Do you get angry easily? What is your irritability index? The following is the psychological test I recommend to you: yours? What is the irritability index?

Here are some ways to measure IQ. Please read carefully the 25 scenarios listed below that may make you angry. You can refer to the following simple scoring criteria to estimate the degree of annoyance or irritation that each situation may cause to you, and then fill in the score in the blank space behind each situation.

0- You are hardly angry.

1- You are a little annoyed.

2- You're a little angry.

3- You're angry.

4- You are very angry.

Mark your answers after each question as shown in the example:

You are driving to the airport to meet your friend, but you have to stop and wait for a freight train to pass by. 2 points

The person who answered this question estimated that his reaction value was 2, because he would be a little angry. However, after the car drove by, his anger completely disappeared. When estimating how he will react to each of the following upset things under normal circumstances, please make the most reasonable estimation according to the routine situation. Even if they miss many important details that may happen (such as what happened that day, who participated in the event and so on). ), you should make the most reasonable estimate.

1. You just bought a home appliance and plugged it in, only to find that it doesn't work at all.

You were forced to be blackmailed by the repairman.

You and others have made mistakes, but others are at large, and the boss just takes you out to judge.

Your car is stuck in mud or snow.

You talk to others, and others ignore you.

6. Someone lied to you.

7. In the coffee shop, when you were struggling to put four cups of coffee at your desk, someone bumped into you and spilled all the coffee.

8. You have hung up your clothes, but someone knocked them over and didn't pick them up.

The clerk has been following you since the moment you entered the store.

10. You have arranged to go out with someone, but this person stood me up at the last minute and left you alone.

1 1. Be teased or laughed at.

12. The red light is red. When your car stops, the guy behind you keeps honking at you.

13. You happened to take a wrong turn in the parking lot. No sooner had you got off the bus than someone shouted at you. Where did you learn to drive?

14. Someone made a mistake and blamed you for it.

15. You are trying to concentrate, but people around you are stamping their feet.

16. You lend someone an important book or an important tool, but they don't return it to you.

17. You are very busy this day, but people who live with you complain that you promised to do something, but you forgot to do it.

18. You want to discuss something important with your partner or colleague, but he doesn't give you a chance to express your feelings.

19. You are discussing with someone who insists on discussing a topic they know little about.

20. When you are discussing with someone, the other person insists on interrupting.

2 1. You need to go to a place quickly, but the car in front of you is driving at a speed of 25 km/h in the area of 40 km/h, so you can't drive.

22. Step on a piece of gum.

You were laughed at by a small group of people when you passed by.

24. I was in a hurry to go somewhere, and as a result, one of your good slacks was cut by a sharp weapon.

25. You made a phone call with the last coin, but after you dialed, the line was disconnected and the coin disappeared.

Now you can explain your total score according to the following scores:

1, 0-45:

The amount of anger and annoyance you experience is very small. Only a few people can get such low scores in the exam. You belong to this minority!

2, 46-55 points:

You are actually calmer than the average person.

3, 56-75 points:

You pay the same amount of anger for the troubles of life.

4, 76-85 points:

You often treat the troubles in life in an angry way. You are actually more irritating than the average person.

5, 86- 100 integral:

You are such an angry champion. You are tortured by frequent furious reactions, which can't go away soon. You may still have negative emotions long after the initial humiliation. People you know may have the names of firecrackers or reckless people. You may often feel nervous and headache, and your blood pressure will often rise. Your anger is often out of control, and hostility erupts very impulsively, which sometimes gets you into trouble. Only a few adults react as violently as you do.

Extended reading:

Why are China people irritable?

There was a piece of news yesterday:

A pair of college students flew from Chongqing to Beijing by plane.

After boarding the plane, the two began to quarrel.

The girl said: we may not be suitable. Let's calm down for two days.

The boy was angry and said, I will die for you now. Do you believe it or not?

The stewardess came over to dissuade him: this is a plane, don't make any noise.

The boy has rushed to the front of the emergency hatch and reached for the door. Fortunately, it was stopped by the flight attendant.

The plane arrived in Beijing, and so did the police. Please ask the young couple police station to continue to make noise.

The boy was detained 15 days. He explained to the police: I didn't really want to jump, I just wanted to scare her. I was particularly angry at that time. I ran directly over her and pulled the handle of the plane door. Maybe too radical?

As for whether I have thought about the consequences of opening the hatch, the boy said that I just don't know. If I know how to do such a stupid thing, I can only say that I have to bear the consequences. After all, it has brought inconvenience to the people on the plane.

It's hard to say that it happened by accident. However, another article said that China people are irritable, but they are organized.

Wechat signed by Mr. Lu Jiajian: "How do we get out of manic personality".

According to the article, Mr. Lu has a niece who is a freshman at the University of Sydney and recently came to China from Australia with her mother.

Mr. Lu asked his niece: What is your most direct impression of China?

My niece replied, just three:

First, no matter who meets together, they will quarrel.

Second, no matter what happens, you will complain, complain.

Third, no matter what you want, you will grab it and care. I have never met a tolerant and silent person.

She has proof.

The first thing is that she saw her relatives arguing with the passengers in the front seat on the high-speed train for the problem of reclining seats.

Relatives think that if your seat leans back, our space will become narrower and we will feel uncomfortable. What do you sleep in broad daylight?

The front passengers are unmoved: because the seat has a tilting function, you can tilt. I can sleep if I want. Do you care if I sleep during the day or at night?

Noisy, no one will give in.

Finally, Mr. Lu's niece and relatives changed seats, which barely stopped the quarrel.

The second thing is that a group of people went out to travel and the train was delayed for more than half an hour. Because it is at the peak of Spring Festival travel rush, there are many more flights, and the trains line up to enter the station. The first train has left, and the last train can only enter after making room for the tracks. However, relatives said that they did not understand and complained. They repeatedly questioned the platform attendant and complained to the waiter. What can the waiter say? I can not help you with anything.

Angry relatives kept calling the dispatching room of the railway bureau to complain about it. However, the more you complain, the angrier you get. On the platform, you are like a raging trapped beast, running around angrily and tossing yourself endlessly.

Mr. Lu commented on this runaway relative and said:

Rather than saying that they don't understand, they don't want to understand things at all.

I've met people recently who don't want to understand things.

Some time ago, I opened my mailbox and cleaned up junk mail. Suddenly I saw an email, which was full of foul language and foul language. I was startled and took a quick look.

I don't want to read it carefully, but I can't understand it, because this is not the first letter of cursing, it is a continuation of cursing before.

If you want to understand why you scold me, you have to turn forward.

I turned it over, I turned it over, I turned it over, and I turned over twelve emails to find the scolding head.

The curse is email for help, to the effect that there is something urgent online. Come on, big brother, I may not be online when you are online. What's more, it's the WeChat era. Who has nothing to do in the mailbox? The helper screwed up the boss's big client. How can I get help?

After the helper sent the email, he waited patiently for eight minutes, exactly eight minutes. When I didn't reply with a solution, I decided that I was arrogant and ignored him. So he fired at me like a barrage, called me a snob, licked the big boss regardless of the lives of the little people and so on.

But I haven't been in the mailbox for a long time. Even if I happen to open my email to reply, this problem will not be solved in eight minutes. Do you think typing takes no time?

He doesn't understand such a simple truth.

I'm curious about his boss. What kind of boss is he? Dare to use this wonderful work?

I don't know the age geometry of the helper, but his thinking is by no means more mature than that of a three-year-old baby.

Irritability is the privilege of babies.

Compared with adults, the cognitive world of infants is extremely narrow.

When taking care of children, adults have dozens of things on their minds at the same time. Lao Wang next door poked around in front of the door. The boss lost his temper again yesterday, and his colleague took his favorite sister away. My wife seems to find herself secretly taking care of her sister.

Every one of these things is very serious, and a mishandling is a disaster like the sky were to fall apart. In this anxious effort, the child suddenly wanted a lollipop and had no mind to go out and buy it. He can only say: Dear Bao, we don't eat sugar today, just lick yesterday's candy paper.

But in the child's heart, there is only one lollipop in the whole world.

The child doesn't need to eat sugar, he just wants love from his parents, hoping to gain a sense of psychological security and prove that his parents still love him.

However, the father's casual refusal made the child's heart instantly fall to the bottom.

For children, this is not a question of giving or not giving candy, but whether parents still love him and are willing to protect him. Rejection means giving up on love, which means a complete loss of security.

For the sake of safety, children have to work hard. Therefore, there is Xiong Haizi in this world. They rolled on the ground and cried, completely ignoring their parents' difficulties. It's just a small requirement in the eyes of adults, which is all they need to ensure their life.

Beneath the surface of every Xiong Haizi, there is an insecure heart.

Children are prone to crying, and some children will never stop until they reach their goals.

At this time, all parents have to do is squat down, look into their children's eyes, speak softly and talk on an equal footing. What matters is not what to say, but the sense of security that this kind of communication brings to children's hearts.

In the psychology open class of WeChat official account, a WeChat mentioned the details in the TV entertainment program "Where is Dad?". .

This detail is the place where actor Liu Ye took his children to find a place to live. When he asked the villagers, the children kept interrupting him, making it impossible for him to talk to the villagers. Leaning slightly, Liu Ye squatted down and said seriously, don't interrupt when Dad is talking to others. That's what our family has been saying, right? It's impolite, it's disrespectful to parents, you know?

Wechat comment: The way Liu Ye talks with his children is to make them realize their behavior mistakes without feeling abandoned.

I repeat, children should not feel abandoned.

If parents understand the psychological common sense of children's growth and establish trust-based communication with children, children will grow up to be sensible and become high emotional intelligence who can understand the situation of others.

But parents are a regrettable art, often when you figure out how to educate your child, the child has evolved into Xiong Haizi and grown into an adult bear.

Although Mr. Xiong is an adult, he is still a Xiong Haizi at heart.

In emotional control, they are still ignorant and unable to control themselves.

For example, a little boy quarreled with his girlfriend on the plane, opened the emergency hatch without a word, and wanted to die for a little thing. In his mind, everyone's life on the plane is more important than his sense of justice, which is a typical beating for Xiong Haizi.

Although we need to hit him, it's still raining in Mao Mao. He will stay in the detention center for 15 days, until he grows up for a few years and his sense of security is no longer lacking. At this time, he is mature.

For example, relatives quarreling with front seats on the high-speed rail and wandering around like animals on the platform are typical of their fragile self-awareness and need strong recognition from the outside world, so they are extremely sensitive to negative signals and sensitive to misinterpreting the normal world as denial of themselves.

The weakness of self-control stems from the immaturity of mind and the lack of inner security.

You need to learn to control your emotions.

Let oneself, psychological age and physiological age grow synchronously.

In the circle of friends, there are a large number of WeChat articles that control emotions.

But the effect is not obvious.

Why?

Because, in terms of emotional control, most chicken soups for the soul have made two mistakes.

First, emotion is uncontrollable, it is a person's mental state.

Second, emotions can't be controlled, but you can choose to vent.

You will notice that even the most violent people are very rational when they lose their temper. He will be angry with the people he loves and hurt his friends and relatives without restraint, but in front of those who avoid meditation, he is greeted with a smile.

There used to be a saying that the upper class was afraid of his wife, the middle class respected the boss and the lower class beat his wife.

Now the expression is more elegant, and it will be like this: it is easy for us to make the same mistake:

Too polite to strangers, too harsh to close people.

It's not that you can't control your emotions.

You just chose the safest way to vent for yourself, but this way is hurting you and the people around you.

A person's character is nothing more than two elements: emotion and ability.

The less ability, the higher the emotional content.

Lack of ability, the weaker the control over the environment, the easier it is to panic.

When the emotional content is high, it will get out of control.

So people say that the weak are irritable and the strong are gentle.

Emotion can't be controlled, even if it is controlled for a while, it will burst into stronger power.

The really effective way to control emotions is to strengthen the ability and reduce the emotional value.

Compared with people, it's not much difference.

Everyone is a product of emotions, including sadness and joy, crying and laughing. However, the career realm of life is quite different. The difference is not in emotional control, but in ability.

Emotion should be sprayed on your future life goals. Can you be a little hard on yourself?

People live for a lifetime, and plants grow for an autumn. Can you live a human life seriously? Live only for yourself, and be responsible for your own life in this life? People die to stay in name, but leopards die to stay in skin. We can't waste time looking back and suddenly burst into tears. Oh, mom, it seems that I have never lived seriously in my life.

A life without thinking is not worth living. The meaning of life lies in the deep development of life value, turning violence and anger to yourself and setting a life goal worth pursuing for decades?

Have a big goal first and pursue a high-quality life. Then divide the big goals into small short-term goals.

Small goals also need to be adhered to. For example, a friend put up a sign in front of his bed: Lao Tzu will read ten pages of Zi Tong Zhi Jian today! It is ten pages of books, ten pages a day, ten pages a day, one book a month and twelve books a year. Or don't study, be sure to chat with the most knowledgeable friends and make a little progress every day. It won't be long before you become an admirable enterprising person.

Start to improve your environment, study or read, and optimize your circle of friends.

The most successful circle of friends is that every friend is better than you, and you will find that your life pressure is getting smaller and smaller because your viability is getting stronger and stronger. When you are competent in your own life, the intense emotions will ease.

Recharge yourself regularly and cheer up.

Human nature is easy to be lazy, and those who walk a hundred miles are half ninety. There are often times when I can't persist and want to indulge myself. It doesn't hurt to indulge once in a while, but don't forget to find your own way. It is necessary to form a benign environment from Excellence to Excellence. At this time, indulgence is just a leisure life that pleases the soul.

Irritable people just can't face the real environment. When the viability is insufficient, the so-called emotional control is nothing more than retreat and forbearance. It is better to cure the symptoms than to cure the symptoms, and patience is better than progress.

Only when you regain the dignity of life and fight for the honor of life, your ability grows and your mind grows, and your extremely unstable mood will gradually calm down like the water after the storm, showing beautiful and magical lakes and mountains.

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