Chen Guo, a teacher at Fudan University, once said, "Making friends is not because they are useful. We can't make friends just to use them. "

True friends are useless.

We are linked by destiny, like-minded, heart to heart and cherish each other.

I have a successful career, but you are not persistent; I'm not jealous of your pot full.

I have nothing, don't leave; I don't laugh at your poverty.

Only in this way can we become best friends.

Time knows people, but trouble knows the heart.

Useless friends can walk together for life.

I once read a story on the Internet: 19-year-old Zhan Sen Swinburne once created a website, and within a few months, the number of visitors to the webpage was as high as 9 million.

This made him appear in American Fortune magazine and quickly became known to the public.

Financial institutions and investors saw the business opportunities in him and offered him loans one after another.

Therefore, it was not long before Zhan Sen Swinburne's company went public and its share price soared.

He is very conspicuous and can attend all kinds of parties and dinners every day. Many successful people made friends with him, and the scenery was infinite for a while.

However, unexpected events may happen. Due to the sudden changes in the stock market, Zhan Sen's shares plummeted and finally had to declare bankruptcy.

In just a few days, Zhan Sen Swinburne went from being rich to penniless.

He wants to rebuild the website and make a comeback, but when preparing funds, he finds that all his friends who used to be brothers are avoiding him.

Afterwards, Zhan Sen Swespon sighed:

"When you achieve something, the people around you are not necessarily your true friends. Only when you are most helpless, those who help you are really good friends. "

Mr Jiang Yang once said:

People, after all, are creatures who seek advantages and avoid disadvantages.

When you are in the spring breeze, you will find that you are surrounded by friends and everyone is willing to help.

But when you fall into a trough, you will find that people avoid you and are indifferent.

As the saying goes, "poverty is not in the downtown area, but wealth has distant relatives in the mountains."

Those fake friendships follow the interests and will slip away quietly when you are in trouble.

In the TV series "Big Rivers", the friendship between Song Yunhui and Lei Dongbao is commendable.

Song Yunhui is the brother-in-law of Lei Dongbao. After my sister died, although there was no such blood relationship, two people with the same temper and personality were still friends.

In order to rapidly develop enterprises in Xiao Lei, Lei Dongbao borrowed millions and built several factories.

However, due to poor management, the company's efficiency is not good, and the monthly profit is only enough to repay the bank interest.

Song Yunhui works in another city. They don't have much contact, but they all care about each other.

Song Yunhui heard about the situation of Leidongbao factory and suggested that he slow down the development speed and improve the product quality.

Unexpectedly, Lei Dongbao not only refused to listen, but also laughed at Song Yunhui for being a big official for a long time, which was too lenient.

In the face of Lei Dongbao's attitude, Song Yunhui was very angry, but he still inquired about Lei Dongbao privately and cared about the situation of his factory.

Later, Lei Dongbao was wronged and embezzled collective assets, and a very important investment contract could not be found, which was difficult to defend.

People around him ignored his plight, and some even hit people when they were down.

Xiaohui, who knew the situation, rushed back to his hometown for the first time, trying to prove Lei Dongbao's innocence.

He didn't care about eating or resting, so he ran around trying to find evidence.

Finally, the investment contract that proved Lei Dongbao's innocence was finally found by Song Yunhui, who successfully rescued Lei Dongbao who was almost sentenced to death.

Good friendship is that you are busy, but you care about each other.

It is not noisy, but it can withstand the erosion of time and the baptism of years.

There is a saying, who is good and who is not, we will wait and see; Who can do it and who can't, a friend in need is a friend indeed.

A good friend will treat you sincerely and will not leave because you are in trouble. On the contrary, he will lend a helping hand in times of difficulty.

You know, icing on the cake may not be sincere, but it is true to send charcoal in the snow.

Those who are not driven by interests and never give up on you are the friends who should be cherished with heart.

We will meet many people in this life, and we will call them friends.

Especially in today's social network is so developed, you can pull a group at will and build a circle to call your friends.

There are hundreds of friends in our address book.

I always feel that the more people in the address book, the better. Maybe it will come in handy one day.

These unfiltered networks are all because we follow the "useful principle".

But the reality is that most people have only seen it once.

I even forgot what I met for.

Wang Tong of the Sui Dynasty said in the book Zhong Shuo:

"Eli intersection, profit is scattered. Potential intersection, potential loss. When rights cross, the loss of rights will be abandoned. Emotional intersection, emotional breakdown, emotional injury. Only when you meet your heart can you last. "

This means that friends who make friends because of interests will be separated when there is no interest.

People who become friends because of their rights will be abandoned if they lose their rights.

Friends bound by human feelings will be separated when human feelings disappear.

And only friends who change their minds are long-term friends.

Mencius said, "Knowing the other is important, knowing the other is important."

Make friends, don't care what benefits he can bring you, and don't care so much about being together.

As long as you can talk to * * *, talk to, and share your troubles with * * *, you are all rare bosom friends.

It is the stubbornness of adults not to bother at the low ebb.

It is gentleness between friends to dare to disturb at low tide.

Heart to heart, the joys and sorrows of the rest of my life are listened to, and the waves of the years are remembered.

I saw this sentence on the Internet: "All our life, we just want to find a soul that is connected with each other in the vast sea of people to fill the loneliness of life."

Between good friends, many times, it is a kind of spiritual communication and emotional shock.

Making useless friends is not driven by interests, so you can rest assured that you are sincere.

It is not until middle age that people realize that those seemingly useless friendships are the most useful.

For the rest of my life, I hope you don't cling to glory, weigh the pros and cons and be cautious.

There are three or two confidants who accompany me to talk about poetry and songs, piano, chess, calligraphy and painting.

You can live a poetic life with useless people.

Author | Qingyi, look at the world with fiery eyes.