Later, I found it difficult for ordinary people's lives to be magnificent. Even if there are no ups and downs before and after the decision, it can be called an important decision if it can change some of my views on life.
Although the years are hard to turn back, the road can be turned back. Important decisions in life can rewrite us, but they can certainly be rewritten by us. We can make more important decisions. Now, I want to share some of my stories with you.
The first story: Action gives us the possibility of change.
Although a speech teacher said before that the arguments to prove the argument should not be put in childhood as far as possible, and it is not easy to cause * * *, I still want to tell this little story that has a deep influence on me.
This story happened in 2003, when China was carrying out the May 4th Movement, so I was about to enter junior high school in grade five. In private junior high school, the exam was cancelled and the lottery was changed. It turned out that it was a hot noon, the fan creaked and I sat on the mat. The whole person is very dry and feels very wronged. I told my mother that it was my own bad life. Children of that age seem to feel that their way to school is bleak.
The next day, my mother asked me to make a decision. Do you want to go to a private enterprise or a public enterprise? The neighborhood is actually very good. I said personal. Although I said so, I just thought, "How can it be achieved?" But then my mother took me through all the certificates, awards and final exam papers and prepared my self-introduction. She took me to the principal's office to explain the situation, show determination and prove my ability, and then I got my wish and got the admission. I'm glad I made a firm decision, otherwise I wouldn't have realized the magic of action so early and inspired me all the time.
I am very grateful to the headmaster and my mother. My mother came back and told me that since she decided to take something, she should try it at once. Maybe it will be, and it's not as difficult as we thought. Yes, we seldom encounter things that are really unsolvable in our daily life. The difference may be that we can only solve it in one step and need to solve it in multiple steps. If you take action step by step, it's not as difficult as you think.
In the final analysis, will, no matter how beautiful, can't bring us any changes or results. Action, no matter how small, has the magic to solve and change the direction of things. No matter in life or at work, when we encounter any problems, we should first tell ourselves to be optimistic, disassemble the action methods, and then take action. A small step in action can also pry open the door to miracles.
The second story: Don't be afraid of the unknown. Only when you come out can you see a wider world.
When I graduate from college, I have two choices: one is to go back to my hometown to be a third-tier city in Selected Graduates, and the other is to recruit enterprises in Shenzhen. At that time, my family wanted me to stay in my hometown and work and live with peace of mind. At that time, my grandfather had just died, and because the university was far away, my family didn't tell me, which left me with regret. How to choose? Later, my brother visited me at school. He told me that my parents don't want us to be far away, just because we are unknown and afraid that we will have a bad life, but it doesn't matter how far away we are. For our parents, living better is the best comfort. And my longing for the unknown, I believe there must be room for me in the vast world, so I chose to come to Shenzhen.
In July, I came to Shenzhen to report. I lied to my parents that I bought a sleeper because I was afraid they would worry. But in fact, I sat in a hard seat for more than 30 hours. When I got off the bus, I found my leg swollen twice. I dragged my big luggage out of the deep subway entrance to report for duty. I took a breath of the humid and sultry air in Shenzhen. I can't tell you how it feels. Then an hr of the company just got off the subway. He knew I was going to report for duty and kept dragging my luggage to the company. I am willing to help others, because even a small act of kindness may be the stimulant that others need most.
Later, from TP-LINK, to Shang Tang, to tencent games, to WeChat payment, and now I am working with iris as a duplicate lab. Just because I went out to a more advanced place, I witnessed and experienced how the products that changed the world were produced and iterated, and I also met excellent friends from all over the country. If I was afraid of the unknown and didn't come out, I don't think I could see more lifestyles, more ways to play and more possibilities in life, but it is experience and experience that are our precious wealth in reviewing life. In my first year in Shenzhen, when my mother came to see me, she told me that I borrowed money from you. If you don't come to Shenzhen, I may never want to see what Shenzhen is like. I think anyone can expect a wide world.
Of course, it should be a good choice to choose home or outside operations as long as the follow-up actions are positive, but the possible harvest directions are different. Because I choose to explore the unknown, I have encountered more difficulties, and I can also say that I have given myself more opportunities to experience. Choose a goal and achieve it. Of course, this process is not achieved overnight. We will enhance our cognition, learn for life, be positive and optimistic, persevere, and each of us will be closer to the better self we want to pursue.
The third story: the pursuit of self-consistency is the most comfortable life.
20 19 is a very important year for me. After working in the workplace for nearly six years, I began to think about how to spend my future career path. I defined three stages of my career: value transfer point, value amplification point and value chain contact point.
Value delivery point: improve personal ability, work hard and become a reliable workplace person.
Value amplification point: able to undertake important work and have personal value that can leave the platform.
Value chain connection: link more people and help more people realize their personal value through innovation.
So in the sixth year of work, I began to explore how to achieve the goal of value amplification. It happens that I am almost 30 years old and want to do something special. So Iris and I decided to start a recovery lab.
Many people don't understand that WeChat payment is not so good. What are they doing with a WeChat group every day? At first, my good friends often asked me, what are you doing at home today? I think they may be worried that I am depressed at home. To tell the truth, after the initial excitement period, the profit from making products, operating, project management, copywriting, art design and customer service every day is still not ideal. I do have some anxiety, but I am also self-consistent.
During this period, we set up a paid community of 1,000 people from 0 to 1, and made an offline youth conference for more than 300 people. We continue to explore community-based business models, get to know big people from all walks of life, and think about what innovative projects will make money with star friends. All these have brought me unprecedented work excitement. Of course, I also have more time to discover the joy of life. For example, I recently saved 1 hour by commuting every day. What can I do: painting, handcraft, guitar, piano, baking, writing. Of course, compared with before, there will be a certain gap in income now, but more possibilities are also fascinating! This is a generally self-consistent state, that is, my behavior and the resulting results are known and acceptable. This is why re-entering the laboratory does not encourage everyone to leave, for fear of imbalance.
Self-consistency is the most difficult state for me to achieve. Any result, whether we judge it is good or bad, must depend on our situation and our attitude towards it. Different people often come to different conclusions when they look at the same thing. If you can make a consistent choice, it will definitely not be a bad choice. Just like people always ask me how to be self-disciplined, I always say that self-discipline is not as important as I thought, so don't be too hard on yourself. The money, reputation and status we are after should ultimately serve happiness. If you really think that your present life is your most comfortable and favorite state, then why go to bed and get up early at night? Of course, if there is a huge gap between the realistic ability and the ideal expectation, then you must try your best to lower the expectation and pursue a self-consistent balance.
It can be said that every choice should not be treated at will, and it can be said that every choice should be treated at will! Time is hard to turn back, but the road can be turned back. If we persist in doing the present, we will be one step closer to happiness.