Any relationship should be based on equality. Both sides in the relationship should be able to get nutrition and growth in the relationship, which is a good relationship. In the final analysis, what matters is not the relationship, but the relationship serves both sides of the relationship. The establishment of the relationship needs the joint efforts of both parties, and the dissolution of the relationship only needs one party.

Learning to say "no" is the key to building a healthy social relationship.

In fact, many times, even when we feel strongly disrespected, incomprehensible, unsupported, unacceptable, denied or rejected, we can't bravely and sincerely tell our true feelings and how we want to be treated, which is largely due to our inner false beliefs, that is, our cognitive model-we will not refuse others since childhood. When we label ourselves as such, even if we are fully capable of rejecting others in the face of being hurt, we will choose to recognize and accept others' behaviors and attitudes and blame ourselves more for not being good enough.

Tear off the label "I will not refuse others since I was a child". Compared with the previous weak and helpless, today you have the resources and strength to protect yourself better and stick to the boundaries of self-protection in your relationship, as long as you are willing. No one will hurt you without your permission. In the relationship, in the face of being hurt, say "no" gently and firmly, resolutely without hostility, and speak out your true feelings and needs sincerely and bravely.

Learning to accept yourself is the key to establish a long-term healthy social circle.

Learn to accept yourself completely from the inside out and believe that you deserve to be treated well by yourself and others. You can try to learn better self-acceptance by listing the advantages of self-acceptance, so that you can not only see your own shortcomings, but also see more of your own highlights and advantages. You can try to cultivate self-confidence and enhance your sense of self-worth by writing a gratitude diary. Try to cultivate more interest and love for yourself in life, so that you can control more and more things.

By actively learning some psychological knowledge and reading some books related to psychology, we can better perceive and understand our emotional feelings, and seek a more appropriate way to respond to and meet the hidden needs behind emotional feelings. ?