First, the importance of college students' interpersonal relationship, background The importance of college students' interpersonal relationship, interpersonal communication is an important way to maintain college students' physical and mental health. This is because interpersonal relationships affect the physical and psychological conditions of college students, as well as their mood and emotional changes and spiritual life. On the other hand, interpersonal relationship is an important guarantee for college students to grow up: 1, interpersonal communication is an important way to exchange information and acquire knowledge. 2. Interpersonal communication is an important means for individuals to know themselves and improve themselves. 3. Interpersonal communication is the need of collective growth and social development. The general weakness of college students' social skills makes interpersonal relationship a top priority. Over the years, under the baton of college entrance examination, students have paid too much attention to the pursuit of grades and neglected the cultivation of interpersonal skills and other qualities. After entering colleges and universities, there are few specialized systematic courses in schools. As a result, many college students have high IQ, but low EQ, and often can't handle how to get along with others, communicate and communicate well. These are the abilities and qualities that enterprises value most when recruiting. Therefore, it is urgent to make up this course for college students. At the recent campus job fairs held in colleges and universities, some business leaders said that employees' communication and communication skills have increasingly become the main driving force for enterprises to win in the market competition, so employers pay more attention to the "emotional intelligence" of job seekers when recruiting. Facing the recruitment conditions offered by employers, more and more college students feel the importance of interpersonal skills. Second, the survey of interpersonal communication problems among college students shows that interpersonal communication has accounted for more than 50% of college students' psychological problems, and in previous statistics, love troubles occupied the first place. Communication troubles outweigh love troubles. After careful analysis, the confusion and discomfort in college students' interpersonal relationships can be divided into the following five categories: the first category: lack of intimate friends. The second category: it is difficult to meet individuals. The third category: dull communication with people. The fourth category: I feel that communication is difficult. The fifth category: social phobia. How to cultivate college students' interpersonal skills? How to cultivate college students' interpersonal skills? The core of interpersonal communication is cooperation and communication. We should realize that in dealing with people, what is touching is sincerity, making friends sincerely and doing things sincerely. Sincerity can be exchanged for cooperation and communication with others. Sincerity is always one of the most precious feelings of human beings. Principle of interpersonal communication: (1) Principle of equality: In interpersonal communication in socialist society, we must first adhere to the principle of equality. Whether official or individual, there is no distinction between high and low. We must communicate like friends in order to make deep friends. (2) the principle of tolerance: mainly psychological compatibility, that is, the relationship between people is harmonious, when getting along with others. Be patient. Actively communicate with others, make friends, and make good friends, not only with people who are similar to themselves, but also with people who are opposite to themselves. Seek common ground while reserving differences, learn from each other's strengths, handle the relationship between competition and compatibility, and better improve yourself. (3) Principle of mutual benefit: refers to mutual benefit. Interpersonal communication is a two-way behavior, so it is unreasonable to "come and not go."