In the past, people mainly relied on "parents' orders and the words of the media." "Parents feel that the other party is not bad and belongs to the right type. That's settled.
Therefore, parents used to interfere with their children's marriage everywhere.
Nowadays, young people can find a partner in any group online, through the introduction of classmates and friends, or they can fall in love freely.
Nowadays, parents rarely interfere with their children's finding partners.
However, there are also some unwise parents who foolishly interfere with their children's search for a partner. The result is not what they imagined, but counterproductive, and even has some serious consequences.
My colleague's daughter found a boy from other places. Because the other family is in the countryside and the economic situation is not very good, colleagues and couples resolutely oppose it and force their daughter to break up with each other.
The girl likes this young man very much, and this young man loves this girl deeply. In addition, the young man is also very handsome, and his colleagues and his wife also admit this.
However, the daughter was extremely unhappy and finally agreed to break up with the other party under the coercion and inducement of her parents.
Since then, my colleague's daughter has become extremely negative and disgusted when looking for a partner. Every time the boys introduced by parents are excellent, the family economic situation is good, but the daughter just doesn't like it. After two days, there was no news.
A few years later, my daughter was in her thirties. Seeing other people's children happily married and leading their grandchildren to play, the couple are envious. Every time I talk about my daughter's marriage, both of them are in tears.
Sometimes, several close colleagues chat together. When colleagues talk about their daughter's marriage, some colleagues say that you shouldn't interfere with your children in the first place. Colleagues always regret it now.
One of my college classmates is a good girl, but sometimes it is scary to resist and very obedient to her parents. For example, going to college to get scholarships and grants, joining the party, researching, graduating after a long time, taking the teacher qualification certificate and compiling everything seems to be compulsory, including emotional life.
Sometimes, I feel sorry for her, and I feel very tired. I was afraid to tell my family about a love affair in college, and finally "reported". As a result, I can't do it directly because it's a different place.
As a result, she is still single and sometimes complains to me that she can't find a boyfriend. I can only comfort her by saying: Make yourself better first, and yours will come sooner or later. Having said so much, I will still think more after a long time.
Now her parents will urge her to fall in love, and all the sisters around her are married and have children. Anyway, it is almost her own, so the pressure is coming again. At first, I often complained to me, but after a long time, my heart grew cold and I felt quite good alone.