I went to have dinner with that uncle. Refuse to admit it, and say it like toothpaste with evidence. Admit kissing, but never admit having sex. Kneeling on the ground all night begging for my forgiveness, I sent a voice to my uncle saying that I had a boyfriend and did something wrong. Say that I broke up with my first love, how can I just give her up? Finally, my heart softened and I chose to forgive, but from that moment on, I was wary.

It's been more than a month since I was caught falling in love with a Japanese boy two years later. Dating every weekend. Why am I so ignorant? Because I was very busy at work in those two years, I usually traveled all over the country on business and rarely had time to come back on weekends. But I take time out to have dinner with her every week. I have a temper, I never check the whistle, I believe that loyal people will not leave, and those who want to cheat will not be loyal. So she used my trust to deceive others. She is single.

This time, she confidently said that she needed company because I was too busy to care about her, and that boy was gentle and considerate and kind to her.

I looked at her and remembered the old saying: dogs can't change and eat shit.

One day, I took a group of people to stop the Japanese boy in Hangzhou Grand Theatre and slapped him twice. The boy trembled with fear and collapsed to the ground.

I said a slap is for you, because you slept with someone else's girlfriend casually, and a slap is for you to give her a slap, because she is your girlfriend now, and I can't hit a woman. I was angry, but I tried not to be impulsive. I hurt people. I lost my career because of such an unfaithful woman, which is not worth it.

I told the Japanese that every independent woman you saw was an illusion, and everything about her was empty. She doesn't spend your money with you because all her expenses are mine.

In front of the Japanese, the family number binding was cancelled, the credit card was reported lost, and the intimate payment was cancelled. I said you should treat your girlfriend well. She should have seen all kinds of cancellation notices and called me like crazy. I cut her off.

I have lived for so many years and slept no more than three times. I lost sleep for three months for this matter. I'm finally out, and I can still think about these things calmly.

I don't hate it now. A friend of mine told me last time that she now weighs 130 kg. I smiled faintly: it has nothing to do with me. Perhaps for Taurus, this is a way to solve thousands of worries. After all, tens of thousands of people spend a lot of money every month, which is not suitable for living on 5000 yuan.

The only regret is that sending her to learn Japanese was originally intended to help my work, but it turned out to be a sharp weapon for cheating.

Let me say a cruel word first: don't say that you have been in love for four years, even if you have been in love for ten years, cheating is unforgivable!

This is a matter of principle!

There are essential differences between men and women on this issue.

Look at men first. As long as it is a woman, even if it is not as beautiful as a girlfriend, as long as it is not very ugly. She wants something to happen, and there is a high probability that it will happen. While men feel attractive, they also feel that they have taken advantage.

Men think sex is sex, and they still love you when they're done.

Then look at women.

If a woman cheats, it must be that the object of cheating is better than you in some way. They will compare and weigh. Faced with the same situation, men have long forgotten everything. There is a high probability that women will not cheat, but once they cheat, there is no intention of turning back. They may keep it from you, and once you find out, they won't miss it.

Women always love to the depths before things happen naturally.

Of course this is the majority, not everyone is the same. If all people are the same and there are rules to be found, this society will be stable.

Some people say that "there are only zero and countless times of derailment", which is very popular with everyone. When you search for keywords, there are always countless cases that convince you.

But cruel words are cruel words after all. If you can guarantee that she will love you again. Get the derailed object without the other party's knowledge and let him leave the city. Then turn a blind eye.

If both sides know this, then break up. It has become a bad feeling that cannot be eliminated.

This is a matter of principle. Both men and women will be punished for cheating.

Why not choose to let yourself go? You are young and have plenty of time to do more things you want to do.

A person who greened you is doomed to part ways because of this mistake, so why don't you forgive someone who has nothing to do with you in the future?

As you said, your love of more than four years is the best love. In fact, you have experienced a very pure beauty since high school, which will be a wonderful memory in your life.

According to the time you said, you may be in the university stage, the campus of handsome men and beautiful women, and the small society with cross-flow of materials. At this point in time, you will inevitably face more distractions.

It is accidental and inevitable to turn green in such an environment. Let's just say that reality has taught you a vivid lesson. Also let you see that feelings are really not static.

Past feelings only represent a romantic time for you. Innocent and simple, you should be glad that when you are ignorant, there is such a partner to take you through the feeling from heaven to hell. You have both the innocence of love and the changeable world. Now you should understand that feelings are not based on your will.

They all say they only care about what they once had. Although there is suspicion of self-consolation, at your age, you really don't have much regret. It's really good to be young, which means having profligate capital and allowing yourself to be willful once in a while. Even if you can't imagine what awaits you in the future, the twists and turns of every relationship may be a blessing or a curse for you. People are beautiful because of experience.

In the past, present and future, you may meet many people you like or like your other half in the world of mortals, but the one who can really accompany you forever is the only one. Hate, hate for as long as you can, love for as long as you can. Forgive a person's mistake, but also let yourself go invisibly, and don't have to continue to hurt each other. People always have to pay for what they have done.

Therefore, don't think that forgiveness is an incredible thing, but it is also a fulfillment for yourself, a long river of feelings and a long road of life. She may be just a passer-by to you after all, and she may have a brief heartache and sadness. But please remember, since she is not in your future plan, you will have a chance to find better scenery if you leave this green tree early.

Wish you all the best.

Speaking of cheating, what can we think of? Is it flirting? A true love story? Sneaky porn? Paid sex service? Or "chat" about sex on the software?

In the eyes of 1000 people, there may be 1000 standards.

After entering the internet age, people's definition of derailment has been expanding. It is precisely because people lack a generally accepted definition of the elements of derailment that the proportion of derailment fluctuates greatly: from 26% to 75%.

However, no matter how the derailment standard is judged, no matter how the data floats, the fact is that it has existed all over the world since ancient times. And how do we face this common behavior, but it is also generally resisted and disgusted?

Adultery is taboo in marriage. What kind of special injury did it cause?

First, cheating shattered a person's grand belief in love.

Each of us has a fantasy about an ideal partner: with such a person, Ta can meet our endless needs in all aspects. Ta is my best companion, caring friend, competent parent, reliable confidant, emotional companion and spiritual match.

And myself, I am the only thrill of the other side, and I am the chosen one, indispensable and irreplaceable. But the fact of cheating told me, "I didn't."

Second, a partner's infidelity will threaten a person's self-awareness.

"I thought I knew my life very well. I thought I knew each other, our relationship and myself. But now, I have doubts about everything. A visitor told his adviser that his partner had cheated him.

At the beginning, we chose to trust someone and enter a stable and intimate relationship with T A. We trusted each other's loyalty with unprecedented enthusiasm, but also exposed our vulnerability, and we also gave each other the right to hurt us. Infidelity can lead to the collapse of trust and identity crisis.

People can't help wondering, "Can I continue to trust you? Can I still trust anyone? These questions will haunt my mind, and haunt the hearts of people who are hurt by their partners' infidelity.

Some people think that "as long as you cheat once, you will cheat forever" and use this as an argument to persuade others to break up. In the past, divorce was a disgrace to people. Nowadays, in the case of possible divorce, it is a shame of the new era to choose to bear the burden of humiliation, cling to the remnants and choose to forgive.

Whether it is entertainment news or people around you, as long as an affair happens, public opinion will basically fall to the "victim" side. "But it's been years?" ! 」

Therefore, when a person and the other half experience an affair, Ta can't talk to friends at all. When Ta is afraid of telling others this, everyone will think that Ta still loves each other. Because no matter who you tell, you will only get the same advice: leave him! Let him die! He deserved it.

This time the questioner should be the most tangled time. For the affair, although everyone said it was the bottom line, it was definitely unforgivable.

But in the end, the reason is still the same. In real life, most people who cheat will be forgiven for the first time.

As you said, you have been together for four years. You have been together for many years and experienced a lot. In this state of love, it is impossible to break up immediately.

And the average person or most people will still give a chance to try to repair this relationship. If you can let bygones be bygones and continue to fall in love and get married, then this is just an episode.

At this time, when you ask questions, are you thinking about forgiving or giving the other person a chance? No one makes mistakes, no feelings and experiences rise and fall, and so on.

I mean, if you decide to forgive her and continue with her, please negotiate the following questions between you.

1. Seriously analyze the other party, why did she cheat? Do you treat her badly, seek excitement, or be intimidated by others, and so on.

Can you consider changing your living environment, such as changing jobs, moving, keeping pets, etc.

3. Can she cancel the contact account that was derailed at that time?

Economically, it must participate. But you can't control her salary card, but the economy can't be too tight or too loose. To put it bluntly, you are just in love at present.

The rest is that your heart is made, which is too difficult.

finally

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If you continue, I hope you can go on forever. I tried hard, but I still couldn't pull out the thorn in my heart and chose to break up. I hope you find this relationship worthwhile.

It's not your fault that you are green or green. She is willing to accompany you for four years, which is worthy of recognition. Think about how many four years there are in life. People will find novelty when they are alive. Maybe she will regret it. That's for the future. Now think about how to say goodbye.

Never forgive, forgiveness will make you greener! I also have a relationship that started in high school, and everyone is very optimistic about us. I thought we would get married in the end! As a result, the university started! He betrayed me! He deleted everything about us in qq space, and the couple space was closed. I asked him why, and he said he was afraid that his relatives would not study hard. I really loved him, and my IQ was negative. I never thought about it in high school. How can I go to college and be afraid that my parents will know? Later, Weibo rose. I asked him if he wanted to play, but he said no and told me not to play either. I am a good boy, too. I didn't play. Later, my classmates saw something they shouldn't have seen and reminded me to see it. Only then did I know that he had been greening me. Later, I found a message from San Xiao questioning that San Xiao is fiercer than me! Join many people's @ I scold me! Of course, there are also people who scold my ex-boyfriend. He cried to me that he had lost face at school. I am so distressed, I asked him, do you still love me? He said love, very much! So I struggled for a few days and I decided to forgive him!

What happened later is really, I really can't imagine! He betrayed me again! He lives with his junior at school! My innocence collapsed. I'm going to his school to talk to him face to face. Yes, at that time, we had become a long-distance relationship. I went to his school by car for more than ten hours, and there were all kinds of traffic jams. There was no money at that time, so I took the bus. Motion sickness and vomiting all the way! In fact, my heart tends to forgive him again. My schoolbag is full of his favorite food, heavy! I'm really stupid! He came to pick me up when I went to school. Found that the raincoat is a couple's raincoat, and it really collapsed on the spot! Tossing and turning, I went back to my city and started to have a high fever. Then I found myself having my period again the next day, which lasted for 60 days. The doctor said it was an endocrine disorder under extreme emotions.

I think if I tell him this, he will sympathize with me. No, no, he went on his own way. When my computer logged into his account, I really collapsed. I saw him ask questions and say some disgusting things. I'm completely devastated. This is how he treated our relationship for three and a half years!

Cheating is really only once, countless times! The more you forgive, the more you push your luck! There is also a girl around me who is married and has sex with three boys at the same time! Therefore, no matter how long you are in love, it is not an excuse to leave. You must get out in time, or you must suffer.

The author believes that in marriage, the handling of gender relations is generally that men are strong and women are weak. The proportion of men who empathize with others and cheat is higher than that of women. It should be rare that your girlfriends who have been in love for four years are all green (forgive me for not hearing so much). In my opinion, she can never be forgiven. The first is sincerity. In the process of mutual contact and understanding, both parties in love are insincere, let alone fall in love, let alone make friends. Secondly, it shouldn't be. You two have been in love for four years and are still unmarried. It is impossible for one party not to cheat. Maybe you just found a reason not to love each other and broke up. Therefore, this person must not stay. Once again, you can do it without knowing it. Green figure wears one, which can guarantee that she will accidentally wear another one. When you are a child, sometimes you will regret it too late.

Can't forgive!

Friend, there are only zero and countless times of derailment!

Whether in love or marriage, the most feared thing is the infidelity of the other party, especially for men, it is a very unacceptable fact that the girlfriend is "cheating". "Cheating" is a horrible word that makes people shudder.

In the face of a woman's "cheating", maybe some men choose to leave the hateful woman wearing a green hat directly. There are still some men who want to trust the woman they love, so please let go of your hand. Even if you choose to forgive her temporarily, you can't go back.

No matter how you usually feel, even the first love is the best love in your heart at the beginning. When you find that your girlfriend is cheating on you, it means that this behavior is not in line with some moral situations, and it also means that your girlfriend has a personality problem, so boys should not continue to be with such girls. If the boy can tolerate it, then the girl will cheat in the future. It's better not to forgive yourself at the beginning than to keep hurting yourself.

The scars caused by trivial things in life can be repaired, but cheating will cause psychological shadows, so it is easy to leave early.

First, never! Second, never! Third, unforgiven!

It is said that there is only a zero-sum difference between cheating and countless times! Before marriage, you turn people green. What is this quality and morality? What is the bottom line? Where is it? Not married, green, and after the result, green again! It's like after the epidemic, my big A shares are green and my heart is cold.

Once upon a time, a good friend fell in love in college and was inseparable from her boyfriend for an instant. How envious we are! Later, a friend went to Shenzhen for an internship, and her boyfriend stayed in the local area and went to a different place. One night, my friend called me and felt very depressed. I asked her what happened, and her voice floated for a long time, saying that her boyfriend had turned her green. Later, his friends forgave him, and they were together again! It's a pity that this man turned green three times, and then they got married! After marriage, the man does not think about repentance, continues to cheat, and has no sense of responsibility for his family and children.

The principle and bottom line of being a man must be displayed in time and stop loss in time!