Main problems in college students' interpersonal communication
1. Self-centered. This is the main problem in college students' interpersonal relationship. During college, they are still immersed in the meticulous care of their parents, unaware that they have grown up and are making final preparations before entering social life independently, so it is difficult to really adapt to the college environment and collective life, and they are not good at dealing with interpersonal relationships.
2. Interpersonal communication lacks initiative and is easy to be utilitarian. Nowadays, many college students lack the initiative of communication, and some even regard enjoying loneliness as a fashion, which leads to a series of interpersonal problems. Due to the lack of communication practice and experience, many college students have difficulties in communication. When facing interpersonal communication, they often feel nervous and afraid, avoiding classmates and conversations. At the same time, in the face of fierce competition and employment pressure in today's society, more and more college students pay attention to the materiality of interpersonal communication, and the pragmatic values that usefulness is truth are respected. Many college students tend to choose interpersonal relationships that are beneficial to them, especially those with direct material help.
3. The appearance of network makes interpersonal relationship become cold. More and more college students choose to communicate with people online, ignoring the real group relationship. For example, many college students feel lonely and empty, so they surf the Internet, spend most of the day online and rarely communicate with the outside world. They use virtual communication instead of real face-to-face communication, which will inevitably destroy the communication mode between people, create a gap between people's minds, and eventually lead to indifference in interpersonal relationships.
4. Differences between ideal and realistic communication concepts. With the improvement of college students' awareness of democracy and equality, they pay more attention to the status equality in interpersonal relationships. However, there are many unequal factors in interpersonal relationships in reality, especially the difference between the rich and the poor in material life. For example, the difference of family economic conditions leads to the formation of two different groups of college students from poor families and college students with superior life in interpersonal communication. Wealthy students often rely on their parents' money and power, and tend to be condescending and domineering, while students with financial difficulties will have inferiority and introversion in interpersonal communication.
Factors affecting college students' interpersonal communication
1. objective factors
Family factors. The psychological problems of college students in interpersonal communication are largely due to the misunderstanding of family education. Nowadays, the vast majority of college students are only children, who grew up under the care of their elders and lack the desire to communicate, which to some extent makes college students lack the ability to handle interpersonal relationships independently and tend to go to extremes.
Social factors. Due to the imperfection of the market economic system, it has also caused the alienation of interpersonal relationship, indifference of human feelings and money worship tendency to varying degrees, thus affecting the college students' view of communication. Driven by material desires, some college students' understanding of life only stays on the satisfaction of material desires. In addition, the ever-changing network has also caused many new problems. Virtual network environment is easy to mislead students' thoughts and behaviors. For example, some students are at a loss about real interpersonal relationships, and some students are addicted to the internet, which also easily leads to the weakening of college students' morality and interpersonal relationships.
2. Subjective factors
Personality differences. Because of the different growth environment and personality characteristics of each student, college students have different personalities, which leads to various problems in interpersonal communication. In addition, there are misunderstandings in communication. College is a period when physiology, psychology and thinking grow to maturity. At this stage, it is difficult for college students to make a comprehensive and reasonable evaluation of themselves and everything around them, and it is also difficult to make a correct understanding of interpersonal relationships, so cognitive bias will occur. For example, if you estimate yourself and others too high or too low, you will inevitably have psychological feelings such as jealousy, impulsiveness and rage, which will affect interpersonal relationships.
The Significance of Establishing Good Interpersonal Relations among College Students
1. Good interpersonal relationships can promote the socialization of college students.
College students can't become social people with good moral quality and behavior habits without the construction of good interpersonal relationships. Due to the continuous communication between people, the exchange of thoughts and feelings, and the absorption of relevant information, individual psychology has gradually developed from low level to high level, realizing the transformation from natural person to social person. University is a critical period of individual socialization. College students have learned and mastered social morality and behavior norms through various channels, and consolidated and internalized them.
2. Help to know yourself correctly and improve your physical and mental quality.
If you want to play well in interpersonal relationships, you must be able to know yourself and others correctly. Only through various communication activities can people realize their own communication style, and gradually understand themselves according to the influence of their own behaviors and attitudes on others and the evaluation of others on themselves. Good interpersonal relationship can not only let college students see their own advantages, but also realize their own shortcomings. Only healthy college students can have a trusting and friendly attitude towards the people around them, be strict with themselves, be lenient with others, and correctly handle their relationship with others. Especially when there are contradictions, harmonious interpersonal relationships can help college students to resolve negative emotions in time and establish an optimistic, cheerful and positive attitude.
3. Promote the individualization of college students.
People's personality is influenced by congenital genetic factors, but more importantly, it is influenced by acquired life, study and practice, and growth environment. The depth of communication directly affects the quality of personality, and the breadth of communication directly affects the form of personality. College students know themselves and society in communication, feel life, understand love and affection in mutual assistance, develop intelligence and thinking in inspiration, and overcome difficulties and setbacks in encouragement, thus forming their own distinctive personality characteristics.
4. Harmonious interpersonal relationship helps college students to renew their ideas.
First of all, harmonious interpersonal relationship helps college students to establish the concept of paying attention to self-image. Pay attention to self-image, cultivate proper gestures, have a good sense of self-expression and be good at letting others know about themselves. A good self-image is a necessary condition for personal success. Secondly, actively developing interpersonal communication is conducive to improving interpersonal communication ability. Dealing with all kinds of interpersonal relationships can enrich college students' lives, expand their knowledge and improve their ability to understand themselves and society. Finally, it also helps college students to establish the concept of cooperation. Modern society is a society of division of labor and cooperation. As contemporary college students, we must learn to cooperate with others to the maximum extent and enrich ourselves through cooperation.